Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: C-section Worries...
You don't typically get a choice if you get general anesthesia or not. Most likely you had GA because you had a sick baby or other medical issue where baby needed to get out - right now.
Since your second c section is going to be planned, they will do an epidural or spinal anesthesia. I promise you won't feel anything, although the "pressure" was more than I expected.
Tell your OB of of your fears. They can give you an anti anxiety med IV if needed. And the spinal/epi is tested before they make a cut.
GA recovery would be much more difficult, and is not best for baby. It's only used if needed.
Best of luck, I think you will be suprised it really is ok.
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
It is really not bad, once you are numb you really cannot feel anything. The pushing and pulling you can feel, which is kind of weird, but it doesn't hurt at all. The thing I didn't realize is that I would get really shaky during the surgery. I mean literally, my arms and everything were shaking. The anesthesiologist said that is really common, I just didn't know it was going to happen so it freaked me out a bit. Overall though the experience was not that bad or scary. The anesthesiologists were there above the curtain the whole time with me and DH telling us what was going on, and telling me what to expect. They were amazing.
The epidural was scary for me, but once it came time to get it it was not a big deal either. I think I hyped it up in my mind a lot. The anesthesiologist was so good, and they really are understanding of people's fears. Just let them know.
GL!
I will tell you this was my position 5 days ago. I was knocked out for DD's birth and was so nervous/scared about my c-section with DS. In the end things could not have been better. I am not going to say it was all roses but the worse part of it for me was after getting the spinal I suddenly got really sick, but I just told the doctor and he fixed it right away.
The only pushing and pulling I really felt was when they were getting DS out. Other than that I felt light touch and slight tugging but nothing that really alarmed me. The best part was getting to experience all the stuff I did not get to experience with DD. Hearing DS's first cry, hearing that I had a boy (we were team green)
Not to mention recovery this time around has been easy as pie. I feel perfect and have not needed to take pain medication with the exception of something before bed due to having some lingering back pain from the spinal, that by the end of the day is pretty bad.
Just remember to breath, take deep breaths and relax as much as possible. It really helped to have DH there telling me it was OK and holding my hand even though I knew he was nervous as well.
It scared the daylights out of me when they told me I needed an emergency c-section. The biggest worry I had was when they inserted the needle. The doctor told me to arch my back and not move. Not easy with that big ol belly lol! I was afraid I would accidently move and screw something up. But I didn't they hold onto you and help you through it. They had too push down pretty hard when they went to take him out...it made it a little hard to breathe beyond that it was okay. I just concentrated on doing what I needed to do for LO. The recovery was a little rough but I healed well. Just talk to your doc. Let them know how you're feeling.
Thanx :-) everyone im feeling alot more calmer on the subject now :-D