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November 2012 Moms
LuckyMissus
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**FFFC**
LuckyMissus
member
Hello, Hello!!
So, what sort of shenanigans have you all been up to?
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
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Re: **FFFC**
I totally outed my SIL, setting off a family dispute. And I feel 0% guilty about it.
My FIL has retired to a resort town about two hours away. He had knee surgery a few weeks ago and still needs some help with grocery shopping, laundry, etc. Anyway, poor DH has been running out there constantly to help him and SIL has done quite literally next to nothing to help out this whole time. Typical.
It would be a serious pain for us to get out there to help him this weekend. DH asked SIL earlier this week if she could go help and she rattled off a list of (fun, social) plans she had for the weekend and said she couldn't go. Typical.
Knowing that SIL loves to go out there to party on weekends in the Summer, I took it upon myself to stalk her on FB and discovered that she had rsvp'd to two different events out there this weekend, and was talking about staying at a friend's place. So, I showed all of this to DH, who doesn't have FB. He called and had it out with her, and now she's going to take a break from her busy social calendar to be a participatory member of the family.
I'm just fed up with her behaving like a 30 year-old teenager.
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
I've been limiting my conversations with my mother. Apparently this made her think I was depressed and she called to advise me that I needed to go to the doctor right away to get on medication before I "hurt" myself. Not sure where that even came from except that her general answer for any type of emotion is to self medicate.
I told her I am not depressed. I feel fine, but I am having real concerned about our relationship and I do not know how to approach them right now without stressing me out. To which she jumped to a bunch of conclusions about why I am concerned, and did not listen when I told her the problem was that she does not LISTEN to me or respect me and DH's boundaries and rules. Her answer to this was, well if you want me out of your life just say so *boo hoo*.
I actually started to laugh at her. I just couldn't help it. I laughed and I couldn't stop. Because instead of listening she wanted to guilt me. After I stopped she said she would be willing to listen when I'm ready to talk about it. But we have done that song and dance for so long I'm just thinking of giving up. And that makes me feel like a bad person, because being pregnant has made me reconsider having her as part of my life.
I just don't think I can take her self medicating, guilt trips, trying to tell me how to raise my child when she dumped me off on my grandparents/foster care, and her insisting that since she is the grandmother she can do what she wants.
And I pray every day, I am a much better mother.
Sorry you had to out your SIL, but hopefully her helping with make it a little easier on you and your husband and your FIL.
V|V TSP V|V
I'm sorry you are dealing with this - I have mother issues too
and I give you credit for even trying to discuss the issues with her. My mother would just cause a big fight if I tried to tell her why we aren't "best friends." Mine is overbearing and selfish and I cannot take it anymore. She has to know EVERYTHING that is going on in my life (and my brother's family) or she gets upset about it. I've decided that while on maternity leave, if I do anything with the baby, I'm not telling her until afterwards because she's going to want to be there for everything. Also, when she comes to visit the baby (after a phone call - no drop-by visiting allowed), I am going to leave and run errands or take a shower and a nap. I can't handle MORE mom time than I already have.
FLAMMMMMMEEEEEEEESSSS!!!! FLAMES OF DEATH!!!!! J/K, I loves me some snark!
Mine is that when I travel for work, my per diem sucks ($20 for dinner which has to include tax and tip), so I turn into a crappy tipper so I can eat more. I waited tables forever prior to getting a good job, so I'm ashamed of myself. I usually try to remember to bring some cash to tip out of pocket, but sometimes I forget.
I don't tip at Sonic and my mother says I'm a heathen for it.
I really feel bad for some ladies that are missing out on the whole TB culture and friendships.
Maybe I have been here too long or made too many real friendships from my time on here. I like that it is a bit more real life than other sites. I like the fun, I like the hugs, I like the friendships, and I like the snark.
This sounds P&R from me. But really, this place is great. I think that some are missing out by using it as a Q&A place.
BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework
BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower
BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12 Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012
BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!
