Who will be at the hospital when LO arrives?

AnotherPreggo · June 2012

In the room it will definitely just be DH and I. All other family assume they are going to be at the hospital, but I just started to think about how I probably won't want to see any of them after all of that, as dealing with the whole family can be pretty stressful anyway. What are your plans?

Eveanyn · June 2012

In L&D it will be just me and DH. Depending on how quickly things progress, etc. I may have some people in the waiting room, but since they're not coming in until after we've all had time to bond, I will be suggesting to them to hang out and start traveling after DS is born. If they do that, they'll get to the hospital after we've had enough bonding time and then everyone can enjoy the experience.

Myreppboys · June 2012

It will just be DH and I only, he will make phone calls after we have moved out of L&D and settle into our room. Just want to have time to bond and make sure things go well.

tatercater · June 2012

Delivery room for sure will just be me, DH, and the doctors/nurses.

I'd imagine both sets of parents will want to be there for us in the waiting room, possibly my sister and best friend, too.

shlittertoots · June 2012

In the delivery room, just me and the DH. My family will be in the waiting room since they live in town, and I'm not sure if his family will be or not. Depends on how much notice they have to get here, or if they decide to delay their visit for a few weeks til we get settled (fingers crossed they'll wait a bit--I don't want houseguests when I get home).

irish city girl · June 2012

When DS was born my mom, dad, sister, MIL, FIL and DH all came to the hospital and hung out in our room for most of the day. My pastor and his wife (who are good family friends) also stopped by. That was WAY too many people. I even told DH when MIL and FIL came that I didn't want any more people there, but he has a hard time saying no to his parents so they joined the party.

This time, my in-laws will be with DS and my parents live 5 hours away so it may just be DH and I. I am okay with my immediate family and DH being there before pushing, but don't want anyone else. I kind of don't even want my family there because my mom walked in to "check on me" while I was pushing and when my nephew was born 3 months ago, she walked in on my sister pushing twice. She just gets too excited. But it may not be something I have to worry about this time.

Pushing will be just DH and I (and probably/maybe my mom poking her head in).

ChrisG83 · June 2012

Just me and DH, all family is out of town except for my sister. She will come by later or maybe just when we get home.

Rachelilly23 · June 2012

Just DH and me for the whole hospital stay. We live 700 miles from our families. My cousin who lives about 4 hours away might be watching DS while I'm in labor, so she might come visit too, but it depends how things go and if she can get here depending on timing. Otherwise, DS will stay with Navy friends. DH will bring him to meet his brother too, of course. My parents will come within a couple weeks of the birth. All other family won't see the baby until Thanksgiving (DH's family) and Christmas (my family.)

blp0118 · June 2012

I'm going to see how things are going and how I feel ---DH for sure.... My whole family is 3 hours away.... I will probably tell my sisters and mom right away and they will head towards me - I have 7 nieces/nephews and all sisters were there for the births, so I would like to keep that tradition going.... This is my 1st, so I jsut don't know how i'm going to feel once I go into labor, but I'm about 98% sure I'm going to want my sisters there!

ktbee33 · June 2012

I only want my husband and my mom there for delivery (my mom and I are insanely close, but I totally understand why most people opt to have just their husbands). I know my in laws and close friends are going to want to be there, but for the first day (of course depending on when I go in) I just want it to be me and my husband and then our families. For me I feel like it is important that the family gets to meet our son first and then the friends and extended family can come meet him.

Good luck with making your decision!

daronsmommy · June 2012

In L&D will be DH and my sister. With DS, my MIL, FIL, Dad, stepmom, Mom, aunt, and sister were all in the waiting room. My BFF was in L&D with me last time. This time BFF will have DS until my mom gets there, but probably all the same people will be waiting.

CnAnA · June 2012

In delivery room, just me dh and docs. Family is welcome to hang out in the waiting room and in my labor room at the beginning. Once things get intense, back out to the waiting room they go.

GigglyWiggly · June 2012

In L&D, it will be just my DH. I'm sure the in-laws and my dad & stepmom will be in the waiting room. My mother & her husband will probably show up - however if my mother smells of alcohol in the slightest (major battle with her right now), she will be escorted off the premises and everyone has been made aware of this. Our hospital is an hour away from our hometown and other family members/friends may make the journey on the 2nd day. For my family, this will most likely be their only grandchild (and my stepmom could never have children of her own), so I'd like for them to be involved as much as they want to.

kyla_bell · June 2012

I would prefer for people to wait until we are done and settled before they come to the hospital, but that is not going to happen. We stayed over 6 hours for my SIL's scheduled c-section... I would have rather stayed home and got shtuff done and come later. But H's family thinks it is super important to be there while it's happening (not like they can do anything). My family will wait until I'm ready to have guests, they are awesome like that.

AnotherPreggo · June 2012

LauraT25:
In the room, just my husband. If his parents' flight gets there in time, they will be in the waiting room I suppose, and if they are there, my mom and my sister will be invited too. My preference is to have no one there but he wants his parents there, and I feel like I can't exclude my family then!

This is how I feel too. I didn't know if I was just being a moody pregnant lady though :-)

MCookie816 · June 2012

I am having a RCS. MH will be in the OR and my almost 17 yo will be waiting for us in recovery. I don't want any other visitors until my catheter comes out and I can take a shower the next day, this will give us plent of time to bond with LO.

beege17 · June 2012

Defnitely just DH and I in the room. then our families can come later, neither of us have large families so Im hoping that will benefit us when it comes to visitors. I definitely dont want to be overwhelmed.

