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December 2010 Moms
jillybean800
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Marriage between first cousins
jillybean800
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So now that Obama came out for gay marriage in the same week that NC came out against it, a lot of people on my FB are saying, "Sure, in NC you can marry your cousin but you can't marry your partner! Ridiculous"
Maybe I'm in the minority here, but am I the only one who actually thinks you should be allowed to marry a first cousin? The risks for children born to these marriages are way overblown...I think the risk goes up by 1%...and people who have rare conditions aren't barred from having children. Also just because you are married does not mean you are going to have children. So why not even allow cousins to get married in the first place?
I guess I'm just coming from the place that I believe any two consenting adults should be allowed to be married (I'm pro gay marriage). To me, that includes cousins. I think I'm in the minority on this one though, haha!
(btw, I do not have a hot male cousin I fantasize about or anything 
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Re: Marriage between first cousins
My first thought was that ya married your first cousin, but to each their own! LOL
Seriously, I don't care what people do...if you want to marry your 1st, 2nd, 3rd cousin or if you want to marry your gay 1st cousin or all your cousins...not my business. But, I personally would not consider hooking up with a cousin...to me, that's pretty gross. Like I said, to each their own.
Well, I have all female cousins - so I't not something I would have ever considered myself... But I agree with you. My thoughts are that if you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, what's the big deal??? H and I were talking about this last night because we saw a commercial for a show similar to Sister Wives. Personally, it's not something I would ever go for, but seriously, they're all consenting adults choosing that lifestyle. Let them live their lives!!!
I'm totally fine with inter-racial couples, gay couples, so why not first cousin couples? Hey, if it makes you happy, what's the big deal - and the bonus, you would already know what type of people your in-laws are :P
I agree with you here too. Although I believe that certain polygamists sects who force children into marriage should be stopped, their situation (Sister Wives) is entirely consensual, and they were all married in their 20's. I mean, hey, I think it's demeaning to women (because you can't be polygamist the other way, haha), but if they are fine with a subservient role, and they aren't being abused or forced into sex, etc. I'm cool with it.
I think it would be a littlw creepy for first cousins to marry. I've always been pretty close to most of my cousins, so I could never see them in a romantic way. I do have a friend that dated her 2nd cousin, but they didn't meet until they were adults. It was still a little weird though.
This is also my opinion!
I am on this team. There is no way I would be ok with my son getting together with his first cousins.YUCK!!!
I'm on this side too. It's just too weird. Now if they were cousins that met while adults and didn't grow up together that would be different but still a little weird. I would not be okay with Lily dating or marrying any of her cousins. It seems wrong to me.
::slides over beside these ladies::
I couldn't agree more! I like to believe that i'm not the type to say 'it's ok as long as it's not my family/kid' but there are def some things that would take a bit of getting used to. It doesn't mean that I'm against it or for it, it just means that it's not something that I look down on. (by 'it' I guess I mean 'other' lifestyles... I hope that doesn't sound wrong, but I think you all know what I mean...)
Ditto!
Yup, no way would I be ok with it, sorry! The thought gives me the hibee jibees (if those are even words) but hey each to their own just not in my family! JMO
Can you imagine how much work that would be?? No thanks, 1 husband is enough for me!
Saw this on FB yesterday:
I learned something today. You can marry your first same-sex cousin in the following states: Connecticut, Massachusetts, New York, Vermont, and Washington D.C.
Personally, the thought of being romantically involved in any way with a cousin really creeps me out.
However, I know it is fairly common in other countries and that those countries think the US is silly for thinking it is so gross.