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Beautiful blog post
This was recently written by my friends sister about my friend and her Hs journey.
https://www.christianmamasguide.com/2012/05/15/when-god-says-wait/
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Maybe I'm off base here, but do you really think God is saying, "wait" in all of those circumstances? I mean, I totally see how God took something that Satan intended for evil (infertility) and used it for good (adoption), but saying that "God said wait" borders too close on God causing the infertility/heartache/devastation for me. I see it more as:
infertility = brokenness caused by the fall
adoption = God's amazing redemption in the face of brokenness
the waiting/heartache/long journey we experience in between the two = part of the inexplicable mystery of God's plan.
I could be wrong and admittedly this is coming out of my own experience with the long wait of adoption- I'm just wary of making God the author of something so painful and broken.
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013
I see Jillian's point (btw I am Jill too
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But not taking it so literally I can relate to the bumps in the road... we had plenty before we got to the two babies that were meant for us. Was it God saying "wait"? Hmmm... not sure but I do believe He intended our two babies for US.
For mY journey I believe God was saying wait. He had much to teach me, and though the pain and infertility come because of the fall, He uses that pain in our lives to teach us and stretch and grow us. For me He was saying wait.
I think it was beautifully written. Thanks for sharing.
That is absolutely wonderful! Thank you for sharing.
Oh my gosh I just stumbled upon this blg post I wrote 6 months before our dd was born and 4 failed mathes in:
It might seem like I am being a little dramatic, but I honestly cannot believe we are still waiting. I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. But not bc I lack hope, because that honestly isn?t it at all. It is because I think this is where God has us. He has us in this place of waiting, for whatever reason, and I honestly don?t think it is meant to end anytime soon. So I literally have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
And it scares the crap out of me.What will happen when little L goes home? I will be babyless and Brighton will be siblingless. (I know those aren?t real words). And my heart might be ripped to shreds.I have investigated EVERY route in bringing a baby home sooner and I have felt the holy spirit SLAM the doors on them. Nothing has felt right.So we wait.For honestly, who knows how long.I would love to say that every day I wait patiently in the lord?s plan for our family. But that simply is not the case. I wait because I have to, and some days I stomp my feet. Other days I feel content. Each day is it?s own and each day I try to give it up to God. But some days I fail.I do believe in Gods timing, and though it can be the hardest thing in the world sometimes, I believe we can rest and find peace in the hope that His timing is perfect despite what we a lot of times feel, and He knows what he's doing. Their prayers were answered in an amazing way and they know this little boy was meant for them.
For my DH and I, God is saying "Wait." The poem "Wait" written by Russell Kelfer explains how we view it better than I can. Not everyone views it this way, but this is what DH and I believe God has told us:
Desperately, helplessly, longingly, I cried;
Quietly, patiently, lovingly, God replied.
I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate . . .
And the Master so gently said, "Wait."
"Wait? you say wait?" my indignant reply.
"Lord, I need answers, I need to know why!
Is your hand shortened? Or have you not heard?
By faith I have asked, and I'm claiming your Word.
"My future and all to which I relate
Hangs in the balance, and you tell me to wait?
I'm needing a 'yes', a go-ahead sign,
Or even a 'no' to which I can resign.
"You promised, dear Lord, that if we believe,
We need but to ask, and we shall receive.
And Lord I've been asking, and this is my cry:
I'm weary of asking! I need a reply."
Then quietly, softly, I learned of my fate,
As my Master replied again, "Wait."
So I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut,
And grumbled to God, "So, I'm waiting for what?"
He seemed then to kneel, and His eyes met with mine . . .
and He tenderly said, "I could give you a sign.
I could shake the heavens and darken the sun.
I could raise the dead and cause mountains to run.
"I could give all you seek and pleased you would be.
You'd have what you want, but you wouldn't know Me.
You'd not know the depth of my love for each saint.
You'd not know the power that I give to the faint.
"You'd not learn to see through clouds of despair;
You'd not learn to trust just by knowing I'm there.
You'd not know the joy of resting in Me
When darkness and silence are all you can see.
"You'd never experience the fullness of love
When the peace of My spirit descends like a dove.
You would know that I give, and I save, for a start,
But you'd not know the depth of the beat of My heart.
"The glow of my comfort late into the night,
The faith that I give when you walk without sight.
The depth that's beyond getting just what you ask
From an infinite God who makes what you have last.
"You'd never know, should your pain quickly flee,
What it means that My grace is sufficient for thee.
Yes, your dearest dreams overnight would come true,
But, oh, the loss, if you missed what I'm doing in you.
"So, be silent, my child, and in time you will see
That the greatest of gifts is to truly know me.
And though oft My answers seem terribly late,
My most precious answer of all is still . . . Wait."
Thanks for sharing. Most of the time I can remind myself that God has a perfect plan for our family, but it's always good to have a reminder for those times when I can't see as clearly.
Lafayettegirl - thanks for the poem! I've saved it as well.