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Coming home outfit...

jk101510jk101510 member
in August 2012 Moms

My mom was in town this past weekend for my shower. I had made a comment that I still need to find something for him to come home in and the convo went kind of down hill fast.

Mom: What? No, I'm getting that for you".

Me: Oh, I thought the mother gets it for the baby

Mom: I got it for my other 2 grandchildren, don't you remember? I'm getting it for him

Me: Ok? I don't remember b/c they aren't my kids so I would have no way of knowing that but this is something I wanted to buy for my baby. If it's a really big thing for you that's fine just show me the outfit before you buy it so we can decide together.

Mom: No. Don't worry about. I won't buy it. Do what you want.  

Me: Mom, please don't be like that. Just send me a pick of what you get.

Mom: No. Forget it.

 Now what?!? I think I offended/hurt her feelings but really had no intention. I have not brought it up again and not sure if I should just go buy the damn outfit myself or push the issue.

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  • CLeigh03CLeigh03 member

    Ick - NOT a fun conversation, goodness....

    I don't get the big deal about coming home outfits, really. I haven't even thought about it...

    As far as what you should do, it's your baby - pick out the outfit!

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  • irerirer member
    Sounds like much ado about nothing to me...maybe call her in a few days and smooth things over? I can't imagine getting into a debate over a coming home outfit, honestly.
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  • cherilynanncherilynann member
    Ick is right! I am in a similar situation...I was thinking of a cute onsie/sleeper type thing with a crocheted hat and blankie...Mom was thinking a foofie dress.. My mom is old school Italian and over the top is "normal" to her!! We have compromised on a crocheted dress... Maybe just tell your mom you would really like to do it together and maybe ask her to go shopping with you or something? I try to keep the peace but if she is really insulted and not wanting to do it with you then I would just go buy it myself.
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  • strausbaugh9900strausbaugh9900
    Usually my dh and I pick out an outfit that we both like from the clothes we have. We don't specifically buy a "coming home" outfit (well we did for our DS...our first) but not with my DD or this DD). My parents bought a couple outfits for Victoria and one I absolutely love (so does dh and our kids) so I will take that to the hospital and will put her in that when we leave. But usually it is just a sleeper outfit.
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  • BemyselfandiBemyselfandi member

    My mom does stuff like this. But my mom's crazy...

    I would just buy it yourself and move on...she won't bring it up again, probably. She won't remember in a year or whatever that SHE didn't buy the coming home outfit. Who cares...haha

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  • jk101510jk101510 member
    imageBemyselfandi:

    My mom does stuff like this. But my mom's crazy...

    I would just buy it yourself and move on...she won't bring it up again, probably. She won't remember in a year or whatever that SHE didn't buy the coming home outfit. Who cares...haha

    That about sums it up. Yes

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  • hooslisahooslisa member
    imageBemyselfandi:

    My mom does stuff like this. But my mom's crazy...

    I would just buy it yourself and move on...she won't bring it up again, probably. She won't remember in a year or whatever that SHE didn't buy the coming home outfit. Who cares...haha

    good grief.  what a ridiculous discussion.  i HOPE she forgets about it and moves on, but since she handled it the way she did, i BET your mom NEVER forgets and brings it up OVER and OVER.   ugh.  people are crazy.

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  • hooslisahooslisa member
    p.s.  OP, i LOVE your sig picture with the pitbull message.  all i've ever had were rescue shelter pit mixes and they are mushes.  HOWEVER, the least they could have done was use a picture of a pit for crying out loud.
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  • jk101510jk101510 member

    imagehooslisa:
    p.s.  OP, i LOVE your sig picture with the pitbull message.  all i've ever had were rescue shelter pit mixes and they are mushes.  HOWEVER, the least they could have done was use a picture of a pit for crying out loud.
     

    HAHA I said the same thing!  Out of our 3 dogs the pit is the biggest baby of them all. 

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  • rp-chicago-momrp-chicago-mom member
    imageBemyselfandi:

    My mom does stuff like this. But my mom's crazy...

    I would just buy it yourself and move on...she won't bring it up again, probably. She won't remember in a year or whatever that SHE didn't buy the coming home outfit. Who cares...haha

    My mom will show up at the hospital with a coming home outfit even though I've shown her the outfit I plan to use. She has done this to my sister ad my sister always uses her own outfits. Just tell your mom this is your first little baby and you have been looking forward to choosing the going home outfit. She will either understand or she will be like my mom and act heartbroken before eventually getting over it. You have to do what's important to you. 
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  • tashalatashala member
    imageBemyselfandi:

    My mom does stuff like this. But my mom's crazy...

    I would just buy it yourself and move on...she won't bring it up again, probably. She won't remember in a year or whatever that SHE didn't buy the coming home outfit. Who cares...haha

     

    DIDO!!! Love her to death, but REALLY!?!?! We have a conversation like this about my stroller. She put up a big fuss about getting it and guess what, she didn't get it. I knew she wouldn't. I told her it was no big deal, Mothers!!!

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