Question about your DH and Mothers Day....

JBDamonM · May 2012

Does he get it that mothers day when you are TTTC kinda sorta sucks??

I mean I'm not walking around having melt downs or anything this morning, but I'd be lying if I didn't say I feel blahhhhh, and kind of like there are salt in the wounds of the MFI diagnosis today!

Id love it if he just acknowledged this. Even just a simple comment!

Just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this today?

In the meantime happy mothers day to moms of all kinds today! (fur babies, angel babies etc!!)

brookelynpaisley · May 2012

Yes, he knows I'm sad. He sent me a text last night that he was going to be thinking of me today (he's out of town) and he loves me extra special.

ShelleyBQ · May 2012

Agreed- it does suck. My husband does understand that, which I'm really grateful for. He hasn't said anything specifically today, but we talked about it yesterday. It does help to have acknowledgement. I think it may be the same for them on Father's Day.

LtlAngL · May 2012

DH's mom passed away when he was 9, so between that and TTTC, it's kind of a rough day. Every year, I do something with my mom that's not on the exact day (so I took her shopping yesterday,) so DH isn't home being sad on his own. Today, we are trying our best to see it as just any other Sunday. The TV is tuned to Eight-Mile at the moment (very un-Mother's Day-ish.) We will be eating at home so no one at any restaurant asks if we have children, and we are cleaning out the winter clothes and putting out our summer ones.

daiseydooda · May 2012

My DH understands I'm sad, he even said he was depressed today and wishes we could be celebrating our own mothers day. He says he doesnt like to talk about IF to much because he thinks it wont help me, but I encorage him to let me know how he feels so I dont feel alone in this struggle.

JBDamonM · May 2012

ShelleyBQ:
Agreed- it does suck. My husband does understand that, which I'm really grateful for. He hasn't said anything specifically today, but we talked about it yesterday. It does help to have acknowledgement. I think it may be the same for them on Father's Day.

Fathers day is going to suck double in our house this year as DH lost his dad in March

However I'm going to surprise him and take him for a prime rib dinner. The dinner to acknowledge what a great dad hell be when we get there and the prime rib bc it was his dads favorite! I thought of all this yesterday when I saw an ad for a restaurant near our house...no doubt I was feeling extra sensitive on the topic!

At least by the time fathers day rolls around well have a treatment plan defined. Today it's like valentines day when you're single! LOl!

daiseydooda · May 2012

My DH understands I'm sad, he even said he was depressed today and wishes we could be celebrating our own mothers day. He says he doesn't like to talk about IF to much because he thinks it wont help me, but I encourage him to let me know how he feels so I dont feel alone in this struggle.

liz4paws · May 2012

My DH knows I have been dreading today for a while. I lost my mom in December and I've already had a good cry and its barely 10am. I went grocery shopping first thing in the morning because we are making dinner for my MIL, but all I saw were pregnant women walking around and the "Expectant Mother" parking spaces staring back at me reminding me I'm not allowed to park there. I'm lucky I made it through the store choking back tears.

I am lucky to have my husband, he asked me a few times this morning if there is anything he could do for me. It's gotta suck to see your wife be so sad and not be able to do anything.

JBDamonM · May 2012

Hugs to all of you who have lost a mom (and your DH's who have lost a mom.)

I can't even begin to imagine how much that more that makes this day suck!

twinkl5379 · May 2012

Wow, you all are lucky your husbands are so supportive. My H is clueless...I feel like I'm in this on my own b/c he already has 2 kids from his first marriage. I don't think it really bothers him that I haven't been able to conceive. But his 2 kids make it even harder for me.

Sorry to those who have lost a parent. That would make it even harder.

MJ14323 · May 2012

I can't even imagine how much harder this day is for those of you who have lost a mom or DH's mom.

My DH has been great. I didn't think I would be bothered by today but yesterday I realized that I'm going to be very emotional. I told DH and he's been totally understanding. We are just both hoping no one asks us about kids today.

imwithrebel · May 2012

My husband deals with our IF very differently than I do, so while I wouldn't say he understands how I feel about Mothers Day, he definitely respects and supports me through it. He has to work today, so I'm spending a lazy day at home just trying to ignore what day it is. This morning he cut a lily out of the yard and put it in the bathroom to surprise me when I woke up this morning.

tombomb84 · May 2012

DH knew it was tough for me, but didn't realize how tough until he gave me a mothers day card from the dogs and future baby tombomb 2013 and I started crying hysterically. That definitely caught him off guard, but gave us a chance to really talk about why I was so sad.

Durham1008 · May 2012

I don't think he really knows how I feel about it. I probably should've talked to him about it but our schedules have been so crazy lately. We've only talked about what we're doing for our mothers.

Jules10 · May 2012

My DH is clueless. He asked me, "Are you going to be in a funk ALL day today?" Blah! Maybe I will, maybe I won't. Spent the day grading papers to keep myself occupied.