Intro + GD Vent

FuzzyPrincess1 · May 2012

For starters I should probably introduce myself, I have been lurking since DH and I got a BFP on 12/25/11. We had tried for two years and stopped trying, lost 30lbs and next thing you know viola! Anyways, I failed my 1 hr and results for my 3hr were abnormal so the Dr began telling me about all of the complications that go along with GD then finished it up with..."and sometime even if it is controlled we can still loose the baby"...I just feel numb after that statement. Please know that I understand a Dr's job is to inform the patient but it just seemed harsh.

Thanks for reading.

lady_tytah · May 2012

Wow...way harsh....and no if you are completely controlled there is no reason you or the baby should have complications. Your doc will be monitoring you ridiculously. I have appts every week to monitor the movement, send in my glucose numbers and check on the growth of the baby. As long as you and your doc work together with diet, exercise, and if necessary medication there is no reason you and baby wont be healthy.

I personally would have cursed him out for making the extra effort to make you stress. Something that no women needs to do. I am sorry your doc was such a jerk (wants to replace with another 4 letter word). Keep your head up, do your research and you and baby will be ok.

FuzzyPrincess1 · May 2012

Thank you, its nice know that I am not being overly sensitive. Once I failed my 1 hour I started to do internet research and was prepared (or so I though) for everything she could say. I am not that found of her or her bluntness but this late in the game I just want to have this baby and be done with her. This is not the first time she has been imo rude. I gained 4lbs. in Feb and she sent me to a dieteican for excessive weight gain( I am overweight) since then I have gained a total of 15lbs and at 27w5d, I am fine with that. She is not happy that I was overweight when I became pregnant and makes it a point to tell me every month that because of my size (I currently wear a 24) she is not able to get an accurate fundal height but she has to do it even though it is pointless. So I am bidding my time and waiting for these next 12w1d to pass...hopefully as quickly and healthy as possible.

clarkej5284 · May 2012

WoW. Diabetes is serious and definitely needs to be taken cautiously, just not in that manner. No excuses for that doc.

lady_tytah · May 2012

She is a B*&^$....I am considered obese (40%) and have never been beaten up, mortified, or belittled about it. My doc takes the fundal weight and doesnt say squat about it. I would definitely have switched doctors a long time ago. I wear a sz 18... I dropped 2 sz prior to getting pregnantt. Yes, there are some docs who find us selfish (yes I have heard them say this) for us (overweight &obese) getting pregnant. But that is not the place for the doctor to speak. How rude...I feel for you hun. Truly I do.

Neener73 · May 2012

Wow! I'm so glad that I don't have your OB. I was overweight pre-pregnancy. At 30 weeks, I've gained 12 pounds (most of it was gained from 23-27 weeks). My OB has never said anything negative about my weight. At 27 weeks, I was diagnosed with GD. Last week I saw my OB for the first time since the GD diagnosis. She looked at my glucose numbers and said the post-meal ones are great, although my fasting numbers are all over the board (70s-upper 90s). At that point she said that she won't consider meds until I fail half of my tests in one week. (The nutritionist had told me I could only have 2-3 "fails" in a week.) Unless I end up on meds, she will continue to treat me just like any other patient. During the appointment I mentioned that I was going to my sister's wedding. As I was walking out, she said, "Make sure that you don't skip the cake."

punkrockabye · May 2012

FuzzyPrincess1:
Thank you, its nice know that I am not being overly sensitive. Once I failed my 1 hour I started to do internet research and was prepared (or so I though) for everything she could say. I am not that found of her or her bluntness but this late in the game I just want to have this baby and be done with her. This is not the first time she has been imo rude. I gained 4lbs. in Feb and she sent me to a dieteican for excessive weight gain( I am overweight) since then I have gained a total of 15lbs and at 27w5d, I am fine with that. She is not happy that I was overweight when I became pregnant and makes it a point to tell me every month that because of my size (I currently wear a 24) she is not able to get an accurate fundal height but she has to do it even though it is pointless. So I am bidding my time and waiting for these next 12w1d to pass...hopefully as quickly and healthy as possible.

You NEED to find a size friendly provider. I am so sorry she is treating you like this. I rarely give these details here, but this is me: 313 and size 24 pre pregnancy, 5'10 tall. Morbidly obese, no preexisting diabetes and a great A1C test result, letting us know that I was not, in fact, diabetic anytime in the past 3 months. Due to a complete lack of appetite, my last weigh in I was 299; I had previously gained 5 pounds, but lost them plus some.

Since getting pregnant, I have not once been treated badly by a doctor because of my size. Nothing has even come close. They simply wanted to repeat my 20w ultrasound at 24 weeks to try to get a better view of the kidneys, since the baby was very active and my stomach fat made it less clear. I was never told I was too much of a fatty for them to see, they simply asked me to schedule an ultrasound for 4 weeks later. So far they've been able to check fundal height but many doctors don't even do that anymore, since I guess it's not as accurate as other methods.

I really suggest you find a new doctor. This just can't end well, already knowing that your doctor is very biased against overweight moms. Have you been told you'll "need a c section" because you "can't do it naturally" because of your size? That's a common one that bigger moms hear, and it is 100% untrue.

I guess if a doctor wants to be horrible, they can tell EVERY mom that we can still "lose the baby" no matter what, because it is an unfortunate truth albeit an extremely small chance. I think, as pregnant ladies, we are all aware of this and choose to not think about it, and there is no reason for a doctor to mention it to anyone. It makes as much sense as a doctor telling someone that they will die eventually, or prescribing antibiotics for a sinus infection after saying "I guess I'll give you this, but does it really matter either way, since you'll die sometime anyway?" Absolutely absurd.

If GD is completely uncontrolled, it can have a negative impact on the baby. Any complication like this that goes untreated can result in the unthinkable. But if you receive the proper medical care, the chances are beyond small. It's okay for a doctor to be realistic--such as letting you know that your pregnancy has a higher risk than others, so you'll need some close attention--but what she said absolutely uncalled for and is no more of a possibility for you as it is for any other pregnant woman.

If you stay with this doctor, expect for the "dead baby card" to be pulled many times to try to get you to agree to interventions that are not necessary. I already put a stop to that with my doctors; someone used it once and I called her out, letting her know that while I know risks exist in any pregnancy, I am aware of the scare tactics used by doctors to get women to bend to their will and it won't be necessary to use them on me.

MrsWhipple · May 2012

I agree, you should try and find another doctor. Pregnancy can be stressful, so why go through the added stress of a doctor who is clearly not on your side? I'm overweight (and have developed GD), and have never been treated nasty or rude by my ob/gyn or the MFM doctor.

By the way, congrats on losing that 30 lbs before getting pregnant

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