I am currently living in a different state with my son while he is undergoing cancer treatment. So, although my husband visits as often as he can, it's just me and my 14 month old in our temporary household.
My son has never been a good sleeper. He currently wakes 4 to 6 times a night and, each time, cannot go back to sleep without being rocked - sometimes for an hour. I am exhausted (and in my first trimester). One night at 2 am I couldn't take it anymore and just left him in his crib to cry himself to sleep. Except that he didn't. After 3 hours, he was still crying and standing up. Previous attempts at crying it out have gone the same way.
Aspergers runs in my extended family, and in my immediate family. I am starting to wonder if my son might have something that is making it difficult for him to self soothe. I have read the FAQs and the other behaviors he has that I have noticed are:
-shakes his head no frequently while playing, walking
-doesn't necessarily fixate on one part of a toy, but doesn't play with them as they are intended. For example, we have a ball drop toy and he will play with the balls, but never roll them down the ramp. he will never imitate the things I do with his toys.
- when he hears an airplane, he stops everything to try and locate it. The other kids around him don't even hear the airplane
-shrieks when he sees familiar things that he likes, like a picture on the wall or a certain flowerpot.
-he only has one word and mostly communicates by shrieking. He doesn't point at things, but will look if I point at something. He does make eye contact, but doesn't always answer to his name.
I can't make an appointment for an evaluation until we return home in a few months. What are your thoughts: is it possible there is some developmental issue impeding his ability to self soothe? Or, is my lack of sleep making me dream up issues? Dealing with cancer is hard enough; I'm afraid to think that there may be more rocky times ahead.