I am getting ready to start my next cycle which will be a medicated IUI cycle. I have decided to leave the "drink till it's pink" camp and move over to the "not drinking while in treatment" camp. My question is for those of you who normally drink, what do you say when people ask you why aren't you drinking? I have heard a lot of people say I am taking antibiotics or something general like that, but that won't fly with my circle of friends and family who are nurses and paramedics.
So how do you answer them when you choose to not drink?
Re: Drinkers who choose not to drink
TTC since June 2010.
DX hypothyroidism, pituitary hyperfunction, and PCOS.
On med/treatment break indefinitely. Not currently trying.
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cheers to that!
While I would love to say something like that to my SIL it just wouldn't go over well. She has to be in everyone's business. I do try to avoid her at most family functions sometimes I just can't get away from her.
Seriously OP, you don't have to give them any kind of excuse. Just tell them that you don't feel like drinking. If they press the issue, walk away.
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Dear Baby Pacheco...
Thanks, SpartanGirl. I usually have one glass of wine, but I'd rather say this if people ask why I'm not drinking.
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Tyler (10/29/08)
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I don't drink in the 2WW, so for me it's usually temporary that I'm not drinking. Then I either say I don't feel like drinking or that I'm the DD.
If it's a longer-term thing, though, (like when I was pregnant with DD or in your case for as long as you're doing medicated cycles) then I say that I'm cutting out alcohol for health reasons. If they argue that one drink won't hurt (I never had anyone say that, but it could happen), then I would say I'd rather just cut it out altogether.
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
Wish that was the case, not so much with my inlaws. SIL is a shove the drink down your throat type of B!tch. World revovles around her....just ask her. Like I said before I try to avoid her but sometimes I get stuck.
If it becomes an issue, order a vodka soda, hold the vodka, and squeeze a lime in it. Then tell your SIL to suck it and stop being such a nosy biiitch.
TTC since June 2010.
DX hypothyroidism, pituitary hyperfunction, and PCOS.
On med/treatment break indefinitely. Not currently trying.
Lots of love to all of my Golden Girls!
The Vagtastic Voyage
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I love it!!! Maybe I will even tell her that Lolli said so, so take that b!tch!!!
In all seriousness I do like the "trying to cut calories" answer. Thanks ladies you all rock!! Especially you Lolli with your straight forward answers.
LOL!!!! That is exactly what I was thinking!
These are all so great! Frankly, for some people I am sure telling someone its not their business works, but I am in a heavy drinking circle of friends and family and we are all in our mid 30s, we know what's up when someone is standing there with a water (whether we ask or not). I am guilty myself of assuming. I have found that the cutting calories thing works the best, as does "I am feeling nauseous from too much last night/this morning at brunch" or "I just had a glass of wine before we left the house" etc. (these are great because it implies recent drinking LOL) I also like the allergies/don't want to mix booze with allergy meds thing, will have to use that!
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It always seems weird to me that people have huge issues with this. To me - "I don't feel like drinking tonight." should be a sufficient enough answer. If you're such a heavy drinker that you friends would go "WTF, you MUST be pregnant then" you should probably reevaluate your drinking anyway. Even if friends pester you just hold up your guns. If they try to force you when you don't want to it says a lot about your friends though. *shrug*
ETA: If you're in a really sticky situation, I think PPs gave really good one-liners for this.
This exactly. I usually order vodka sodas, so I just plan on continuing this trend until I'm ready to tell people. Other nights I might say I have to get up early or I drank too much last night, but those are the only options that will really fly with my friends. They know me too well and to just not drink, I might as well have PREGNANT plastered on my forehead.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14