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After reading three of the previous posts...

MsZoeBMsZoeB
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I am getting afraid. I just read through Megan Grace's story and realize that no matter what we do there may not be a happy ending.

Then there were the two mc posts. How do you stay hopeful? I was feeling really good but now all of the fear is settling back in. 

Maybe we need some mantras?

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Re: After reading three of the previous posts...

  • BabyRN2009BabyRN2009 member

    Yeah I know...and they were all posted right after my introduction!!  Now I'm feeling shy and scared again...

    Some mantras sound like a good idea...

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    BFP #2 - 6/24/09-mc 7/25/09 @8wks
    6/09 Dx w/PCOS--Metformin & Progesterone
    8/09 Dx w/Compound Hetero MTHFR--Neevo, Metanx & BA
    BFP #3 - 1/11/10 - DD1 born 9/16/10 @39w4d, 8lbs 14oz & 20in.
    Heparin from BFP to 34wks.
    BFP #4 - 10/4/11 - DD2 born 6/2/12 @38w1d, 8lbs 11oz & 21in.
    Same med protocol as last time, but heparin continued until delivery.
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  • jen-dalejen-dale member
    There are mantras...go back to yesterdays posts I asked for them :-)
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  • mrsandrews07mrsandrews07
    I know what you mean. Just know that the fears you are having are normal but dont let them consume your thoughts. We've all been there. The beginning is so hard. Stay positive and just think about all the success stories. I am one of them! :)
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  • mistralmistral

    Ya, my thought was that June ended so well for so many on the TTCAL board and July started off so badly for some of those same people :-(  It's not fair that anyone should have to go through a mc once, let alone multiple times.  I just keep trying to remind myself that no matter how much I worry, the outcome of this pregnancy is going to be what it's going to be.  I can only do so much to protect it, and I know I'm doing all I can at this point. 

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  • labbie1821labbie1821

    I hear ya!

    I have the mantras in my bio!

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  • BabyRN2009BabyRN2009 member
    imagemistral:

    I just keep trying to remind myself that no matter how much I worry, the outcome of this pregnancy is going to be what it's going to be.  I can only do so much to protect it, and I know I'm doing all I can at this point. 

    This is what I keep telling myself as well.  I wish I would just let myself fully believe it...

    BFP #1 - 2/1/09-mc 2/5/09 @4wks
    BFP #2 - 6/24/09-mc 7/25/09 @8wks
    6/09 Dx w/PCOS--Metformin & Progesterone
    8/09 Dx w/Compound Hetero MTHFR--Neevo, Metanx & BA
    BFP #3 - 1/11/10 - DD1 born 9/16/10 @39w4d, 8lbs 14oz & 20in.
    Heparin from BFP to 34wks.
    BFP #4 - 10/4/11 - DD2 born 6/2/12 @38w1d, 8lbs 11oz & 21in.
    Same med protocol as last time, but heparin continued until delivery.
    BFP #5 - 3/30/14, EDC 12/10/14!!
    Beta #1-76 (12dpo), Beta #2-238 (14dpo)
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • MsZoeBMsZoeB

    As always thanks Ladies!

    There are times I feel great and then times that I think I am balancing on the top of a mountain and at any moment someone is going to push me off. Being at the top is a great feeling but the fall would really hurt.

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  • vera1127vera1127 member
    I totally know how you feel. We've all had our share of freakout moments. But keep in mind though--out of the hundreds of posts you read on this board, only 3 were enough to scare you. So while the chances are there for all of us that something can happen, most of the time everything turns out just perfectly. You can't let the few posts on here with bad outcomes change your attitude about your own pregnancy (MUCH easier said than done, though). Just hang in there and read those mantras!!
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  • Mrs. DissMrs. Diss
    Unfortunately because of what we've all been through, I don't think we'll ever be able to not worry.  But there will be good days.  As you get further along you'll start to feel better.  I still worry, but not as much. And I don't know if this will help you, but sometimes it helps me - when you think about it logically, there is a much better chance that everything will be fine than that something will go wrong.  I know because we've all had things go wrong, it's easier to focus on that but like pp said, god forbid something were to go wrong, there's nothing we can do about it.  Just try to be positive and know that you're not alone.
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  • ibisibis member

    Megan Grace's story frightens me too.

    I know that a lot of people who've had losses don't find comfort in statistics, but I still use them to reassure myself. If you had an over 80% chance of winning the lottery, wouldn't you play? :) 

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