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Vacation without DD
Has anyone gone on a vacation without their LO?
BF's dad is getting married this summer, so we're making a week-long vacation out of it, just the two of us. My mom said it's fine for DD to stay with her and my dad, but lately she's been making me feel so guilty about it. "You should be spending your vacation time with your daughter, she'll benefit from it, just take time off from work and stay home with DD while BF goes to the wedding" etc.
DD spends time aplenty with just me, both during weeknights and during weekends when BF is doing his own thing, so it's not as if she's starving for Mom-time. In addition, I get two weeks off from work a year, so she'll be able to spend my second week off with me.
This will only be my second vacation since she was born; the first vacation was a trip to Disneyland for her first Christmas. I know I'll miss her terribly if I go on this trip, but I'd be able to call her every day if necessary, and I don't think I'll get a chance to meet all of BF's family for a long time after this (they all live either in CA or OR). We considered bringing DD with us, but we're planning on hiking, camping, and other adult-oriented outings with BF's family, and I feel like I need a little time to detox from school, work, and home just for a few days.
So is Grandma right, and I should just stay home while BF goes to the wedding? Or would I still be a good mom if I went away without her for a few days?
BF's dad is getting married this summer, so we're making a week-long vacation out of it, just the two of us. My mom said it's fine for DD to stay with her and my dad, but lately she's been making me feel so guilty about it. "You should be spending your vacation time with your daughter, she'll benefit from it, just take time off from work and stay home with DD while BF goes to the wedding" etc.
DD spends time aplenty with just me, both during weeknights and during weekends when BF is doing his own thing, so it's not as if she's starving for Mom-time. In addition, I get two weeks off from work a year, so she'll be able to spend my second week off with me.
This will only be my second vacation since she was born; the first vacation was a trip to Disneyland for her first Christmas. I know I'll miss her terribly if I go on this trip, but I'd be able to call her every day if necessary, and I don't think I'll get a chance to meet all of BF's family for a long time after this (they all live either in CA or OR). We considered bringing DD with us, but we're planning on hiking, camping, and other adult-oriented outings with BF's family, and I feel like I need a little time to detox from school, work, and home just for a few days.
So is Grandma right, and I should just stay home while BF goes to the wedding? Or would I still be a good mom if I went away without her for a few days?
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Re: Vacation without DD
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How old is your LO? If they are not too young, I say go for it as long as the fallout you are getting from your mom is not too annoying to deal with. Can you compromise and go for 1/2 the week and then come back?
For me, I went on one vacation without my dc, which was my honeymoon. I arranged my other trip away with my then-BF (now dh) as a long weekend when dc was with exh.
Sigur, DD is 2.5. She's spent nights away from me before and always does fine with her aunt or grandparents. Most of the time she'll actually shoo me out the door when I drop her off. I may consider taking half that week and spending it here, depending on her reaction when I tell her about the trip.
Kelli, that is a super good point. I've always thought the same thing about having 'me' time, and I think that between going on this trip and taking the summer off from school, I'll be about twelve times a better parent than I have been. (Not that I've been a bad one, just a super frustrated one.)
I agree that it's important for you to get your time away as well.
I am going to GA for the Buffett concert in June with some friends and I am so looking forward to it. I know I will miss DS but I also need some adult time! My mom is going to keep him and she is more excited about that than I am about my trip I think.
It's good for them to get a break from us once in awhile too I think!
I hope you have a great time!
I'm only going to be gone for five and a half days, then she and I will spend the last two and a half days of my vacation together before SO gets home. I figured it was a pretty good compromise - doesn't push too much obligation onto my parents, gives me time to recoup before going back to work, gives me and DD some good mom-and-me time, etc.
Thanks for all your input, I really appreciate it!