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I probably should have addressed this a long time ago but my MIL wants to be called "Mom-Mom". That's what my 1 niece already calls her, and I think its a PA Dutch thing. Her husband, DH's stepfather, is "Pop-Pop". I really don't want that because my dad is going to be "Pops" and it's too close.

To me, mom-mom is too close to "mom". Only I am mom. My MIL is a sweet lady and we have a good relationship and I don't want to hurt her feelings but I just don't know how I feel about it and I don't like it. How do I deal with this? The "pop-pop" situation will have to be addressed regardless because my dad's choice of grandfather name definitely takes precedence. 

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  • ebl2ebl2 member
    Personally, I'm a believer in letting the child pick their own name for grandparents. With my first nephew he all of a sudden started calling my mom "gum gum" and she thought it was the sweetest thing in the world that he picked his own name for her. If you wanted to tell your ILs that you would prefer your baby come up with their own name for them they might be okay with that. 
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  • mrsbecky07mrsbecky07 member

    Meh I don't see the big deal.  I had a mom-mom and pop-pop and always knew who my parents were and NEVER called mom-mom "Mom."

    My father is Opa and my SIL's father is "beepa."  my mom is Mimi and her mom is me-mom. All pretty close,but again, zero confusion. If they already go by mom-mom and pop-pop they probably don't want two sets of names, I DID think it was weird when my cousins called my "granddad" their "pop." what, no, he's granddad lol.

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  • tifdaski84tifdaski84 member

    If your neice already calls her that and that's what she's referred to by other family, then your LO will probably call her that too.  We have nieces and nephews on both sides already, so there'll be no new "names" for grandparents for our LO - they'll just go by what they've already been going by for 5-8 years.

    And I don't see anything wrong with a Pop-Pop and a Pops.  I grew up calling all of my grandparents Grandma and Grandpa.  If we needed to specify, we threw a last name on the end.  Easy peasy. 

    This is such a small thing to worry about IMO.  Just go with the flow - your kid is gonna know who her parents are compared to her grandparents no matter what she calls them.

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  • JennyJensingJennyJensing member
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    If your neice already calls her that and that's what she's referred to by other family, then your LO will probably call her that too.  We have nieces and nephews on both sides already, so there'll be no new "names" for grandparents for our LO - they'll just go by what they've already been going by for 5-8 years.

    And I don't see anything wrong with a Pop-Pop and a Pops.  I grew up calling all of my grandparents Grandma and Grandpa.  If we needed to specify, we threw a last name on the end.  Easy peasy. 

    This is such a small thing to worry about IMO.  Just go with the flow - your kid is gonna know who her parents are compared to her grandparents no matter what she calls them.

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  • mrh2009mrh2009
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    If your neice already calls her that and that's what she's referred to by other family, then your LO will probably call her that too.  We have nieces and nephews on both sides already, so there'll be no new "names" for grandparents for our LO - they'll just go by what they've already been going by for 5-8 years.

    And I don't see anything wrong with a Pop-Pop and a Pops.  I grew up calling all of my grandparents Grandma and Grandpa.  If we needed to specify, we threw a last name on the end.  Easy peasy. 

    This is such a small thing to worry about IMO.  Just go with the flow - your kid is gonna know who her parents are compared to her grandparents no matter what she calls them.

    This. My DD calls all of her grandmothers different things. She has Grandma, Mom-mom (my ex-H mom), and she had a Nana (who unfortunately passed away recently). She also has 2 Papas, a Grandpa, and a Grand-dad.

    I do understand what you are saying about the "Mom-mom" thing though. My DD accidentally calls me Mom-mom all the time and I'm sure the real one gets called "Mom" all the time too (much to my chagrin and her enjoyment). But that was an instance of not wanting to be "Grandma" yet, she thought she was too young (even though she was in her late 40's)

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  • babyruth88babyruth88
    we have grandmas and a grandpa. my mom wants to go by nana but thats cause she hates the name grandma. I think its cute though and shes 61 already. shes a grandma :)
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