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Daycare Awards...(Parent upset)
wychets
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My DD Daycare had this little award ceremony yesterday, you know like best smile, best laugh, best dress, etc. Uh like senior year I can't think of what we called it. Anyway my DD won Best Dressed, I thought the the whole thing was cute and totally harmless. Well when I go to drop DD off at DC this morning a Parent stopped me in the parking lot and says "You know I am totally offended that (Teachers Name) thinks your Daughter is best dressed" I was totally shocked I thought it was just for fun. I then said "Well I am sorry that you feel that way but it was just for fun" her response was "It hurt my Daughter's feelings" I did laugh because our Daughters are 5 months. She then stormed off. Hmmm not sure how I feel about the whole situation. It seems petty to me, but I clearly do not want any conflict with Parents at my DC especially over something so childish. What are your thoughts?
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Re: Daycare Awards...(Parent upset)
ditto.
This!
Agree with all of this. That lady is crazy!!!
Seems like the daycare teachers had a cute idea that didn't go over so well... I have to admit that I LOVE dressing Tegan for daycare and if another kid got a "best dressed" award, my feelings would be slightly hurt. However, they would not be hurt enough to address it with anyone, especially the parent of the child who won the award. Heck, it's not like you gave your kid the award... her issue is with the teachers, not you. Also, even at 2.5 my kid wouldn't be aware enough of the "value" of the awards for it to hurt her feelings, let alone at 5 months. I feel for this child, she's going to have a tough time with a mommy who is that sensitive and can't cope with a little disappointment.
Let me ask - did all the kids win some cute "award"? If so, eh, I do think it's all in good fun. But if it was just some of the kids and not others- really odd. Not in a "all kids are winners" way, but just in a "if this is meant to be cute and fun, everyone should be included" way.
That being said - no matter what, she sounds psycho. But then if her baby did win a little award, even MORE psycho. Her baby's feelings are hurt?!?! WTF.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
LOL I agree!! I LOVE dressing her also:) But if someone else won best dressed I could care less simply because its DC and their babies who cares? Your right the Teacher thought it was a good idea and honestly its totally harmless so I am not upset with her at all. I really felt bad for the parent because she honestly thought her 5 month old feelings were hurt.
Yes!! There are only 5 babies in the room everyone got an award.
Best Dressed
Best Smile
Best Laugh
Next American Idol
Class Clown
I laughed at all of them because they all are cute to me.
HAHA i'm sorry her baby's feelings were hurt? That is the funniest thing I've heard in awhile. Clearly HER feelings were hurt b/c she must pride herself on how she dresses her baby for daycare.
I think the superlatives were a cute idea however I do think they should have found a 5th one that was also about personality/cuteness and not about something that has a monetary & parental association like clothing b/c it would actually make me feel bad as a parent- not that my kid didn't win it but that the teachers are clearly judging the way kids/babies are dressed for daycare (and I personally try to dress them cute to some extent but certainly not in their cutest/nicest outfits for daycare since they get all messed up...?)
Just my .02.
(also fwiw in my old daycaret here was a boy who was always always dressed super cute in the preppiest little outfits & I constantly commented on how adorable & well dressed he was but that was from me, not from the teachers... but that kid definitely would have won best dressed in their class LOL.)
Agreed.
It's one step back from parents who enter their kids into baby contests.
I would be absolutely LIVID if my DC did something like this but I would not approach another parent about it. I would have a dission with the manager/owner that I did not think that type of awards is appropriate.
The DC must have known hurt feelings would have ensued.
Best Dressed - What about the parent struggling to make ends meet that can only send her kids in used clothing?
Best Laugh - what about the parent worrying about their child development who has not laughed yet.
Serriously this should have been better thought out.
LOL (literally) I bet she is!!!
I see your point. Trust me DD clothes are not all new and not the biggest brands. Her outfit today is from "Once Upon A Child" I buy what I think is cute wether it is $1 or $25. I am not one to compare my Daughter to any other baby. I honestly believe this lady is nuts!! Myself and the other Parents laughed about it because its all in fun. They are babies they do not care if they go to DC in a diaper.
I also disagree w/ the whole deal also but will say the little boy I referred to in my post actually wore all consignment/thrift shop clothes. I asked his mom once where she shopped for him since he always looked so darn cute & she told me that she rarely buys new, clearly she is just a really good used clothing shopper...I was jealous actually.
But again I agree- an award with financial connection is not a good idea, at all.
totally agree with this, what a weirdo to approach you like you had anything to do with the awards.
Right!! Seeing how the Teacher told us about the whole thing before hand makes her even crazier because we knew ahead of time!! I could care less if my baby got Best Dress or Next American Idol it was all fun.
