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PatsyGK21
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need help with wording.
PatsyGK21
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Throwing a shower for a close family friend, she does not want any gifts to be given to her (I told her, its not a shower then if she isnt being showered in anything, but she keeps calling it that, so whatever) she instead wants people to donate to Susan G Komen For The Cure. I think it's a wonderful and thoughtful idea, I just don't know how to word this on the invite w/o sounding like money beggers, or like it is a charity event and not a shower. I suggested to her that maybe we write "in lieu of a wishing well" that way people who knew they were going to give a wishing well gift could just donate, but she doesnt want that, shewants all gifts to be given in the form of a donation. HELP. I dont know what to write, or how to write it, or if I should just take charge and do it the way I want and put the wishing well thing. After all, I am throwing it, can't I make the rules?
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Re: need help with wording.
A lot of people may be put off by that. People WANT to buy baby stuff. Plus you can't dictate what people gives as gifts.
Aside from that, a lot of people have a big problem with the Susan G. Komen Foundation because of the whole Planned Parenthood kerfunkle and other issues with how the organization is run.
This. Personally, I wouldn't give money to Komen. The whole thing sort of puts you in an awkward spot - can I still come if I don't want to donate?
She has put you in a difficult position - several difficult positions, actually.
Truthfully, I'd have to consider withdrawing the offer to host. I can't even think of what I'd do as a guest - either donate to a different breast cancer charity that hadn't offended me, or simply show up with a baby gift.
While I think there are certain circumstances and events where donations can be requested instead of gifts - birthdays, funerals - instead of flowers; etc... My parents even did this for their 50th anniversary (we said something about your presence being gift enough, but if they wanted to do something more they could donate to 1 of 3 suggested charities).
I just don't think that showers are the appropriate time or place to do that. Showers are (bridal and baby) about giving gifts. As pp's have said, people like buying cute baby stuff and want to give it. I just don't think your friend can request that. She should just have a meet the baby party after the baby is born if she doesn't want gifts.
I don't think this is a good idea either, but the only other option I can see is telling people that she wants to donate any baby items she receives to a single mother's group or a women's shelter or somewhere that people need baby items. Something that is baby related, not Susan G. Although, again, if people are taking the time to go out and buy a gift they want to give it to your friend and her baby, not necessarily spend money on a charitable donation.
This.
Sure, in theory she has good intentions but this isn't an appropriate event to ask for donations and a shower *is* for gifts.
Yup, THIS.
This is an awkward situation for you. That sucks. But a lot of peole don't like that charity, and then their d!cks are left swinging in the wind if they want to come but don't want to donate.
Thanks ladies, I will bring this stuff to her attention. I honestly dont think she knew about the SGK controversy, but it could very well change her mind.