registry info on invite tacky?

patientnwaiting · May 2012

I've heard mixed opinions on this and wanted to see what the bumpies had to say. My MIL and I have just started looking into invites, decorations, food and etiquette just to start getting ideas even though my shower won't be for a few more months and are both new to all this. Is it tacky to put registry info on the invite? Also, how far in advanced should invites go out?

dufferoo · May 2012

I think so, but a lot of people wil tell you it's okay. I just think it's nicer and less forward to wait until someone asks what you want before you tell them, you know?

acoop719 · May 2012

i was told that for showers including registry information is fine, just not for things like wedding ceremony invites. If you don't feel comfortable including the information, then don't, but most people plan on purchasing a gift for a shower, and if you don't put it in there you are going to have a lot of people asking where you registered. Seems to me to be less of a pain to just include it in the information instead of having to repeat yourself a bunch of times...

patientnwaiting · May 2012

I wasn't sure either way but of the very few invites I've received, they all had info on it so I thought I'd ask just to be safe. I know someone who announced her registry on FB.....

amb5353 · May 2012

I always thought you just put the little cards you get from where ever you register inside the invite?! I've never thrown a baby shower and I have only been invited to one.

If I were a guest I would perfer to see the card saying where you are registered. Then I don't have to ask you and possibly give away what I'm getting you.

chicagocubsfan23 · May 2012

I think it's ok to put the registry info on the shower invite. They say for weddings you can put it on the shower invite, just not the wedding invite, and since this is a shower where people "shower you with gifts" as well I guess I don't see the difference. I would rather have the registry info on the invite than have to ask people where they're registered. But that's just me, and around here that's the common practice.

danieliza1127 · May 2012

I think it's fine to list where you're registered on the invitation or on an insert that goes in the invitation envelope for a shower. For a wedding, no, but for a bridal or baby shower, yes. That's the point of the party, to shower the mom-to-be with gifts.

Shower invites typically go out about 4 weeks before the shower.

Gismo123 · May 2012

danieliza1127:
I think it's fine to list where you're registered on the invitation or on an insert that goes in the invitation envelope for a shower. For a wedding, no, but for a bridal or baby shower, yes. That's the point of the party, to shower the mom-to-be with gifts.
Shower invites typically go out about 4 weeks before the shower.

This.

PunkyBooster · May 2012

I'm in the not tacky camp.

CraftyKayla · May 2012

I think everyone expects you to register for a shower so I see no problem putting a little note or one of the inserts on/in the invitation. It's just tacky if you include extra information, like "bring a book instead of a card, etc.." Just my opinion..

patientnwaiting · May 2012

SmileyGirl18:
MandJS:

For showers (rather than an actual wedding, etc.), I have always been told registry information is fine. If you prefer, you can put it on a little insert card, but I really don't think it matters much either way.

Just to be clear, though. Your MIL is hosting the shower - not you, right? You really should stay out of the planning and leave it to the hostess...

Unless your MIL asks for your help. If she wants your imput, you don't want to stress her out and mandate that she makes all the decisions.

She is hosting but has asked for my input. I'd rather stay out of it since I'm just finishing up planning a wedding and i'm all planned out but she wants to make sure I approve of everything and I'm happy to give my input.

Thanks for all the responses everyone.

cwm11985 · May 2012

I think its okay. The point is to "shower" you with gifts. Its not like a formal wedding invitation, its just a shower invitation.

EastCoastBride · May 2012

Yes, for a shower it's fine. I HATE the cards, though. Just a brief line w/ where you're registered is fine.

Registries aren't rocket science- peopl will usually figurfe it out. But still.... in case they dont, making them have to call you or someone just seems silly.

karenmom12 · May 2012

I don't see a problem with it. If anything it might be tacky in a wedding invitation. But a baby shower is for you to recieve gifts right?? I would't be worried about it. I get baby shower and wedding invites with them all the time. I actually prefer it bc it makes it easier and I dont have to ask around to find out where people are registered.

ryry1977 · May 2012

I see no problem with the registry info on the invite (prefer it actually). A shower is for gifts

Invites should go out at least 3 weeks before the shower.

eav2c · May 2012

I think it's tacky. There ate only so many places one can register and guests can figure it out easily. With that said, they can ask the shower host when they call to RSVP where you ate registered. I really see no point in voluntarily giving that jnfirmation.

rhubarb123 · May 2012

I would certainly want it on an invite I received...makes things so much easier. Even the little cards are fine. Even though I RSVP within the time frame I don't want to play cat and mouse trying to get registry info from the hostess...KWIM? It also sounds like your group (since the invites you've received have included the info) like it that way as well.

mhickey426 · May 2012

Definitely OK!! Anyone attending your shower is going to get you a gift so its is just making it more annoying if they have to individually call to ask where you are registered.

RoxyLynn · May 2012

Yes, gifts are given at showers. But it's still rude to push your gift preferences on people who haven't asked for them and may not even be able to attend.

rhubarb123 · May 2012

RoxyLynn:
Yes, gifts are given at showers. But it's still rude to push your gift preferences on people who haven't asked for them and may not even be able to attend.

I would hope that most guests would WANT to know what the MTB's preferences are. Afterall that is the point of the shower...to help her prepare to be a FTM. I mean, afterall, it's possible she has already purchased/received items.

BTW...I got a lot of gifts from people that did not attend the shower.

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