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kittyh8r
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grabbing baby with out asking
kittyh8r
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On Friday I was invited to an uncle's house for a fish fry in honor of another uncle who was visiting. There was a boat load of family who hadn't gotten to see DD yet.
DD didn't sleep like I would have liked her to. I was hoping to get her to their house and lay her down upstairs as soon as we got there so that she would wake up later completely rested and happy. As soon as I walk in everyone stops me to stare at her while she is sleeping. One thing I do not understand is the need to tickle a sleeping baby's foot...WHY? Anyways, so she woke up and I wasn't able to get her back to sleep. So I was sitting with her and talking to a few people for a good 30 minutes when and aunt arrives, sits down next to me, and takes DD without saying hello OR ASKING TO HOLD HER. I know she is family, but DD doesn't know her...never met her...NOT ONCE! So I say "she doesn't like to be held that way" (she was holding her facing in) and she says "Oh, I never killed any of my kids" Um, ok...? So cue DD VERY FIRST melt down. She has never cried like that ever. So I put my hands out to grab her and she swats my hand and gets up and walks away, DD still screaming. I don't know about any of you, but it kills me to hear her cry like that. She is pretty content most of the time, and never has meltdowns. I always know what to do to make her feel better, or stop the crying. So I finally just walk up to her and say give her to me, I am going to feed her upstairs. I go upstairs and cannot get her to calm down, so I left. I was so frustrated with someone just taking her out of my hands without asking and then swatting my hand when I try and take her back to soothe her. She screamed for about 10 minutes in the car and hasn't cried like that since. I think her tummy was hurting because she had her very first blow out. haha it scared DH. He was burping her and she farted so loud it made him jump. ANYWAYS, If she would have listened to me about facing her out...I don't think I would have had to leave.
Has anyone taken your baby out of your hands without asking you? If so, what was your reaction? I think everyone around me was pretty shocked with how my aunt was acting, and some even made comments about how she was perfectly fine until my aunt grabbed her. Okay, my vent is over...
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Re: grabbing baby with out asking
Yes totally rude and weird. You get used to it after a while- there is always someone inappropriate. I am pretty firm though when baby is cranky- i do it fairly gracefully so i dont offend (not that I should care). People always wake up my sleeping baby so annoying. They touch them when I wake into a party and they are sleeping. This is my 2nd so used to it.
Not sure I would have left the party though but that's me...
So not okay. I hate when people don't give a baby a minute to get used a new person before they grab them out of mommys arms. My MIL always does this. I happen to live on the same street as her (not my choice) and whenever we see her, she doesn't even say hello to me she just snatches LO out of my arms. This usually results in a minor to moderate meltdown from my child and I have to take her back and calm her down. I mean for the love of god, why can't she learn her lesson. When MY dad comes over, he actually says hi to me first, makes faces and says hi to LO and then puts out his hands and I give DD to him. She NEVER cries with him. It irritates me sooooo much that MIL can't figure this out. She always says, " why are you crying when you were just fine with mommy?" Because she WAS fine with me and now you've pissed her off. I swear then next time this happens I'm gonna have to say something. I'm sick of having to calm my poor screaming baby down cuz she's a dumb ass. What is wrong with people? I would never do that.
And if anyone ever swatted my hand away when I tried to take MY baby back, it would be the last thing they ever did with that hand.