January 2013 Moms

Anyone NOT going to share on FB?

The only news I shared on FB about my pregnancy with Ds was his birth announcement. I just don't like talking about my pregnancy unless I'm good friends with them... Plus, it would open even more doors to people leaving comments or "advice" that I'm just not interested in hearing/reading, kwim?
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Re: Anyone NOT going to share on FB?

  • Reyka9Reyka9 member
    In my experience, people wouldn't offer comments or advice unless I was actively posting about my pregnancy.  So I think it's fine to make a general announcement (all you'll get is "congrats!!" or "when are you due?" type comments).  If you continue to update on your pregnancy's progression, people will be more open with their comments.
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  • I will most likely not be sharing on FB.  I didn't with my last pregnancy and was very glad since we lost our son at 19 weeks.  I will probably only post a birth announcement.  I guess only time will tell if I let anything slip.

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  • lol This is our first and I thought about all this AFTER I posted it. I may regret it later, but I was pretty stoked when I did post it (after 12 wk app). I also keep my FB below 100 friends, most of the people on there are family and already knew. I could see def not wanting to if you had absolutely everyone on your FB.

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  • I've been thinking about this lately too. I will probably NOT share on FB. Maybe after the baby is born, but then again, maybe not! I am not a huge FB fan, I just have it to have it and feel that people post way too much information there. I would much rather talk to someone and share the exciting news! That said, i'm pretty sure both our parents will post it on their respective FB pages.
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    I plan to post it on FB but just to announce the pregnancy. I don't plan on posting updates through out though. I also keep my friends list under 50 people so most of the people who would feel the need to give advice would just do it in person :P 
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  • This is my first and everyone I tell is so super excited and wants me to post in on FB so that they don't have to keep it secret from the rest of my friends that I haven't told yet. However, I really don't think I will post anything until I am around 25 weeks or so. Maybe even later.
  • I can totally see posting it if you are really selective about your friends! Good point.
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  • I am undecided. We put an announcement on with DS but I feel a lot different about this pregnancy. Almost a little more private. I have a few FB friends that randomly put some sort of ticker announcement or something that says, 'so and so is 24 weeks along..." I kind of like that. A late announcement and doesn't really invite that much response.
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  • I'm not going to write an announcement post, but if it comes out on it's own, which I'm sure it will, whatever.
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    I feel the same as you. Im sure pictures will give it away after a while but my thinking is if someone is going to actually talk to me during the next 6 months I'll tell them. otherwise Im not going out of my way to let them know.

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  • So many of our friends and family live so far away that we will announce the pregnancy and birth on FB - although, we have told all close friends and family already in person or on the phone - but I won't be posting updates/ultrasounds.  I will probably use FB to send u/s pictures via private message but I definitely don't want every body to know all of my symptoms, anxieties, etc.
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  • We can't decide.  If we do it won't be until well after 20 weeks.  Maybe start of 3rd tri?  I don't know . . . I really really really don't want to go through a loss with everyone on FB.  Even with a friends list of people who I really and truly know, there are coworkers, high school class mates, etc.  Definitely not people I'm close to personally.  We may not tell at all . . . 
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  • DH really wants to "post it" as soon as we tell our friends this weekend (after 12 week appointment). I really don't want to, I think I will let him after our 20 week anatomy scan but as a precaution, I personally have taken the approach of "if we don't want to tell them we lost it, we're not telling them we have it".
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  • My dh really wants to tell ppl on fb. And even though we have separate pages I really don't want him to. I said if at one point we post a pregnancy picture fine but I don't want annofficial fb annocement 
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  • I announced our pg with Henry after the 1st tri and will do that again. My ILs are all far flung etc so it was nice to have some small updates there including some belly pics. Plus I definitely mentioned my heartburn a few times lol. Im a fairly active FBer though and put a lot up about my son too - again, lots of far flung relatives and I do not have the time or energy to send them photos etc separately.

     

    Definitely would not share until at least the end of the first tri though. 





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  • sekurasekura member
    I will probably do an announcement, but it will be more a "triumph over IF" announcement than a "look at me!  I'm pregnant!" announcement.  I know there are other people out there who struggle with IF the way we did, but are silent about it, and I like to share information about our struggle to raise awareness.

