Invitations and facebook
cmiller0623
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so this is my first baby and i decided that i wanted to actually mail invites to the shower rather than just make an event on facebook because i feel we have become too dependent on technology, plus i have a lot of family who doesnt even use facebook.
so my mom asked me when i was going to mail them (this is the only thing im doing for the shower btw and thats only because i really wanted to do it) and i told her probably within the next few weeks. she goes on to say i should still make an event on facebook for HER friends. what? i told her nicely i dont want an event on facebook because there are some people on my friends list im not inviting since theyre more like "acquaintances" than anything and i dont want to seem gift grabby inviting people i havent talked to in years. also, some of her friends ive never met, and theyre people she barely knows and i dont really want to have people neither one of us knows at my shower seems kinda odd to me.
what are your thoughts? i think it seems tacky and repetetive sending a real invite AND a facebook invite but im worried shes going to create the event herself and add people to my guest list that i dont want. plus i already have about 80 invites going out (a very large part of that is family) and i dont want more than that since its already a lot of people (i dont expect all of them to show up but still)
Re: Invitations and facebook
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100% correct!!
So who is throwing the shower? If it's your mom, you might be in trouble. It sounds like she knows your feelings about the Facebook thing and is determined to go against your wishes. For sure, I wouldn't be willing to put a Facebook announcement on my own facebook (if I had one
, but if your mom absolutely insists on putting one one her own account, at least she will clearly be the tackmaster here, not you. If you're inviting 80 people already, probably no one will notice another few handfuls of strangers. Not like you're going to have time to socialize with anyone anyways!
LOL. Don't ever send an invite for a shower via FB. Just.Dont.
But, FWIW, you can make events private. So, it's not like "old lost friends" would see it unless your lazy enough to not correctly mess with the settings.
FB is not appropriate for a shower IMO.
If your mother goes against your wishes and creates it, not much you can do. Let her work it out with the host.
If I were you I would stand firm. I would say " Mom, I am not comfortable with that at all and am not going to discuss this anymore."
Does your aunt know your mom wants to invite all of these people ? Is that ok with her ? Your mom sure has a big set of balls.
Eh...I don't mind facebook invites as long as:
-You make them private.
-You send out real invitations too.
-You send out the real invitations a week before creating the facebook event.
-The creator is a host, not the mom-to-be.
Alot of people seem to rely on facebook to keep their schedule somewhat.
I personally don't mind them so much as long as a real invite is first.