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3rd Trimester
DH joined Weight Watchers-kind of a vent
First off, I'm really proud of him for wanting to shed some pounds. He's very active but eats huge portions and I think this will help him.
BUT, he comes home from a meeting last night and starts showing me how I can figure out what to buy at the store and cook for him and calculate points. I looked at him and said, "I want to help, but I also don't want to be solely responsible for your success or failure with this." I told him that he needed to be the one to print off recipes and add things to the shopping list.
He said i could tell everyone at his funeral that I didn't want to be responsible for his success. He was joking a bit but it made me feel like shiit for being so negative.
If this was at any other time in our lives, I totally would have managed it for him since I do the shopping and cooking. But 2 weeks away from a baby with another 2 year old...this is exhausting just to think about.
Anyone have a DH doing WW while you're pregnant? Or is anyone planning on doing it right after birth? How easy/hard is it to figure out? Any experienced WW people's comments are needed and appreciated. Thanks!
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Re: DH joined Weight Watchers-kind of a vent
Poor timing on his part! He should come up with some recipes to help you out - sounds like you have your hands full already! I did WW a few years ago and their website is great for recipes. Send him to it!
I've done WW before. It's the best diet out there in my opinion. Without a doubt, the hardest part is calculating the points/preparing the food. So, it sounds like your DH wants you to take care of the hardest part for him. Who couldn't lose weight if healthy food just materializes in front of them? It's the measuring portions, substituting recipes, etc that's the biggest challenge.
He needs to be the one doing most of the work. He can find recipes, and you can help by buying the ingredients at the store and following the recipes. He can figure out his own portion sizes and calculate/keep track of his points.
I may feel differently if you were doing WW together. Then it'd be easy for you to calculate for yourself and just let him know what the points are...but I see no reason that you need to do the hardest part for him.
I lost 100 pounds with WW, and I will be going back once I have the baby. I find that the points are very easy to figure out and incorporate. There are great recipes on their website, and there are cookbooks you can buy at the store. If you are overwhelmed with figuring out the points for your own recipes I'd recommend using WW recipes as they will already have the points figured out for you.
With your food like chips and such look up the points (or have him look them up) on the point finder, and write the amount on the bag. That way you aren't constantly having to look things up. I think your husband needs to be responsible of keeping track of his own points though. If he doesn't take some responsibility he will fall the second someone isn't doing it all for him.
WHAT?!?!? I hope you are a SAHM or else I'd hit the roof is DH said this to me. Are you typically the sole food-buyer and cooker in the house?
From what I understand, WW is a lot about portion sizing anyways. If he's going to do WW then he needs to figure out what he wants to eat and atleast come up with lists and dish ideas. You aren't his nutritionist.
Wow... that was uncalled for, joking or not.
He needs to take the wheel here with his diet, even if you are the one who does the cooking.
I lost 40 lbs on WW last year - I think it helped us to finally achieve success in our road to conception. I think it is admirable that your DH took the initiative to join. Hopefully he doesn't put all the burden on you now though, he really must accept accountability on his own if he is to be successful with it. Some key things to keep in mind...
Vegetables are AWESOME (most of them count as 0 points)
Fiber is a big plus because generally speaking, the higher the fiber, the lower the points. Fiber One bars were a huge help to me because they kept me feeling full while allowing me to indulge in a "treat" for only 2 pts.
Spray butter was great because it has 0 pts.
WW cream cheese is a low point option that tastes almost as good as the real thing.
100 calorie snacks are usually 2 pts a piece. They might be good to keep on hand if DH is a snacker.
Splenda is helpful in keeping the sugar content in things low, which helped keep the points lower in most cases.
When you are shopping, be aware that just because something is marked as "low fat" doesn't always mean it's a good option.