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  • imageChappy_jr:
    So many of our friends and family live so far away that we will announce the pregnancy and birth on FB - although, we have told all close friends and family already in person or on the phone - but I won't be posting updates/ultrasounds.  I will probably use FB to send u/s pictures via private message but I definitely don't want every body to know all of my symptoms, anxieties, etc.

    This is us too. Which is why we chose to share with the FB world. We'll post u/s pictures and stuff, I probably will not do any bump pictures though. I'm sure as I grow a regular picture will be posted. We just sort of found it's a great way to keep in touch with friends/family we don't get to see but maybe once or twice a year. I definitely won't be posting symptoms/cravings/ deciding on names etc via facebook. That's too much for my taste..

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  • imageweddinginND:
    I can totally see posting it if you are really selective about your friends! Good point.

    This. I've got random friends from HS and college that I don't really keep in contact with. Plus, tons of over opinionated family members who like to think they know everything :)  

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  • imageJennV514:
    I'm not going to write an announcement post, but if it comes out on it's own, which I'm sure it will, whatever.

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  • imageLaurelBee:
    The only news I shared on FB about my pregnancy with Ds was his birth announcement. I just don't like talking about my pregnancy unless I'm good friends with them... Plus, it would open even more doors to people leaving comments or "advice" that I'm just not interested in hearing/reading, kwim?

    Thats exactly what I did last time, and what I will be doing this time also. 

  • Me! I won't be posting anything until after little one arrives (& I unfriend a bunch of people)

     ETA I have a blog that my friends & family have the link to so they can see my hump day bump day & weekly update posts. This makes posting anything on FB about the pregnancy pretty unnecessary IMO. 

  • imageMom2anAngel2:
    I will most likely not be sharing on FB.  I didn't with my last pregnancy and was very glad since we lost our son at 19 weeks.  I will probably only post a birth announcement.  I guess only time will tell if I let anything slip.

    I waited until about 15 or 16 weeks to announce last time but I also lost my little one. I think I will share a birth announcement, but that's it. 

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  • I'm on FB all the time but will not be putting anything on there about this or any other pregnancies. If I do put pics of baby it will be in a private album for select people only.  We do have a blog and will post there, only our really close friends and family check it.
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  • I plan on making a pregnancy announcement with a photo. However, I won't post many, if any, updates throughout the pregnancy. We'll make another post once he/she arrives.

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    imageJennV514:
    I'm not going to write an announcement post, but if it comes out on it's own, which I'm sure it will, whatever.

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    I agree! I don't want to post it because I do not want the comments and attention. Plus, you never know who on your friend list may have just experienced a loss. But I won't hide it if someone posts a picture where I am showing or something like that.

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  • I'm going to because it will be easier than to call all my extended family. But I've been doing major friends list cleaning out. 

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  • Once all of my close friends and family know, I will probably post that we are pregnant on facebook, just so that people know and dont just wonder (I always hate that). Other than that I doubt I will be posting much about Baby O.
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  • I don't post anything on FB. I don't need random people knowing my business. If I have something I want to tell people, I message them privately or just email the regular way. 
  • I'm not a big facebook poster.  I occasionally post pictures but never status updates.

    I might just upload a picture of me & DH once I'm further along.  People will know mostly through word of mouth.

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  • We have already shared it on FB because we both live so far away from all of ur friends and family members. It just makes sense for us. Plus, my husband is the worst at keeping secrets when it comes to good news - haha.  

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  • imageReyka9:
    In my experience, people wouldn't offer comments or advice unless I was actively posting about my pregnancy.  So I think it's fine to make a general announcement (all you'll get is "congrats!!" or "when are you due?" type comments).  If you continue to update on your pregnancy's progression, people will be more open with their comments.

    I agree with this. Last time I posted an announcement around 13 weeks and got about a million "congrats!" "When are you due?" and "You guys will be the best parents ever!" I didn't post other pregnancy-related updates until DS was born and didn't get uninvited comments. (Except a few at the end, DS was 11 days "late" and people posted "still pregnant?" stuff, which was kinda annoying but mostly just because I was annoyed I had to say yes)

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  • My DH and I deleted our facebooks earlier this year- got really tired of reading about everybody's everyday drama. It is sad though when you tell your family and have to ask THEM not to post it on facebook until you are ready. That's what we had to do and I still had friends calling me to ask if it was ok that they put something up about it. I find facebook to just be annoying at this point...
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