For those of you who remember, DH and I have posted on this board for advice in finding his birth mother. We went through several different processes, but he finally ended up finding her on his own. Sunday morning was the first time he actually got to speak to her (on the phone). He found out where she was from, that he has a half sister, and got to find out the details of why she gave him up. We were relieved to find out that his birth mother was still alive and that she actually was glad that he found her.
I started miscarrying Sunday afternoon. I realize that there's absolutely no connection between the two events except that they happened on the same day. Both his birth mother and half sister have messaged me on FB and added me as a friend. I don't know how to respond to them at this point. They both seem like such nice people and they are praying for us during this difficult time. But I don't know how that makes me feel. I don't know them. They don't know me. I want to be supportive if DH wants a relationship with them, but I'm always going to associate finding them with my m/c. How can I get over this? I haven't accepted either friend request and only replied to their messages to thank them for their prayers.
I have also posted this on the loss board, but I think it's prudent to ask for advice here too. I'm so happy he found her, but I don't know that I can ever separate the two events.