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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
MamatoA2010
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SAHM vs Working Mom
MamatoA2010
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No, this is not a debate. Was just wondering which one you are. Do you enjoy it? Why or why not? And....go!
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Re: SAHM vs Working Mom
SAHM I love it and can't stand it. I'll never get this time back with my kids, and love being able to watch them grow and play. Because of DH's schedule we have had a lot of family time. Not so much mommy time, I mean I go to the gym but that's about the only hour or two of the day my kids aren't right by my side. I know it's partly my own fault, but I just don't do enough on my own or socially without the kiddos. I miss working sometimes, but not always. Things will seem much better this fall when my kids start preschool for a half day 3 days a week -- I'll have time to breathe, but still be able to be with them a lot.
SAHM
When I only had DS I didn't like it very much, but because of the downturn in the economy,it was actually better for me to SAH than to go to work and pay for daycare or a nanny. He was colic as an infant and very fussy and demanding as a toddler. He was a terrible napper, cried alot, and needed to be held all day. It was hard to go anywhere with him because he had a meltdown every single time. My days were very long and very exausting.
By the time DD was born, everything changed. My DS calmed down a lot and started preschool and became old enough to do many activites and go to all different places and my DD is such an easy girl, she is just an absolute joy to be around all day. She is always happy. She takes a 2-3 hour nap everyday so I get a little downtime and is just so go-with-the-flow. My days are so full and fly by so fast now. I love being a SAHM.
SAHM...
I feel more productive and worth something when I'm home with DS.
When I work, I rarely feel the work I do is worth it. At least that's the case with my last job. Other jobs I've had in the past have made me feel like I'm an important part of society. But for now, I feel this is the most productive I should/can be.
I'm not even really sure what I consider myself. I go to work monday- friday but I work at a fitness center's daycare and have my daughter with me every day there as well as at home. So I do leave the house and work, but I still never get a break.
I love whatever it is that I am though.
SAHM and I pretty much love it for the most part. I require a lot of sleep and would fall on my face if I was to work and take care of everything ....
I do miss the money and wish my dh would get paid the amount he is worth...but for now we make it work.
SAHM, love it. For a lot of reasons, but mainly because I was unhappy in my previous job and staying at home suits me. It's me and DD Tuesday-Friday from noon to bedtime (H works 1-10pm). I work Saturdays and one of the grandmas babysits. Then H is off Sunday & Monday. I've never been happier and I feel very blessed that this has worked out so well. Although it absolutely gets tough at times, I love my time with my daughter. She's my buddy.
WM and I hate it. I feel like I am doing both jobs poorly. I stayed at home for a year and was on top of my family life. I felt organized and in control. I was able to focus on the most important thing to me...my family.
As a working mom, I feel like I cannot fully dedicate myself to either. Work invades my home life, and my home life invades my work life. I do not compartmentalize easily, and I have high expectations for myself in both areas. As a result, I spend most days feeling like a total and complete failure without the energy to fix it.
SAHM, I work weekend mornings and volunteer at a homeless shelter on wednesdays in the winter.
I have a skewed perspective of it and it's hard to answer. The last 2
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SAHM, I work weekend mornings and volunteer at a homeless shelter on Wednesdays in the winter. I value my time out of the home for many reasons as well as being at home.
I have a skewed perspective of it and it's hard to answer. The last 21 months have been overly dramatic and out of the ordinary. Most people on this board know what its been like (5 deaths, a car accident, and ppd), so I can't say I have actually enjoyed it but I do treasure my time at home. I know it's not always possible for moms who want to stay home, and there may come a day that I have to go back to work sooner than I like
However, things are drastically changing and DS and I are getting a little life back so it's improving and I am looking forward to it only getting better from here.
SAHM.
I was in the middle of getting my Bachelor's degree when I got pregnant. I do have my AA, but that isn't going to get you any better job than a high school diploma. Putting the girls in daycare would cost more than another mortgage payment for us, so we thought it would be best for me to stay home. We have decided to have one more baby next summer hopefully, and wait until the girls are in preschool/kindergarten before I think about going back to school. I do eventually want to finish college, I was way too close to being done to quit forever. My degree will be in Music Education, focusing on Elementary, so it would be just perfect if the elementary school down the street would just happen to be hiring a music teacher in about 6 years. Dream on!!
I do love being a SAHM though, I wouldn't change it for the world!
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I actually enjoyed reading all these posts...
I am a working mom. I hate being away from my LO. I use to think my job was ok before my LO and worth the money now I hate it and don't think it is worth it anymore. I don't feel I can relate to most of the working mothers I work with...they are happy to be at work and get away from their LO and I can't get out of work soon enough to go and get her. SAHM is hopefully in the works soon. I have a good high paying secure government job and would love to give it all up just to be with my LO more.
Same for me. Hate my job with a passion! Stressful, long hours and the Occassional unexpected overtime that leaves me out so late DS is sleep by the time I get home. But at the same time I don't think SAHM is for me. I would love something part time!
I am a working mom.
I have a pretty decent gig though when it comes to how many days I actually work. I generally work 14 days a month. My schedule is hard to explain, but I work a 2 day - 24 hour week and then a 5 day - 60 hour week and it flops back and forth. So every other week, I have Mon, Tuesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday off.
The downside, I work holidays and nights, but I feel like I get a lot more time with DS and DH, than I would if I worked a normal M-F job.
There are days I wish I could SAH, but I honestly do not think we could afford it. I also like that we are able to pay off some of our debt and also put some money away.
I feel like this a lot of the time.
I wound up being a SAHM after a lot of unexpected life changes. I worked for a non-profit, lost my job, had some health issues, and then the job market collapsed. The ONLY place I could find work was in retail, and it was minimum wage and not even 40 hours/week. Even with that, my in-laws were offering us some financial assistance. When I got pregnant, I worked up until the weekend before my induction, but daycare in my area is so insanely high that it'd be about double what I was making at my job. So I SAH, look for work, and try to make the best of it.
SAHM
I like it as long as we stay busy and have lots of plans, activities, and playdates. I do not like it when my child is bored because he hates my house and whines all day when we are home.
I am thinking of going back to work PT so that I can kind of have the best of both worlds. I definitely do not want to return to work FT.
Mom who works. I love my career, worked hard for it, and it is a huge part of who I am. I couldn't stay at home with my child. I'm just not cut out for it.
This is me exactly. I cherish mornings, evenings, and weekends, and I definitely have moments of "Mommy Guilt", but I am confident that we are doing the right thing for our family both financially and emotionally.
I think that whether SAH, WAH, or work outside of the home, there is almost always some guilt and second guessing that comes along with your choice.
I am not saying that I am a single parent, I just meant that my husband is out of town, every week all week. He is only here on weekends and even on the weekends, he ends up having to work a lot. I wasn't trying to belittle actual single parents. I just meant that it's just me and Z all week. I didn't mean to offend.