Renewing your vows...

Jillibean85 · May 2012

Do you plan on doing it someday? Would you be opposed to doing it every year? I'm not against other couples doing it, but i personally think it's a little overkill... Maybe at my 10 year mark I'll consider. Has anyone already renewed them?

FrickandFrack · May 2012

I always said I wanted to renew our vows for our 10 year anniversary but that's in 4 years so I'm not sure if it'll happen. It might have to be for our 15 year anniversary.

Jillibean85 · May 2012

kfrix13:
I always said I wanted to renew our vows for our 10 year anniversary but that's in 4 years so I'm not sure if it'll happen. It might have to be for our 15 year anniversary.

Did you decide to push it back so you can plan and save for a trip/ceremony?

wife1014 · May 2012

Maybe at 25 years but anything before that wouldn't even be a thought.

nikipau144 · May 2012

I would think maybe at the 10 year mark. I don't really understand the point of doing this at 1 or 5 years.

MrsSR · May 2012

No, my vows are good for life.

chetrick · May 2012

I thought about it for my 10th anniversary, but that day came and went and life was too busy. As life gets busier and busier (grad school then kid number 2 someday), I doubt we'll ever go through with it. I would rather save money for a great trip or a house.

Jillibean85 · May 2012

Sometimes I wonder if some people that do something wrong in their marriage (i.e. have an affair) feel that the slate is sort of "wiped clean" each year they renew them.... Otherwise i don't really understand why it's done so often.

IrishEyes0530 · May 2012

MrsSR:
No, my vows are good for life.

FrickandFrack · May 2012

Jillibean85:
kfrix13:
I always said I wanted to renew our vows for our 10 year anniversary but that's in 4 years so I'm not sure if it'll happen. It might have to be for our 15 year anniversary.
Did you decide to push it back so you can plan and save for a trip/ceremony?

We never really had anything planned. I just pictured us renewing our vows with our kids by our sides on some beach somewhere but yes, we will need more time to save up.

MonkeySender · May 2012

I think every year is overkill, for sure. I could see doing it if you have worked through a really rough patch, or at a milestone anniversary. I have thought about it at 10 years. If we do, I think I would want to go to Vegas. That is where I wanted to get married, but it didn't happen. I think it would be fun to be re-married by Elvis.

Fulbri05 · May 2012

I don't really get the point, and I do think every year is excessive (I thought only Mariah Carey did this, there are other people that do too??). I would like to eventually go on a honeymoon though, we didn't get to when we got married.

hmp1 · May 2012

I have never thought about it. I doubt we would do it in front of anyone if we did it. We talk about going back to our honeymoon resort every 5 years, maybe we would do it in the little chapel they have.

My parents eloped and had a jop wedding. On their 40th wedding anniversary they renewed their vows at a Sunday church service. They asked us to go to church with them and lunch after to celebrate their anniversary but they didn't tell us they were renewing their vows. It was really sweet and important to them to do it in church.

MoonlitPlumeria · May 2012

We are considering doing a sort of vow renewal for our one year anniversary but that is more for our family than us. We eloped on a beach in Hawaii and none of our family got to be there, so we were considering a vow renewal/reception so they can all be here to celebrate with us.

WestCoastMommy · May 2012

I want to renew our vows someday but I can't decided on 10,15 or 20 years. Yes I think every year is overkill. It would be a destination thing with our kids and close family that wanted to come.

rach10782 · May 2012

I want to do a vow renewal at 20 years so we can go somewhere like Fiji with the kids and they will be old enough to really appreciate it.

kendra223 · May 2012

MrsSR:

No, my vows are good for life.

This! I can't see the point in doing it. It would honestly make me feel silly. Even if we were way older when we did it or even if it were after a rough patch.

We went through justice of the peace. After we did that, I used to say we would renew our vows at some point so all our family can be there. But I think that was something I just said. Now I know it's not something we will ever do. Our family can't afford to all fly out to one place, everyone is too scattered.

AgrippaRidesAgain · May 2012

Goodness, no, we will never renew our vows. Planning a wedding the firat time around was painful enough. We have considered going on big trips at milestone anniversaries, or throwing giant outdoor picnics for our friends and family (that is the reception that we really wanted but were to young to fight for). Two years until our 10th! We are heading back to our honeymoon spot.

klondikebar · May 2012

No. DH doesn't even attempt to wake me up or roll me over when I'm snoring like a chainsaw anymore. He just goes to the guest bedroom. He doensn't need to reiterate some words for me to know he's still in it for the long haul;)

LadyXaverian · May 2012

When we planned to never have kids, we said we'd go to Vegas and renew our vows for our 10th. That will be in September of 2013. We're now thinking of something on a smaller scale, but the vow renewal is still something we'd like to do. If we decide to have a 2nd, I may talk to DH about putting it off a few years until our family is complete.