I would suggest having DH buy a weight watchers calculator, if he hasn't already, and take it with you (or have him take it with him) when it's time to do the grocery shopping. The calculator is easy to use - enter calories, fat grams and fiber content to get overall points per serving. Once you use it a few times at the store, you'll get into a routine of what is acceptable and what is not. Honestly, I had 3 of them. I kept one in my desk, one in my purse and one at home - they were an invaluable part of my success.
GL to both of you!!
I did WW before I had my first ds and lost over 50 lbs, and I plan on doing it again as soon as this lo is born. I wish both you and your husband luck!
However, IMO it?s great that he is sharing the information with you because you do the cooking and the shopping but you can?t do the program for him. He is really going need to step up and help with cooking and shopping (and fixing his own portions) so he learns. If he doesn?t he will NOT succeed on this program. He will blow it when he isn?t home and you?re not around to do it for him.
When I went on WW my husband learned what meal items were what points. LIKE: turkey meat was used rather then hamburger for most things? Chicken rather then pork (pork is a lot of points for little meat)? what snacks were what (he learned to leave MY ice cream alone
). He also helped because if we were going to dinner someplace he would say ?which is easier for you and tracking your points?? This was a great thing because it gave me that extra support I needed to get to my goal. So you can definitely be supportive without doing it for him.
Helpful hints:
Buy a lot of Ziploc bags or individual sizes
A food scale is worth the 30 bucks
Invest in a magic marker and write the points on the containers of food (I had points writing on EVEYTHING until I could recite them in my sleep
)
hope this helps and GL!!!!!!!!!!
Wow thanks girls! I think the WW cookbook is a great idea-no brainer. I've just never looked into it before, so I figured I'd have to become a dietician. And no, I'm not a SAHM. I work from home as a food broker and will have the kids home 2 days a week after maternity leave. It's just easier for me to shop and cook since I don't have the commute that he does. I never minded before, but this threw me for a loop.
I was on it up until I got my BFP, I found it easier to do the Core plan, where you don't have to keep track of points, or even portion sizes, just the ingrediants. It did mean packing my lunch everyday b/c I couldn't have the frozen meals but I could have as much spaghetti as I wanted, just as long as it was the whole grain noodles.
Core was also easier b/c DH wasn't doing WW so it was easier to plan meals around ingrediants rather than making sure my portion sizes were correct
I've done WW as well and the one thing that makes it successful is your sole accountability of what you buy and how you prepare it and how much you eat. I don't think you should be the only shopping and cooking at this point. I understand since you work at home it works out that you can shop and cook, but since he took on this commitment i think he should be willing to commit to it fully.
Since he works, then i suggest that you both do shopping together on the weekends and prepare your menu every Sunday, together!
It's more than that from what I gather. He can have 38 points per day. So the freedom of throwing together whatever we have in the house that day is lost. Most things we eat are IMO "healthy", but it's about portions and sugars and fiber, things I've never given much thought too. Overall I'm sure it's not a big deal to figure out. BUT with a newborn, it will be the last thing I want to "worry" about, you know?
All the comments have been very helpful. Getting a calculator (I didn't even know about that), shopping together, preparing the menu together...all excellent. He will like that I'm being supportive and I'll like that it's not all on my plate (no pun intended).
Thanks again ladies!
I'm sure they'll be a f/u post...or two.
ha i would make him to the core plan instead of the points...
that way he can eat watever he wants on the core list and not have to calculate anything...
u should NOT be responsible for that- its a lot of work- and whats he gonna do if you're not around like when he goes out to eat for lunch at work or something? he has to be able to do this on his own!
it actually is a big hassle- its an entire lifestyle change... i was on ww... its an excellent program, heavy or not....
esp if you track points- you have to plan ahead for meals and stuff... and kno how much points are what...you can only have a certain amt of points a day and thats where the hassle is...tracking them and making sure you dont exceed those points...
and its a whole other story if he does an excercise plan.... cause then you have to calculate and adjust again...
he really needs to be the one to keep track...
but it will be good for your entire family to just eat what he is eating so if you adjust to that...then it shouldn't be so bad...