Wait, tipping at Sonic? Is that a thing?
All I've done all week at work is look at ways to decorate the nusery and bump.
I guess. I always use my card and never tip. Apparently you're supposed to? Or so my mom says. The only way to determine this is with a clicky poll!
Sorry about your mom, good for you for standing up for yourself!
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
I *almost* feel the need to create one.
I think AEs just to call someone out are kind of lame, I would rather see someone do it under their own name.
Although some AEs are funny.
ObviousAEisObvious is one of my favorite AEs of all times. She did some funny stuff but was also serious. Hard to explain, but she was neat.
It would be fun to have some funny ones, but I think it would almost be expected now.
BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework
BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower
BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12 Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012
BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!
This just started a huge discussion on tipping at my office.
Also, new confession. I totally have a Bump Crush on a bunch of the girls on here. I hate being so late to the game because I want to be friends! I feel like the weird kid running around at lunch asking if everyone is hanging out without me.
Word.
Woohoo! Same! I came in later I think, I suck at participating. I try but I just sound awkward, DH won't allow me to talk in social situations
I want friends! Hahah
I have so many ladies on my FB page from my wedding month board over on TK, and have a great association with my other BMB... Im a bit sad that I don't feel the same way about this board. Snark is just part of it. We had ups, we had downs, we fight, we've had snark, we argue, we've cried for other board members losses/issues/struggles.... We had B&M Mondays, HDBD, UO Thursday, FFFC Friday and we ALL participated. We had gift exchanges, and set up/donated memorials for certain members. Im PROUD to be a part of my other BMB, and im not even a super active member anymore. But throughout everything, in the end its brought us all closer together, and I know I can go back if I ever need advice.
I feel that I am not going to get the same thing out of Nov '12 board, and its sad. Its really a great thing to have. Overall, I find the Nov '12 (with some exceptions of course
) to be too bland. Too P&R. Too...fake.
I find myself lurking more and more on other boards to participate in daily activities, and to get advice.
::shrugs shoulders:: Sucks, but what can ya do
Big sister meeting little brother for the first time-
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Awwwww, tender moments. Anyone can totally PM me to find me on the Book of Face. Especially anyone in the NY/NJ/CT type area. I have no mom friends, and it's really weird to go to a bar with a bump. I may have literally had my lifetime quota of Shirley Temples. Sad face.
I lurk on the Parenting board purely for the snark!
Maybe my problem might be that I still view most of the board as strangers and not friends. I think we would all agree that IRL when speaking with strangers, you exercise a bit more caution than with a close friend. The friendships here are obvious on other boards, but I don't feel that with our board either. I'll call out a friend if I don't agree with them, but I would rarely call out a stranger. I will say since calling out MandJS over a reveal party comment, I feel like I understand her better and when I stepped back, I think we actually have a lot of common views on things. idk. But I do also agree that our board is not particularly close.
I found out last week that my older sister is KU. She is due in February. She says she is pissed about it, because it wasn't planned (she is married and has 4yo twins from another guy). She claims she takes her BC religiously, which I know is a lie. She has never taken it religiously....
She is pissed? I AM PISSED! She always seems to be able to take over the center of attention....
Maybe. I just don't see a lot of stuff that's truly "flame worthy" posted on our board. I know I don't post a lot of really personal things because I don't feel close to a lot of people and am not the "air your dirty laundry to everyone" type.
Yes, I do realize that. Seeing how I see pregnant people all over and there are 7 of us at work that are pregnant, I get that I'm not the only one. Thanks for pointing that out.
I guess it's not that she's pregnant necessarily, but that she's telling everyone "I am so mad, I was on BC religiously!" so that everyone is like "awww, poor you." I don't feel bad for her in the least. Also, my cousin just had a baby last month, my other cousin is due in October, and I am due in November. I can't help but think she was feeling a little left out.... Oh well. It bothers me. It's FFFC, so that's all I got this week.
