I was gone with DS for three weeks, and we have been home for four weeks now. DH and I have had sexy time 2-3 time within the first week of being home.. now nothing. He shows NO interest at all..anyone going throught it? I feel like if anything I turn him off
Re: I think I turn him off :/
It's sex. Not sexy time.
And it's not as good for me right now, which means it's not as great for him. So, yea, we're in a crappy spell right now, too.
Have you talked to him? Might be worth asking him if everything is ok? Did you not go through this with your last pregnancy?
me too.... my hubs feels awkward doing some "dirtier" positions while im pregnant -- and really, at this stage, not much else works... its totally normal for them to not want to get sexually involved because they covet us & our growing babies. i still get turned on so i just suggest he does other stuff to me & thats cool. usually leads to sex anyway im sure you dont turn him off, im totally imagining he is just looking out for you all.
You must be a ton-o-fun during "sex". Good grief...
This made me LOL
HaHa I know-right
My husband does not find pregnancy sexy. He thinks I'm beautiful, but pregnant belly does not equal a turn on for him.
I can't really blame him. Big belly = baby inside. Babies are not a turn on! Exact opposite.
For us doggie style or spooning is all that works. me on top is no longer an option because if he sees or feels my belly he immediately goes soft.
I'm not offended by it - I really can't blame him for not being turned on by pregnancy, ya know?
You should talk to him. I'm sure he is still attracted to you because he loves you. It could be something, just like these ladies are saying, like him being afraid to hurt you or hurt the baby. My husband and I try to stay pretty honest and open about this stuff. Ours has definately slowed down but I make sure that we communicate about it so we both agree and know why. Hang in there! He is lucky to have a wife that is so concerned and wants it to happen too. Maybe he just doesn't want you to feel added pressure of that on top of the wonderful pregnancy changes we ladies are going through. Talk to him, it will make you both feel better about it!
We have hit a dry spell, too. It is not fun. I am uncomfortable in most postions and sometimes I'm just not in the mood (and then when I am in the mood he is at work!) and so I think he just gave up because I would be complaining about being uncomfortable or syaing, "no, not like that!"... "Ouch, this is not fun"... I think I kinda killed the mood a few times but, man! It's hard every which way I try it - either my big belly is hanging in the wind and feels unsupported or I feel like I'm being squished...
On a brighter note I just started reading 50 Shades of Grey and its helping me to get mor mentally in the game - that makes a big difference for me
Good luck ladies!
we haven't had sex since I got pregnant. I'm 30 weeks. I am a bit annoyed, but I'm not too hard up either...I could easily do it and be into it, and just as easily not do it...
We had a previous miscarriage and had a lot of stress TTC this baby...my DH just got so stressed with the process and the frustrations and the disappointment..and this is his way of dealing with it -- he is scared something is going to happen to the baby..like an O will send me into early labour or something..it started in the first tri because I had to be on pelvic rest for a few weeks because of a SC bleed and that freaked him out even more.
I have had orgasms since with no problem on my own...no cramping, no weird feelings, so I mean I think its fine for us to have sex, I just don't want to push it because he is so excited about the baby and freaking out that something will happen..so I don't want to add to his stress..