Moral Dilemma-child, spouse or mother....

shadypines · July 2012

Saw this article re this topic. Also on Parenting Board....

You are in a boat with your child, your spouse and your mother. It capsizes and only you can swim. You can only save one. Who would it be? Why?

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Ximena M · July 2012

No question! Plus I know my husband and my mother wouldn't let me pick them over my baby!

Sclines2595 · July 2012

Im pretty sure my mother and husband would both kill me if I didn't save LO

outrunthemoon · July 2012

I assume your spouse should be able to put in as much effort as you to save themselves, as well as mother. But the child wouldn't be able to. Plus my spouse should be able to help with the mother. IMO

shadypines · July 2012

Sclines2595:
Im pretty sure my mother and husband would both kill me if I didn't save LO

Thats what I said....

Tambcat · July 2012

Child. There is no question. I actually have to side-eye anyone who wouldn't choose their child.

Musiclover2012 · July 2012

Tambcat:
Child. There is no question. I actually have to side-eye anyone who wouldn't choose their child.

This, who in their right mind would not say child? Indifferent

shouldbworkin · July 2012

softskate31:

I would save the baby. But hopefull this never is an issue in real life.

#1 - I only go boating with enough life vests (including one already ON my kids)

#2 - DH and Mom had opportunities to save themselves...if they can't swim, they are adults and should have been smart enough to wear a life vest.

I dread the day I would ever have to choose which of my children to save if I could only get to one...

This and this is why I'm afraid to go boating with just DH and 3 kids. Although, the big ones can swim well with life jackets on. But it still goes through my mind.

jessandandy09 · July 2012

actually, studies show that most women would always save their child and would save their child even if it means giving up their own life ( like childbirth situation) but most men given the same circumstances would save their wives. I am sure it would be hard to get an honest opinion out of men who just had a baby and who are being faced down by their spouse :-) this study was discussed in both my psych classes and sociology classes.

DragonflyBelle · July 2012

Who in the hell chose their spouse?!? Indifferent

erniebufflo · July 2012

What if you have two babies?

AshleyC0117 · July 2012

Tambcat:
Child. There is no question. I actually have to side-eye anyone who wouldn't choose their child.

Agreed. Me and my husband actually just had a convo about how we'd both save Violets life over each others lives. Very pleasant topic to chat about haha.

TucktheTurtle · July 2012

jessandandy09:
actually, studies show that most women would always save their child and would save their child even if it means giving up their own life ( like childbirth situation) but most men given the same circumstances would save their wives. I am sure it would be hard to get an honest opinion out of men who just had a baby and who are being faced down by their spouse :-) this study was discussed in both my psych classes and sociology classes.

You know, I could see my husband saving me over the baby, but not over our oldest. He's just not as attached to Sadie yet.

Tambcat · July 2012

DragonflyBelle:
Who in the hell chose their spouse?!?

Maybe there's a man on the board. lol

kissyfitt · July 2012

Tambcat:
Child. There is no question. I actually have to side-eye anyone who wouldn't choose their child.

THIS.

kissyfitt · July 2012

erniebufflo:
What if you have two babies?

They're little and you've got two arms.

TeamHayes · July 2012

if mom of h died they would have lived a full life -ds didnt get that chance yet to experience life so you would save him

kissyfitt · July 2012

DragonflyBelle:
Who in the hell chose their spouse?!?

Right?!?! I fail to understand how anyone would choose to let their baby drown.

shadypines · July 2012

found this website on the topic

https://intjforum.com/archive/index.php/t-7334.html

jenwet · July 2012

This isn't exactly the same, but similar enough that it's worth sharing. A friend of mine went to high school with this girl. Heartbreaking, but demonstrates just what any mom would do to save their child.

https://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/vault/article/magazine/MAG1195703/1/index.htm

dubs3 · July 2012

Hands down, LO....there is no way I would try to save anyone else. The PP about men more likely choosing their wives if they had to save someone: I believe it- before LO was born, DH and I fought about it- I told him that if it ever came down to it, to save my LO, no matter what. He had such a hard time agreeing to it, he said he didn't think he would be able to, and he would try and save me. Very luckily, that was a bridge we never had to cross!

ateal2490 · July 2012

Manneek1977:
found this website on the topic

https://intjforum.com/archive/index.php/t-7334.html

Omg. There are a lot of women saying they'd save their mother because they can have "more spouses and more children." Wtf

ateal2490 · July 2012

Well, I found this forum, and lost hope in mankind there for a moment.

https://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/save-your-wife-or-your-baby/490584/

AmandaR204 · July 2012

Not only would I sacrifice other loved ones for DS...I would probably kill for him too...I know dramatically intense.

AmandaR204 · July 2012

What would you do if your baby was safe on shore but your mother DH and another random baby were on the boat...then who would you save?

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