ETA: After reading others comments I wanted to add that this wouldn't be wedding 2.0. I would not want to plan a 2nd wedding. Ugh! It would be something more private, just for us and our daughter (future child?) Although I can envision renewing them again at a 50th wedding anniversary party or something. I think it's romantic and in no way negates the wedding vows, which were obviously "for life".

KJmashup · May 2012

No. I hate planning shiit.

jlthompson19 · May 2012

We've talked about doing it at our 10 year. But we were married in Vegas by Elvis, so it's really just an excuse to go back sans kids and have a good time. Only 4.5 more years!

anneimal98 · May 2012

Maybe.... I definitely don't think its necessary but it could be nice. Something short, simple, and just the 2 of us or 2 of us plus kids while on vacation. 10 years is just 2 years away for us so not sure that will happen. Maybe 15? We'll see.

BlueRidge8 · May 2012

We are doing it next year (5 years)

But our theme is "It's been five years - but feels more like 35" and we are having a total 80's wedding and afterparty.

For realz. Puffy sleeved dress here I come.

NewFamily09 · May 2012

I don't need to renew my vows. I meant what I said the day we got married. I don't see any reason to repeat it. If DH wanted to do it for our 50th anniversary or something, I would go along with it, but I wouldn't initiate something like that. And we definitely wouldn't make a party or anything out of it.

SecondTimeinMSU · May 2012

It isn't something that I have to do, but maybe at like 25 years if we are taking a nice trip and it isn't a major cost then it might be a nice sentimental moment to say the words again. Also I could see renewing them if maybe you went thru a tough patch and wanted to reconfirmed how committed you are to each other.

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madamsmurfette · May 2012

I like the idea of doing it on a big milestone, but I think it's odd when people do it for random years or especially every year.

jandy09 · May 2012

We planned on renewing our vows at our 5 year anniversary. Mainly bc our wedding was a bust and we should've eloped like we had wanted. We are going to Jamaica again next year, so we might do it then.

j_luvs_r · May 2012

SarahL77:
After reading others comments I wanted to add that this wouldn't be wedding 2.0. I would not want to plan a 2nd wedding. Ugh! It would be something more private, just for us and our daughter (future child?) Although I can envision renewing them again at a 50th wedding anniversary party or something. I think it's romantic and in no way negates the wedding vows, which were obviously "for life".

Exactly my thinking. I was so confused reading the responses about saving the money to go on a trip or something. Renewing vows is renewing vows...it's not about having another wedding. Or, at least that's how I see it.

I know a couple of older couples who have renewed their vows (20th & 25th anniversaries). One couple went to the beach with their kids while on vacation and had a casual vow renewal without even a pastor or other officiant. Another did it in their backyard at their 25th anniversary dinner where their pastor was present. No big planning, no fancy wedding dress or djs.

ETA: I can see wanting to throw a big "reception" like party to renew your vows if you eloped or something like that.

ATMmom324 · May 2012

My husband and I were married in Vegas. It wasn't your typical Vegas wedding as we planned it for almost a year and had most our close friends and family with us. We had so much fun that we talk about renewing our vows every 5 years and doing it over again. I am not sure if we will or not. It is more about going on a trip with all your loved ones then the vows. I agree the vows are good for life.

vflipo · May 2012

We don't plan to. We joked with some close friends that we would do a joint vow renewal at Disneyland sometime, but that's as much planning or thought we've put into it. Doing it annually seems exhausting and meaningless after a while.

2mommiesinoh · May 2012

Kind of a different situation for us. I would never "renew" them per se but as a homosexual couple in a state that currently does not allow gay marriage I would get married if the laws ever got changed or we moved to a state that allowed gay marriage but we would treat it as a vow renewal. We were married in Canada 5.5 years ago and clebrate that day as our wedding anniversary. Even if we were to "renew" our vows (that is what a legal US marriage would be to us) on a different day we would still consider the day we married our wedding anniversary.

hurricanelydiaa · May 2012

Yes, we plan on doing it someday. I'm not sure when, but it is something I really want to do because we never had a wedding. I don't want to do anything huge...but I want to celebrate our marriage with close friends and family someday.

Luckie519 · May 2012

DH said something about doing it this past year. We had some marital issues and I think he was trying to make an effort. We have only been married 2 years and while it was a nice thought, I just didn't think it was a good idea so early on.

Sept1799 · May 2012

No, my vows are for life and no plans on renewing them

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