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ILoveRedVino
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Baby Boy born sleeping at 20 weeks.
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When do you consider pregnancy in the "safe zone?"
ILoveRedVino
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At what week or milestone will you, or did you, begin to feel safe from miscarriage?
Baby Boy born sleeping at 20 weeks.
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Re: When do you consider pregnancy in the "safe zone?"
TTC since 5/2010
DX with Diminished Ovarian Reserve - AMH of 1.1 - 7/2011; AMH of .42 8/2012BFP 9/1/10-M/C confirmed 9/8/10-Methotrexate 10/6/10
IUI #1 (w/clomid)-9/5/11-BFN ; IUI #2 (w/clomid)-10/5/11 - BFP - 11/1/12-No sac seen; 11/2/11 and 11/9/11-Methotrexate
IVF #1- ER 2/2; ET 2/5;-Two 8 cell embryos transfered = BFFN
Surprise BFP - 5/7/12
U/S on 6/8/12 - H/B at 128 BPM; U/S on 6/14/12 @ 9wks-No H/B-D&C on 6/17/12
IVF 2.0- ER 10/17; ET 10/20-One 12 cell, one 10 cell and one 8 cell embryo transfered
BFP! 11/16/12 U/S- Two nuggets with perfect heartbeats! EDD 7/10/13
5/31/2013- My miracles arrived at 34w2d! Welcome to the world Harper and Nolan!
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1/1 Spotting, 1/3 beta 36,000, 1/5 u/s empty sac measuring 7w (9w5d), 1/6 d&c
You will always be loved & missed our sweet angel.
I won't feel safe from anything going wrong during pregnancy until my baby is in my arms. Once my baby is in my arms I am sure new worries will come.
Many people feel safe after seeing the h/b but I personally have experienced a loss after that point. I think I might breathe a little easier after the n/t scan, but I will in no way feel safe.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
this.
This. However, typically the "safe zone" is considered after 1st tri. The risk of miscarriage is less at that point. With that being said, I have had friends miscarry at 20 weeks, but it is rare.
all of this.
This. I think I'll feel a bit better at the end of first tri, but the lingering fear will always be there for me.
BFP 12/19/08- DS born 8/25/09 9lbs2oz via Zavanelli Maneuver
BFP 8/26/11- Missed miscarriage discovered 10/19/11 at 11w2d, measured at 9 weeks gestation w/ no HB. D&C 10/21/11
BFP 3/17/12 at 12dpo CP 3/21/12
BFP 4/23/12 at 10dpo Stick my little one! Beta #1: 83.3 @ 13dpo Beta #2: 197.7 @ 15dpo
Our little man is getting bigger every day!
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At birth. :P
Though, I will feel much better once I get into the second trimester with a baby who is growing and still has a strong heartbeat.
BFP #5: 3/25/2015: EDD: 12/8/2015.
This! There are statistics to show the rates of m/c at certain points in a pregnancy, but keep in mind a real woman fall into that percentage so I won't ever feel "safe"...
#1 BFP 1/10/11; missed m/c discovered 7w5d
IF Dx: Endo, hetero MTHFR mutation, poor morphology
#1 IUI: 1/18/12 = BFN
#1 IVF/ICSI 4/2/12 = 2 x 7-cell and 1 x 5-cell transferred (3dt) = BFP!!
H was born at 41w2d on 12/29/12 - be still my heart!
#2 IVF/ICSI 1/19/14 = 2 x 8 cells transferred (3dt) = BFP!! EDD 10/09/14
M&W born at 37 weeks on 9/18/14 - I am the momma of 3 boys!!!
This exactly. And I always say living and breathing bc I did hold my son after I delivered him at 19 weeks, only he was sleeping.
TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)
BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d
BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13
BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks
BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby
When the baby is born.
I don't want to be a debbie downer or anything, but that is the honest truth.
Falling in Love! November 2014
BIRTH.
Stillbirths happen. I actually had more anxiety the further along I got. See siggy.
This is not true either. As discussed with my RE on multiple occasions. While extreme stress is never good for mother or baby, worrying about miscarriage vs not does not really give the baby any better or worse chances.
Simply not true. Stress isn't good for anyone, but it's not a factor in miscarriages or stillbirth. It's just something that people say to calm someone down.
This. Those of us who have experienced a loss will probably not feel safe until the baby is born. They say the chances of a m/c decline once you see a h/b but unfortunately I've met several ladies on these boards who have had late losses.
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BFP #3: EDD 1/10/13 **DS born 12/30/12!!!**
BFP #2: MC 7/2/11 @ 12 weeks
**Missing our February '12 LoveBug**
BFP #1: MMC discovered on 12/6/10
All of this.
I'm terrified of a late loss...I won't feel safe until our LO is in my arms. Even then, there are more worries!
Chemical Pregnancy
This.
If really makes me sick how uneducated people are on the topic of miscarriage, still birth and infant loss. These things happen unfortunately. It is incredibly rare that it is the mother's fault for something going wrong.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
I don't think anyone was trying to jump on *you* - but there are misconceptions out there like "worrying can make you lose the baby." And this is the bump where there is a ton of misinformation. So the responses you got were a quick reaction to make sure people understand that worry does not change a pregnancy outcome.
I think it's wonderful that you are able to go through your pregnancy and stay relatively positive. For those of us who have been through one or multiple losses, that's not a luxury we have. We can't will the negative thoughts away, and the last thing we need to do is think that our worry could harm our babies. That's all.
Good luck to you too.
I agree.
Are you a troll? How dare you put that kind of pressure on women who have lost their angels! As if the loss of a baby is AT ALL based on how much the mother worries, or loves her baby! This is so insanely offensive!! Clearly you have NEVER experienced a loss, and I pray you never do. DON'T EVER say this to a woman who has lost her baby! It is rarely ever the mother's fault! These things happen regardless of how much you worry, love, care for, eat healthy, exercise, sleep, dream, it has absolutely NOTHING to do with your worries! UGH!
This is a horrible thing to say. No one worries themself into a miscarriage.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
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We are all here to enjoy the journey as much as we can. But the reality of it is, there is no safe point. While it may make you feel better, there still is no safe point. There are points where the chances get better that things will go right, but anything really can happen at any point.
So, when someone asks and expects an honest answer, we try to give it, without sh*tting puppies and rainbows all over the place. I'm glad that you came on and tried to clear the misunderstanding, but I don't want you to think that we are just "making a point" either.
BFP 12/19/08- DS born 8/25/09 9lbs2oz via Zavanelli Maneuver
BFP 8/26/11- Missed miscarriage discovered 10/19/11 at 11w2d, measured at 9 weeks gestation w/ no HB. D&C 10/21/11
BFP 3/17/12 at 12dpo CP 3/21/12
BFP 4/23/12 at 10dpo Stick my little one! Beta #1: 83.3 @ 13dpo Beta #2: 197.7 @ 15dpo
Our little man is getting bigger every day!
My BFP Chart
This. I'll feel better once there's still a hb at 13w, but still not "safe." I'm high risk for a couple of reasons this pregnancy, so I'll let out another breath once I get to about 30 weeks and then a big one once the baby's here (but then the SIDS, RSV, etc, worries start...).
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence