Hello all-
My SO is considering joining the military and I have about a million and a half questions. I feel overwhelmed by all the things we need to know. He hasn't even looked into what branch he would be interested in yet. So I essentially need the most basic overall information on joining.
We have a four-month-old and are not married, would it be best to just get married? Are different branches easier to get into/more child friendly/less likely that he will have to leave?
I'm really sorry if these are stupid questions. If you all find it annoying to answer these types of things, could you point me in the right direction to get some answers?
Re: Newbie
There's an FAQ page at the top of this board. It was thoughtfully prepared with the help of several military members and dependents and answers most of the basic questions.
As for getting married, it's absolutely possible to stay unmarried, but in all honesty, it's easier to be married. The military will not pay for you to move with your SO and junior enlisted members are often required to live in the barracks. You and your daughter will not be able to live with him in that case. He can apply for an exemption to live off-base, but they are not always granted.
Your DD will get health coverage and benefits as his dependent. You will not.
The situation gets more complicated depending on where he ends up stationed.
Read through the FAQs and please feel free to come back with any specific questions.
There is a button in my siggy that will link you to the FAQ page. There is a ton of info there. You should also read through old posts here and on the Nest Military Nesties page. It will give you a little insight into military life.
Encourage your SO to visit all recruiters. I was convinced the Air Force was right for me until I talked to the Army recruiters. That just felt like home. Go with him and ask questions. Come back here when you have specific questions.
Some people will tell you that the Air Force is more family friendly. It's honestly a load of crap. It really changes from unit to unit and job to job through out all the branches.
Agreed with the PP about the FAQ at the top or in PP's siggy. Personally, I think it's just easier and you get more from the military if you're married. They'll pay to move you, living on base with your whole family requires marriage or off base - if he can get it approved. It's just simpler in the end.
As for what branch, have him go to ALL recruiters! My DH is Navy and I absolutely adore being a Navy Wife in sunny San Diego. We don't live on base and we're both extremely far from our old family and friends but we've made our own family and group of friends here that we wouldn't give up for the world. It all depends on you guys!