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It's hitting me and I'm scared

nurrieumnurrieum member
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So I don't know why- must be the hormones but it really hit me hard. Soon I'm going to have this baby- and I'm terrified. Yeah the whole birthing process has me nervous but I'm going to be someone's mom. (Though technically with my SS I am someone's mom because I already do the mom job- I don't get the full on impact there). I know I should relax- it will be okay and generally I love being a mom but I feel like this entire pregnancy hasn't been real to me and now it very suddenly is. I'm completely scared. There's going to be this person- whose life I am responsible for- what if we made the decision to get pregnant too soon- too late now. I'm really hitting the stupid "what if" train right now- which is pointless- I am a three silly- (you'll only get that reference if you know English Folktales).

Has anyone else felt a little panicked like this? Like "holysh!t I'm going to be somebody's mother." I feel like I'm walking into this and I'm not prepared enough, that I have exactly no idea what I'm doing (like the knowledge I do possess will just go out the window and I'm flying blind) and that just freaks me out. 


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  • RiasRias member
    I'm starting to feel very anxious! I still can't believe it's happening to me! I never think I got pregnant too soon because for DH and I it was a long journey to get here so I feel so extremely blessed to be having this little angel but at the same time it's like oh my God. It's almost here! Can't believe I'm gonna be a mom!..lol definitely s nerve wrecking!
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  • punkrockabyepunkrockabye member
    I definitely have those moments. It's very surreal. It always seemed like it would never happen for us, because while we didn't have much trouble getting pregnant, it was a long time coming. Not that I wanted to or should have been pregnant at 16 when we started dating, but I mean, it's not common for people to spend almost 10 years together before having their first baby. We've had quite some time together and now all of a sudden we're going to be someone's parents. I'm very excited and at the same time very scared, but I think that's only natural... it's such a common experience--women become mothers all the time--but it's one that you literally cannot know until it happens to you. It can be described until you're blue in the face but you're not going to know what being someone's mom is like until you are, in fact, someone's mom.
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  • nurrieumnurrieum member

    Thanks ladies- it's nice not to feel alone. I have a feeling I'll calm down once I'm holding this baby in my arms- but it's been very surreal to me. I dreamed about being pregnant and becoming a mother, it was the one thing I knew I wanted- but we got pregnant pretty much on the first try- I wasn't expecting it- we were really blessed not have struggled conceiving  I now feel very unprepared.

    Thank you for the support.



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  • schell0710schell0710
    I am starting to feel very nervous! I have always wanted to be a mom, but it's going to be really real in a few short weeks! I think about it more at night when trying to fall asleep, which makes it almost impossible to fall asleep! 
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  • mrussellomrussello member

    I'm in that boat right now. Lately DH is making is worse. When the baby is moving and I say something like, "do you want to feel her foot?", his response is "no I just want to hold her already."

    I know he's super anxious because he doesn't get to grow her and feel her, but hell, I know the calm days are almost over. We will be in charge of this kid forever. You can't just stick her back in when things get tough. I look at my coworkers with teenagers and think, ummmm I don't want to deal with that mess! lol We're going to be parents and it's beginning to scare the crap out of me. A friend of mine has a 5 month old and she said, trust me- she's here and I'm still not ready! It made me feel a little better.

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  • ateal2490ateal2490 member

    Lurker Alert: 

     

    These fears pretty much took over the last month of my pregnancy, but I promise you, you have nothing to worry about. I was so stressed, and scared, and anxious...yet, when she arrived, I felt like I knew everything I needed to do to keep her happy and healthy. It just clicked, honestly. When I was pregnant, I was Captain Google and was always trying to figure out what I should expect....when she got here, that severely decreased as well.


    Remember, you two have been as one for 9 months. It just...works, if that makes any sense. 

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  • KatiPowersKatiPowers member
    imagenurrieum:

    Thanks ladies- it's nice not to feel alone. I have a feeling I'll calm down once I'm holding this baby in my arms- but it's been very surreal to me. I dreamed about being pregnant and becoming a mother, it was the one thing I knew I wanted- but we got pregnant pretty much on the first try- I wasn't expecting it- we were really blessed not have struggled conceiving  I now feel very unprepared.

    Thank you for the support.


    DH and I did struggle for quite a long time.  I was just about to give up hope when we found out that we pregnant.  And I still feel exactly the same way that you do!  As you said earlier, I'm sure that all just melts away as soon as we get to hold our LO, but the unknown of motherhood is bit scary.

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  • millerhomelifemillerhomelife member
    I totally understand what you are feeling. DH and I have been together almost 10 years, so of course I am a little freaked out about our life as we know it changing. We are about to be someone's parents, doing all of these parent things and it's a big responsibility! Whenever I get emotional about it, DH always reassures me that everything will be fine and that life will be just as great, just in a different way :) 
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  • ufmelissaufmelissa

    My DH and I have been together for 11 years (married 5) and in our early 30's so we were very ready to have kids but doesn't make us any more prepared for the prospect of parenthood.  We also were blessed to conceive on our first try but were unprepared for the shock of it happening so quickly.  

    People keep asking me if I'm ready and physically I'm ready to have my body back to myself (even though I've had a pretty easy PG) and to hold my baby in my arms but mentally I'm freaked out about how much our world is going to turn upside down once she gets here.  I know we'll adapt quickly and that parenting instinct will just kick in.  Like everyone says, you just have to take it one day at a time.  You don't have to know how to deal with a 6 month old, 2 year old, teenager, etc. on day 1, just take each phase as it comes.

     

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  • nurrieumnurrieum member

    Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond!

    I'm feeling a lot more calm today- I'm really just anxious for it to just happen so the waiting can be over!!! I stupidly wish it could be like a band-aid. I could just "rip it off" and have my baby so the wondering about it all would stop! lol Just a few more short weeks. lol I keep telling myself it will probably be here before I know it.

    Thank you all for the support!


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