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Cross-Country Shower?
I'm not really sure how to handle this situation. I moved to TX with my husband a few years ago, and we've certainly made a number of friends here. My husband is actually planning a co-ed shower with a friend of mine.
The rest of my friends and family are still up in IL where we moved from and still others have moved away (elsewhere) and loose plans have been made for them to visit.
Many of my IL family members have asked that I try to make a trip up to see them all before the baby's born. Should my mother and I try to plan a shower for the short period of time (about a week or less) that I'll be in town (in IL)? And should I try to have the shower during the period of time that my other friends/family will be visiting (TX)?
I'm concerned that having two showers and having them so specifically timed will make it seem like I'm trying to hoard gifts.
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Re: Cross-Country Shower?
I'm in a somewhat similar situation. My family/friends are in NH/MA and I'm currently living with my boyfriend in DE. We're thinking of asking for two showers?one in either NH or MA so that my family and friends can attend, and one in DE so that his family and friends can attend.
There's no way I can ask my family/friends to make a trip to DE. And the party in NH/MA would be a very simple get-together at my mom's house most likely. I don't want anything big or fancy...I just want to be able to see my loved ones!
Do not, under any circumstances, ask for a shower. It is a gift, not an entitlement. If someone offers to throw you one, awesome. But please don't put someone on the spot and ask for one.
As a previous poster mentioned, timing should be the least of your concerns.
Your husband needs to stop helping your friend plan your shower. Since it's also his child, it looks like he's soliciting gifts for himself which is terribly rude.
As for the shower in IL, if your mother wants to have one during the time you're visiting, let her throw one. That said, you shouldn't attempt to help plan or co-host with her since, again, neither you nor your husband should plan your own shower.
While I can see the reason why my DH shouldn't be involved in planning the shower, he is because none of our friends would think to do it until way late into the pregnancy (like 38 weeks). He being what I consider to be insanely involved in my pregnancy and bonding to it and the baby way before I did, has been excited about this since we found out I was pregnant! He has a number of friends that my friends that he would like to attend the shower as well.
So, I guess in all this my question is - how do baby showers typically get planned and organized if someone in the immediate family doesn't jump in on it? All the baby shower's I've attended have a sibling that throws it (my sister is 10) or the person was rude enough to say "Hey, when are you doing my shower? I was thinking next week!"
You just tell the people asking about a shower that no one has mentioned hosting one for you yet and if they do you will be sure to add them to the invite list. Hopefully they will get the hint.
As for your sister being very young...obviously she coudln't host a shower...but she could certainly "help" your mom host one. In my family even grandmothers to be don't host...but now I see a lot of them being the host...sometimes with someone else.