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Not a mom, A soon to be Dad, And way over my head...

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Hi, I'm Romeo. My wife "politely" told me to check out this site before our twins are born, and I'm pretty much freaking out. We have 17 days before her estimated due date, and I am very ashamed to say this, but I'm scared. I know she is too, but it is taking a toll on me. I love those babies, which are now the size of a winter melon, (thanks bump), but wow, this is all so new!
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  • amy5162amy5162
    That's awesome she has made it to 17 days before her EDD with twins!
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  • MaLvAiNiEMaLvAiNiE
    It's so sweet that you joined here! Is she getting induced? She has made it seriously far with those twins!
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  • courtfsucourtfsu
    Congrats!  Not sure anyone (mom or dad) is ever truly prepared.  But you will learn and grow through this challenge.  It is amazing.  Best of luck and let us know how we can help!
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  • SweetT94SweetT94

    Have you tried to read any books yet?  They make great books for dads that you will be able to relate to.  What to expect when your wife is expanding is great....but it more for the pregnancy and not for birth/after.

    Just keep in mind that we are all born with natural maternal/paternal instincts.  You will be amazed at how you just jump in and care for these babies. my husband was amazing and he had never held a newborn or changed a diaper in his life.  You will be fine.  

    Good luck and congrats on your twins!!! 

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  • FutureMr&MrsKFutureMr&MrsK
    When your becoming a parent either for the first time or more it is always a new situation & can be scary.  But as soon as you see those babies for the first time you will instantly be in love & not know how you ever were with out them.  At least that is what my husband said after the birth of our first one. You will learn & not matter what you do it'll be the right thing. Every baby is different, but they will let you know what they need.  It'll be ok. Congrats to your wife on making it this far with twins & good luck! 
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  • rissa_nrissa_n

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    Congrats!  Not sure anyone (mom or dad) is ever truly prepared.  But you will learn and grow through this challenge.  It is amazing.  Best of luck and let us know how we can help!

    I agree with this...you will be an old pro in no time!  Good luck.

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  • JinnifahJinnifah member
    (May mom butting in, although being due may 29 I'll likely be a June mom)

    I just wanted to let you know that it's normal to freak out a bit at this stage. My husband came home from work yesterday and told me he had a total freakout in the middle of the day. I guess the secretary announced over the PA system for him to come down to the office asap and he thought I was in labour.

    I wasn't obviously, but he's gotten very scared now about how his life could change at any moment, and about becoming a dad. With 10 days to go it's getting very real for him (and for me - I'm kinda freaked too).

    Anyway, all that to say that you'll do fine. I know my husband will be an amazing father despite his fears. I'm sure you will be too. No one is born knowing how to change diapers or comfort a fussy baby. Just do your best and good luck!
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  • ZilelabelleZilelabelle member
    Welcome aboard! My husband reads the bump over my shoulder occasionally and really likes it, but I don't think he's brave enough to come on alone, so, props! He is also super scared/excited so you aren't alone. Good luck to you and your family and congrats on your upcoming event!
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  • IrishsapphireIrishsapphire member

    My husband and I went to a Taking Care of Baby class at the hospital--we used to practice the diapers and swaddling on our stuffed animals.  As well, there was a good video that they played in that class--Happiest Baby on the Block.-when a baby cries and you cannot figure out how to make the baby happy--it can be overwhelming--sometimes I had to hand my son over to my husband and let him try to work with our son if I was not able to calm him down and vice versa.  It is a team effort.  Make sure to help with changing diapers.  Even with a 2nd child, I still had to relearn how to work with a newborn. They sleep alot as newborns, and it is fun to see the baby through the milestones.  I do find when baby becomes a toddler and walks and talks, it is more overwhelming and more to keep up with--Thus, I have watched the DVD Happiest Toddler on the Block quite a few times. 

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  • AutumnBug87AutumnBug87
    I have to give you MAJOR props for even BEING on this site, let alone posting! Just know you are not alone! Many of us WOMEN are even scared, not to mention our poor husbands! Just remember, WE can ALL do this! Hang in there, and I think it is a good sign you are scared. It's human, and perfectly normal. Good Luck to you!
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  • StephenW4StephenW4

    I think the fact that you care enough to even post something is an inherent indicator that you will be an incredible dad.  All of us first-timers are excited/scared/anxious, moms and dads alike.  My husband has more baby experience than I do, so I know I'm nervous about all things baby - know that you're not alone!

    You obviously love your wife and babies already, and I'm sure it will be even more amazing once you see their faces and see them smile for the first time.  My mom always says "the baby didn't read the books" so you just have to trust your natural instincts and work together to make it through - and those babies will know that you love them, which is really all that matters. Best of luck and congrats!

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    Congrats!  Not sure anyone (mom or dad) is ever truly prepared.  But you will learn and grow through this challenge.  It is amazing.  Best of luck and let us know how we can help!

    I agree with this...you will be an old pro in no time!  Good luck.

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  • MrsCAAMrsCAA member

    once you are in the hospital ask as many questions as you can.

    My husband had never changed (or even seen) a diaper being changed before. So every time our son had to be changed in the hospital he did it- with the supervision/guidance of the nurses. (he would even call then nurse in when he pooped so he could be sure he was doing it right)

     

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