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Irritated with BM

CurlyQ284CurlyQ284 member
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We live long distance so I only see BM briefly at exchanges.  She told them we wouldnt have as much fun this summer like we normally do because Im pregnant and once the baby is here we will have less time to spend with them.  Well we are at Disney right now, DH is taking them on space mountain while Im typing this so much for her theory on no fun this summer and it being my fault.  Im just annoyed, Ive been with DH for 8 years, its not like I just met the kids.  I care about them, I HAVE cared about them for a long time and we will MAKE time once the baby is here.  Meanwhile, she doesnt go to SD1s school concerts because she did SDs hair for the first one and SD didint like it and they fought so she wont go to any more because she "doesnt want any trouble".  Their grandmother takes her and BM bribed SD2 to stay home with her.  How can this woman make any presumptions about how terrible I will be now that Im going to be a 'real' mom? I know I should just get over it but these comments really get under my skin.
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  • hopankahopanka member

    Water under the bridge.

    She's spitting venom because of your happinness, don't even give it one thought. The girls are obviously having fun, BM's theory is not proving true - so why worry about what she says.

    Now, the recital thing is pure crap. That's bad parenting - she's punishing her daughter for life becase one event went badly? and she's using her other daughter as a partner in crime. What an idiot. She has real issues...

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    I know, Im trying to forget about it but also I guess its a good thing because if im pissed Ill try harder to prove her wrong.  I dont know wth is going on with the recital thing.  She seems to have completely changed once she started dating.  I think its complete BS that she doesnt go.  DH is going to try job searching up there again once LO is born.  The concert thing lit a fire lol
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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member

    Sounds like BM is bitter and jealous that you have made the kids a priority already and she's just trying to gain some leverage.  All you can really do is laugh.  I know the comments hurt (trust me, I know they hurt) but keep trying to remind yourself that they aren't being made based on your actions, but on someone else's unhappiness.  The kids know you care about them, and this trip is showing them that even in your pregnant, uncomfortable state you are making an effort for them to have fun. 

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  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member

    imagewendilea:
    The kids know the truth - that you care about them and they have fun with you and DH, so BM can blow it out her @ss.

    I agree with Wendi. She's just being bitter right now.

    DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    imagetifanico:

    Maybe she just thought that once you have the baby, you will not be able to do the same things your do right now?  Because, lets be honest, with a newborn and two sleep deprived parents, I don't think things will be the same for a while. 

    ^^ While this is true (we've all dealt with a cranky newborn, it's hardly fun), I still don't think BM should have said anything to the kiddos.  As parents we should always try to play up the positives.  Maybe her intentions weren't malicious and she was just trying to "prepare" them for the changes when the baby comes, but I think pointing out negatives is counterproductive to helping kids deal with changes.  Hopefully going forward BM can focus on the exciting part of the new baby.

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