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Now vs then (MIL vent)

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in March 2012 Moms

I have gotten questions and comments from older women who have had children about why I am doing things a certain way, and I try to explain that all the things I have read say to do it that way.  I don't mind this until every time I see the person (aka MIL) they bring up the same questions.

She comments on how many times I feed DD (she eats about 7 times a day, which is less than the 8-12 recommended times for a newborn), and says that she could end up being obese if I keep feeding her so much.  I tell her that the doctor has told me to keep feeding her like this, and she still asks every time.

Now when DD fusses she tells me to give her sugar water or sugar on my finger to calm her down.  I again explain that this is not recommended any more, but she is set in the way it used to be done and doesn't realize how things have changed.  This really makes me worry about having her babysit DD.  She will end up doing things the exact opposite of what I plan to do.  

Vent over. 

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Re: Now vs then (MIL vent)

  • eyenigheyenigh member

    Those are literally the dumbest things in the world for her to even be mentioning. At worst, you're one feeding under the recommended amount, which is nothing. We feed on demand and sometimes on less hungry days, my son only does six feedings and on hungrier days, up to 12. It varies and depends on your baby. 

    And sugar water? Seriously? There's other ways to deal with fussing without giving her sugar. It's kind of funny that she'd worry about her being obese but then also want to start her on sugar already. 

    MILs get hung up on the most ridiculous things. It makes me glad that everyone smokes at my MIL's house so I made it clear very early that she'd never be babysitting there. I don't trust her for other reasons but the smoking is an excellent excuse. 

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  • raspberry_brideraspberry_bride

    My thoughts exactly about the sugar!  So I am going to teach her to console herself by eating sweet stuff.  That's certainly not going to make her obese.

    You are lucky you can use the smoking as a reason not to have her babysit. 

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  • lullinglulling member
    My mother sometimes does stuff like this.  She likes to look stuff up on the internet and then tell me that what my doctor is telling me to do is not what the internet says.  I will gladly listen to my doctor over some alarmist blogs.  Luckily the things she would do would not ever hurt the baby.  She would simply take many more, ridiculous, precautions than I would because she is hypochondriac. 
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  • lcloffredolcloffredo member
    Yea I am putting off letting my MIL babysit for as long as I can manage!
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