ErickaJesicka · June 2012

As of now it will just be my husband and I during delivery. I may allow some family in during labor and kick them out when its time to push. One of my aunts is really hoping I let her stay during delivery but since its our first I really want to enjoy our first moments as a family with just us. But since this is the first grandchild for both sides I know the hospital will be a circus with our families there. But I dont think I will mind at all. I love having family around and I know everyone is anxiously awaiting LO's arrival.

AMT1107 · June 2012

Just me and DH - at this point in time I don't want anyone to visit at the hospital. They can all wait until we are settled at home, this is a big event for me and DH and we want to enjoy the first few days of just us as a family before everyone sees the baby. There is plenty of time after we leave the hospital for family to stop over.

orgnlmama · June 2012

With DD, DH, my mom and my dad were in the room. When I said that back in 2008 a lot of Bumpies were fairly judgemental about my dad being in the room. I wouldn't be concerned about anyone looking at my vajayjay inappropriately during child birth, but especially not my father. With that being said, he hung back during the pushing to the side of the room and took the most AMAZING photos of my first moments with DD. Pictures I would have paid a million dollars to have. My mom was acting as my doula, and my husband looked halfway like a scared little boy who just held my hand. DD was born at 7:50. My aunt and one cousin came to the hospital about 10 at night to bring DH food and just look at DD (luckily they didn't ask to hold her. I did let my mom and dad hold her for a minute or two before they left.) By the time I was settled into a room it was 11 at night so we didn't have to worry about visitors till the next day.

This time may be different. My dad is working out of state and isn't home Monday to Thursday. I know he will leave as soon as I go into labor, but we are counting on him to take care of DD. My DH and mom will be there again. And possibly my cousin, with whom I am very close.

mbmkbaby · June 2012

Well I'm rocking the single mom boat!! So my best friend Laura is my "birthing partner" , unfortunately she missed my "comfort strategies class" but she's already got the time off for all my birthing classes. She makes me smile and laugh so she's going to be by the head singing salt and peppers "push it" and helping me stay positive! My aunt is a PICU nurse at the hospital I'm delivering in so she'll be there too, everyone else can take up some space in the waiting room, at least while I'm pushing anyways!!!

elfchique · June 2012

Me and DH. I want everyone to chill at home and wait for us to get acquainted. We'll call you when we're ready for you.

pb_bride · June 2012

I haven't discussed this with DH yet, but I'm 99.9% sure it'll be just DH & me the whole time.

My parents are a 4-hr plane ride away and they already said they aren't coming for the birth or post-partum period. My ILs are a 3-hr drive away and I don't really want them to be here when I deliver. SIL is 20 mins away by car but she doesn't have a car; we may invite her to come to the hospital the day after if she desires, but we won't push her to do so.

As for friends, I don't think I'm too keen on having them visit so soon after the birth.

nealbl · June 2012

With DD my parents were there IL's, my grandparents and BFF. Just DH and me in the room but everyone else in waiting room.

I totally loved having everyone there.

This time though since I know it will be a RCS I am requesting everyone wait till we get settled in our room and then LO will be the first one allowed in by herself. For like 5 min and then I don't care who comes and goes

Neary2011 · June 2012

It will be me, my Husband, Little Pumpkins Godmother and my mother if I need a little more support. The rest of my sisters and family will have to be in the waiting room.

mmeans1224 · June 2012

In the actual delivery room it's going to be me, DH, my mom and my MIL. We're all really close and when we told them they were going to be allowed in the room they both started crying. Everyone else will be in the waiting room. We come from very small families so that will just be my dad, my FIL, my BIL and his fiancee. Any other family will probably come later on. My brother and his wife live in Colorado but are hoping to catch a flight as soon as they hear that LO is on her way!

Cantw82bamom · June 2012

My mom, older sister, and husband will be in delivery with me....Everyone else in the waiting room! I need my momma!! And plus if my husband passes out (a real possibility) I need someone to take his place lol!!!! I love my family!

mrsmklynch · June 2012

We will be having another scheduled c-section so I think we're just going to assign visiting times. Last time we had about an hour to ourselves before people started showing up and that worked out pretty nicely. When my son was born, people were already there in the room waiting while I was in recovery and by the time I got back up to the room everyone was already holding him. It was heartbreaking and infuriating and I swore I wouldn't let it happen again. I may not be able to be the first one to hold my child, but I'm sure as hell not going to be the last. Make sure people give you time to bond before they come piling into your room.

Cooper81 · June 2012

With DS it was just DH and I in the room, I ended up with a c/s so it was just DH, but he would have been the only one there for the delivery anyways. My parents, my IL's and my sister were waiting in the waiting area, I really don't know how long though. I also don't remember how long we were in recovery, or how long after he was delivered they came in, it's all kind of a blur. I'm very close to my parents, IL's and my sister so I was comfortable looking like sh!t around them. This time I'm not sure what we'll do since someone will have DS. DH's 2 brothers that he is very close to never came to visit us in the hospital, I didn't really think about it at the time, but he told me afterwards it really hurt him.

SaphrineDragon · June 2012

Since I'm doing this as a Single mom I am going to have my mother in the room with me for sure during the whole thing as she is my coach for my desired nonmedicated all natural birth (she did it 4 times and doesn't regret it at all so I figure she is the best one to have there). My step dad and uncle will be allowed to be at the hospital as well as my dad and step mom. I am considering allowing my 16 year old sister to witness the birth, I am hoping her being in the room will be an educational experience for her.

I've already made arrangements with all allowed in the hospital at time of birth that they are not to facebook anything or announce anything until I have had the chance to bond with my baby. The desk will have a list of people who are allowed to visit whenever (the people present at birth) and everyone else can wait till the next day. Yes they will be turned away!

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