MAJOR anxiety about telling dad

bazeyjane · May 2012

My dad sucks, always has. Him and my mom have been divorced for 20 years and i dont have the best relationship with him. He always puts me down, tells me I'm dumb, thinks negatively, and is just all around NOT the best guy. I'm afraid of his reaction, or what he'll say or think of me. My mom told me I have to tell my dad I'm pregnant, but i dont really see the point since I only see him twice a year for about an hour at a time. He didnt even attend my wedding, nor did he say goodbye or call when i moved to another state.The fact that my mom even wants me to tell him is flabbergasting, considering she hates him, but whatever. Wish me luck ladies, i'm going into the shark tank!

P.S. Why do I still care what my dad thinks of me?! I'm a grown woman. Ughh.

jterpbride · May 2012

I would just send him a text or an email. He barely deserves even that.

ashdonne · May 2012

jterpbride:
I would just send him a text or an email. He barely deserves even that.

This!

brianabrad · May 2012

I agree a text or an email is all he deserves, if that! If my father was still alive, he would find out through the grapevine.

karen_loy · May 2012

jterpbride:
I would just send him a text or an email. He barely deserves even that.

Yes

Don't let him get to you

Mommyluv384 · May 2012

Send a card so you don't have to deal with his reaction..then dodge his phone calls

sjamin9 · May 2012

I completely agree with text or e-mail. I'm so non-conforntational. Good luck!

NillaWafers · May 2012

I would even tell him. I'm a jerk.

bazeyjane · May 2012

Mommyluv384:
Send a card so you don't have to deal with his reaction..then dodge his phone calls

I like this. Not only does my dad not know my bday, BUT more importantly he doesnt know my phone #! This is perfect.

Thanks ladies for all the support!

jterpbride · May 2012

bazeyjane:
Mommyluv384:
Send a card so you don't have to deal with his reaction..then dodge his phone calls

I like this. Not only does my dad not know my bday, BUT more importantly he doesnt know my phone #! This is perfect.

Thanks ladies for all the support!

Wow that is pretty unbelievable, your dad doesn't know your bday or phone number?? I'm really surprised your mom would tell you to call this guy. Hope the card does the trick and you can stop worrying!

nycitygirl1 · May 2012

Ugh, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. As wonderful and awesome as being PG is, it can definitely bring up family dynamic issues that are not fun to deal with.

I am dreading telling my ILs because they are very controlling and negative - so we're waiting until we're much further along.

Good luck with telling your dad and let us know how it goes. I'm with the PP who said you should just send an email. At least this way if he has negative comments you don't have to hear them (and maybe it will prevent him from saying something obnoxious).

dinonugget1517 · May 2012

I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree with above, maybe an email would be the best way to go about this.

meganseavers · May 2012

I say if he ever calls you then you can tell him. I wouldn't go out of your way to tell him if you are not 100% he is going to be supportive. This is the most exciting time for all of us and anyone who isn't going to be positive about it doesn't need to be a part of it. Enjoy your time

Don't stress!!

Angelcake · May 2012

Big girl panty time! Eff him! If he has no respect for you, don't waste the little amount of energy you have right now worrying/ caring about what he thinks. Tell him later when you feel more comfortable, or after you have baby. Lol

LaurelBee · May 2012

I would make your mom tell him since she's the one who wants him to know! But a letter would be my next choice (with my moms addy as the return address!) GL mama and sorry your dad sucks

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