ETA: My bad, meant to quote MandJS
YOUR OPINIONS ARE CRAP! RAWWWR!
Hmm... on second thought, I don't think that will help us bond. I like snark too, I just haven't found much juicy stuff lately. Soon enough...
Haha, I get it! DH and I really wanted a girl, and the more girl announcements there were, I just kept thinking "There is no way that there will be that many girls on this board." Turns out I was wrong. I got my girl! I hope you get your boy.
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
I actually DO have personal experience with this. DH and I were TTC for 2 and a half years and had 2 m/c within that time. I don't think there is a problem with preferring one sex. When I picture myself as a mother (even before I got KU), I was always the mother to a little girl. That being said, I wouldn't be upset or mad if I found out I was having a boy. I'd just have to change that image. At this point, I'd be happy for any healthy baby, but I don't think it's wrong to have a preference.
I confess that when I am on this board, albeit not super often due to work, I bite my tongue frequently as there appears to be such Brady bunch vibe, and a wanted one at that, which is not super comfortable to me.
I also confess that I have worn flip flops to work every day this week with no shame. My legs are hairy, my nails are in desperate need of a pedicure and I don't care. The sausages that were once my feet are on strike from my normal shoes. The side eyes from people in the elevator... keep it up bishes, clearly you are still under the impression I have just suddenly gained weight, just wait till I'm clearly showing and take the heels out of my bag and beat you with them.
A big "me too" on this, M. I HAVE been through a lot to stay pregnant and I just want to claw my eyes out every time I read about someone's disappointment.
Mine is that I hate how 90% of posts include "TMI". You're pregnant and weird stuff is going on all over your body. I think there's no such thing as TMI when you're on a pregnancy site discussing pregnancy and the fact that people feel like they need to preface their comments as TMI irks me.
I want in on the crush fest. IM, you sound fun.
How are you just now finding TB?
BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework
BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower
BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12 Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012
BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!
You're not a bad person at all. If you were, you wouldn't care one way or the other about your ralationship with your mom; and I'm sure you'll be a great mom yourself. I pray everything works out for you guys.
I agree with this. Children are a blessing no matter what sex they are.
I'm not going to lie I did want my first child to be a son so that if I had a girl in the future he could watch out for her, since I had no one to watch out for me. I just want better for my girl. I'm very happy to have this baby girl and I didn't cry over it or anything, I'm just happy that I was lucky enough to have a healthy baby.
So maybe I'm being hypocritical, but it still does bother me to see people dissapointed over the sex of their child, even though I wanted a son first.
Yeah i'm the same way. We didn't have a preference with my first, but i was so convinced it was a boy, so there's mother's intuition for you. But this is partly one reason why I enjoy NOT finding out. When you don't know what you're having, in the moment the baby is born, you'd have to have a heart of stone not to be able to hold your baby, boy or girl, and feel nothing but joy and love. Feelings of disappointment rarely make their appearance then. But they seem to run rampant when people find out at 20 weeks and "need time" to get used to the idea.
I will never forget the day a coworker told me she found out she was having a boy. She literally pouted and said, "it's a boy. . . . " in the most obviously disappointed voice possible. Oddly enough, her name was trista, which is basically spanish for "sad."
Last Friday afternoon I was so tired at work that instead of reaching up to a shelf to grab a Post-It note to jot down a note I just wrote it on my desk in pencil. I of course erased it, but for shame.
*hangs head*
HAHA!! YES!! This totally made me smile. Also, I started the flip flop trend at my office. And I started it before I was PG. I did it last year with my "fancy" flip flops, and asked my boss who said as long as the "big guy in charge" doesn't say anything then I can do it. And how do I define "fancy" flip flops? They are the ones with the flowers on them, or my ones with beads. You know, the ones with flare
Now all the admin staff wears them. I'm such a trend setter! lol
and my FFFC, I love our board, and I love how tame it is. We have such a fun mix of personalities here. I wouldn't change a thing