I'm starting to feel more and more that this just isn't going to happen. That we aren't going to be parents. My father said to me yesterday that he's ok with not being a grandparent and I shouldn't feel pressured. My heart shattered into a million peices...I know he always wanted a big family. I can't help but feel like I'm letting everyone down. I can't give my husband a child, my parents and in-laws a grandchild, my brother and SIL a neice/nephew and my nephew a cousin. I will forever be looked at like I'm broken and defective.
I don't know yet when we'll stop trying. We'll move foward with our frozen embryos, but I'm not feeling very good about it. After that...I don't know. Maybe we'll try again naturally knowing that it's extremely likely to end in another ectopic. Otherwise, it will probably be a year until we try IVF again...if we try IVF again. Or maybe we just start planning a life without children.
*Update* My RE said there was no reason that my cycle failed and has full confidence that if we keep going, we will get our baby (says the man whose bank account is much larger than mine). It turns out my clinics thaw rate (% of embryo's that survive the thaw) is much higher than I expected at 90%. He is fairly confident that both of my embies will survive the thaw and is not discounting my 2nd emby that's a lower grade. So...we are jumping right into a frozen cycle and will be doing a transfer late next week most likely. I'm still a bit pessimistic, but I will try to be more positive. Thank you again for your kind words and support. Love you all!
Re: Feeling Hopeless **Update**
Oh Delino, I'm so sorry. I'm sending you a million ((hugs)). I don't know exactly how you are feeling but I can relate a tiny bit. I hate feeling defective and like a failure because I can't give my DH a baby. It just seems to easy for some people.
GL as you start having to make difficult decisions. You're in my thoughts.
BFP #1 07/04/10. EDD 03/14/11. Missed m/c 08/09/10. D&C 09/27/10. }Casey & Jaimie{
TTA for 18 months and then TTC for 12 months
TTA for 7 months
Jan-Mar 2014 - RPL, SHG, karotyping: all results normal
TTC Again May 2014
Progesterone & baby aspirin combo for 5 cycles - All BFN's
SA with DNA fragmentation = Perfect results
Diagnostic cycle monitoring = Polycystic ovaries leading to premature egg release
TTA Oct 2014 - Jan 2015
Jan 2015 - Medicated cycle with timed intercourse
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HUGE ((hugs)) I know exactly how you feel... You can't put the pressure or the blame on yourself! IF sucks.... it just sucks!
I know it ended in another m/c but my first FET went sooooo much better than my fresh ET. I think because my ovaries weren't trying to come back down to normal size. I had three great betas which I'd never had with the two previous BFPs (IUI#1 and IVF#1)
I'm not going to tell you to stay positive, I feel like when people tell me that it just adds more pressure on me. I'm going to tell you to take care of you instead!! Read, watch trashy TV... whatever you need to distract yourself. Then one breath and one step at a time.
Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant
Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB , 2nd u/s 146bpm
baby girl born 5/10/13
TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28.
IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!! Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!
Tons of love and ((hugs)) to my IF sister NMscubagirl
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*BIG HUGS* my friend. Lots and lots of them.
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1st BFP = m/c 4.21.08 @ 7W5D (and divorce)
TTC #1 since 6.10
SA #1=Agglutination SA #2= Everything perfect
HSG= All clear & perfect
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BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]
I'm very sorry Delino. I am nowhere near where you are at in terms of IVF-but I definitely feel defective. I really do wish there was something that any of us could say to help ease your burden and lighten your spirits. Please know you are not alone with the weight of your circumstance. We are all here for you. I pray that tomorrow brings a better day, full of hope and not despair.
Big squishy (((hugs)))
TTC #1 since 5/2010 dx: annovulatory
RLP: 2/2012: normal HSG 3/2012: normal
BFP #1 7/20/11 M/C 7/25/11. BFP #2 11/29/11 M/C 12/21/11
I have two angel babies that I will see again one day
BFP #3 10/27/12 EDD: 7/6/13
Baby Emma arrived at 35 weeks by surprise on June 3rd, 2013!!
BFP #4: 5/23/14 EDD: 1/30/15 Emma's gonna be a big sister!
Beta #1 19DPO: 213 Beta #2 21DPO: 674
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BFP #2 9.12.12, EDD 5.24.13, Baby Boy Born 5.15.13!!
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3 Clomid (100mg) cycles + TI + Trigger = BFN's, Femara + Trigger + IUI#1 = BFN
Femara + Trigger + IUI#2 = BFP!
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." ~Gandhi
(((Big Hugs))). That feeling of hopelessness can be so overwhelming. I wish there was more I coud say.
Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11
TTC#1 since May 2009
PCOS * Hypothyroid
Bean - BFP May 26, 2010. EDD Feb 3, 2011. Natural Miscarriage 8w5d - June 29, 2010.
Pumpkin - BFP Feb 8, 2011. EDD Oct 21, 2011. Natural Miscarriage 6w3d - Feb 28, 2011.
May 2015: IUI#2 - nada.
**ticker warning**
I wish you all the luck in the world with your FET! ((Big Hugs)) my friend.
6 medicated cycles, 2 pregnancies, 1 ectopic April 2011, Early Miscarriage August 2011
7 more cycles, 1 IUI, No success after last pregnancy
7/1/2012 No more fertility coverage
8/17/2012 started pursuing domestic infant adoption!
11/26/2012 HOME STUDY APPROVED!!!
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I am glad the thaw rates are good, and I hope the FET works. FX for success this time.
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13.
Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
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GL hon! I have everything crossed that this works!