I think the awards are inappropriate. Why are the daycare workers judging the children on clothes, smile or anything else? I know it's "for fun" but it doesn't sit right with me. EDIT I don't find it fun or cute. I wouldn't ever say anything to a parent but if I used a daycare that thought this was a good idea it would cause me to question my choice of daycare.
I also think that woman should not have confronted you. That was childish and rude.
This is why it sucks to be any form of a teacher these days...parents are CRAAAAAAAAAZY.
Who gets upset about that crap? Clearly that woman is someone to avoid.
Agreed.
ditto
I think there are wayyyyy bigger issues they can happen in DC to make me rethink my choice and this is not one of them. I LOVE my DC and have not had any issues with them. The issue is the crazy Parent not the DC. Everyone has their opinion, and because the Teacher asked for permission beforehand I don't see the problem. I got Best dress, cutest couple, and prettiest smile in high school and no crazzzyyy parents tried to confront my mom in the parking lot lol. Its for fun and I don't think the Teacher was judging in a negative way!
This mom, and anyone offended by this, needs to get a life.
Amen.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
Thank you. I can't believe people would actually contemplate leaving a DCP because of something like this.
I agree with this. I don't think you want to be friends with that crazy lady so I'd just ignore her comment and move on.
The daycare probably had good intentions, it's not a great idea to encourage competition between a bunch of new moms over who's baby is dressed best etc. I think if you do anything, maybe just mention to the director that some moms felt bad about that. If I were the director I would want to know if something I was doing was causing parent's to be uncomfortable, even if it is a little crazy that she cared that much, it now puts you in an awkward situation with the other mom too.
But NO, in this day and age of "everyone must be equal/ can't possibly mention anything that someone else might find offensive" - we can't even compliment 5 month old babies.....
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
My point was that I would rethink my choice in daycare. I don't think it's fun and I don't like it...as is my choice. When not with me I wanted my children in a place that I felt would teach and treat them as I would which means I would not have them there. It's ok to enjoy it and think it's fun, it's also ok not to enjoy it and not think it's fun. I was just stating my opinion on that while giving my answer.
I did not approve of what that mother did or said and that was my other point. I think it was very wrong to confront you with anything. That's not a woman I would associate with.
Agree. Nope never cared to be friends, only ever said good morning in passing. I said I didn't want conflict with her.
AMen!!
That's fine. I would consider leaving if this was something done without parent approval. I am not ok with pagent sort of things. It doesn't agree with my values. This is not about every child being 'equal'.
My mother and sister have worked in daycares for years and neither have done anything like this.
I don't understand why it's necessary to be ok with it?
Well because the Teacher asked beforehand and the Parents said it was fine there should be no issue. I believe that if one of us had any issue with it she would not have done it. The Parent agreed to this, maybe she secretly was hoping for something that didn't happen. Who knows? All simple harmless fun (with permission)
I think they did something fun and cute.
I smell a Toddler & Tiaras in the making with that other mom. COOCOO
It's not "necessary" for you to be ok with it- you can think whatever you want. It's just odd, IMO. What exactly is your problem with it? Promoting caring about looks? Concerned that someone might be offended? Awards in general?
At what point will you be ok with superlatives? Grade school? Middle school? Is naming a valedictorian ok? What about homecoming queen? Are work place awards for performance ok? Do you never compliment someone's outfit or makeup in the presence of others? Or is it just the fact that it's babies we're talking about? Because ::whispers:: they have no idea what's going on.
The award categories are innocent and fun. It's not like they named "Sexiest Smile" or "Cutest Couple."
It isn't a pageant sort of thing, at all. It is a cute something to do for the end of the year to celebrate the children. It isn't picking someone that is better than someone else, though I don't have a problem with that either. I have a problem with the way our society is heading, with no more MVP awards, no more valedictorians, no more winners and losers.
I agree with this 100%. Maybe I'm being superficial or not thinking of long term emotional consequences...but the babies are babies. They don't care. They're not being judged at all. My DD's infant teacher always commented on how well dressed she was...should she not have said that because another parent may have heard and been offended? As a society, we comment on that sort of thing.
My DD didn't laugh until she was much older than 5 months. If another baby got "best laugh," I wouldn't have freaked out because another kid was laughing and mine wasn't. It really sounds like to me like a self-esteem issue. I'm not going to question my DD's development or my parenting abilities based on the 'achievements' or others. She's unique and her own person. And she's always well dressed
Now, if the awards were for "biggest cry baby," or "most clingy" or something like that, I wouldn't be okay with that. But this? There are bigger things in the world to get worked up about.