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June 2012 Moms
OU Thursday!
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Re: OU Thursday!
Pride comes before the fall. . . . I can't help but thinK given your seeming expectations that this kid is going to hit you like a ton of bricks.
I think you can decline it where I am, but I was warned that there is a chance the hospital will call CPS if you do. I was also told that delaying it is an option.
It sounds like I've really struck a nerve with some ladies here. If you have chosen to make frozen meals, well, that's your choice. I personally find it ridiculous, if not a little neurotic, to do so. Yes, I'll probably be out of commission for a few days, not a few months.
As for the cleaning, well, I can't imagine asking somebody to clean my house, let alone expect it. Those who expect it, in my opinion, have a little too much diva forth them for my liking. If somebody wants to help you out, that's very kind of them.
Personally, I don't know women in real life who prepare frozen meals in anticipation of their baby's birth, nor do I know any women who have come to expect to be catered to because they've given birth. It's another "trend" I've come to recognize here at the bump.
I work with all women (I am a grade school teacher) and I HATE IT. The girl drama is driving me insane. Also, if you dare voice a direct opinion and stand up to the Plastics then you are painted as a huge b*tch. Which would never stand in a mixed group or dude-dominated office. People are so overly concerned about diplomacy and feelings that nothing gets done.
Is it wrong that I reference Mean Girls while complaining about working with all women?
I'm all for a needle free birth, but I think it's horrible irresponsible to refuse the test. At my hospital, if you don't have the test, they automatically require you to take the antibiotics. Your baby could die if you pass GBS onto him/her.
Calling CPS for that is just crazy!
PregNerd, I honestly don't know how they can force you but it's what I was told. I spoke to the pediatrician about it and he said it will do the baby no harm so it made me feel better.
Do we work together and just not know it? Lol things at my school have been getting worse and worse and I refuse to be a part of it, yet still hear about it. I think half the women I work with need therapy!
My UO (also work-related):
1. Today at work, there were two sub teachers eating with us. It is terribly difficult to get a teaching job in my area and there are layoffs going on like crazy. Yet my coworkers had the nerve to complain about how we don't make enough money and deserve to be treated better. Yet, there are two girls in the room who would probably do anything to get a teaching job. Some people really don't consider other people's feelings and I think it's awful.
I just read a blog about a woman who lost her baby to GBS. She knew she was GBS+, had the round of antibiotics, and her baby still died. I wouldn't risk not getting the test, even though I am really planning on as natural a birth as possible, and testing positive for GBS would really derail my plans, but it is worth it to have a healthy baby.
And in NYS your baby has to have the eye drops. You can't decline or refuse. Check your state- cuz you may not have a choice.
I understand the risks and I talked with my Dr about it- he is okay with my decision as I am informed and not unintelligent. There are horror stories all over the place for doing/not doing all sorts of things. DH and I looked at the stats and the risks and are very comfortable with our choice. Ditto for the eye drops- they don't force things like this on people here and making informed choices don't invole CPS.
I think blindly going forward with whatever test/drug the doctors suggest is fine for some, just not how we choose to proceed.
I just lost all respect for you and your doctor is an irresponsible moron. I really hope if you're positive that you don't become a "horror story." A needle free birth is not worth your baby's life.
Also, I make freezer meals in real life even when I'm not pregnant. Ironically I didn't make any while I was pregnant. Also, I had my babies today and if someone wants to come over and clean my house then I will happily accept it. Happily. I can hardly walk. I can't imagine cleaning, but then again I'm sure I'll be back up to speed in just a few days. Even then I'll still let someone help me if they love me enough to offer. Also, I have and will again, happily clean for new (and not so new) mothers if I feel they need a helping hand. So sad for some people that no one loves them enough to offer. Not naming any names.
I think what you're missing here is that people who "expect" do so bc when the situation is reversed, they do the same for others in their lives. My mother is coming out to help, for which I am incredibly grateful. Just like she and my dad were grateful when I took a week off of work to go help cook, grocery shop and care for my dad after he had open heart surgery. I don't think that makes my dad a diva, but feel free to think so if you like.
"neurotic" and "ridiculous" are pretty extreme words for behavior as innocuous as sticking a few lasagnas in the freezer.
Yessss!
Elonah [3], Bentley [1]
The eyedrops are mandated in my state as well. Boo.
Elonah [3], Bentley [1]