Just started my 3-month-old in daycare and am looking for long-term advice...
I'm the first member of my family to put my child in daycare. If you were in daycare as a child, I'd like to hear your experiences (good and bad) in relation to how I can make this the best experience possible for my son. Thanks!
Re: XP: Were you in daycare as a child?
I hate to be negative for you, but my daycare experience was miserable. (there is some good stuff coming) I remember clear as yesterday how it felt - I would stand at the window and watch my mom drive away and my heart would ache for her. I was "ok" once they dragged me away from the window, I had one good friend and enjoyed a few activities, but I remember always feeling like an outsider, and never being treated very well. I was miserable from the time she left until the time she picked me up.
My mother will tell you that she wishes she had picked up on the cues - that it wasn't about daycare, but rather, about the fact that this was not the right place for me.
Fast Forward (many) years - I put my DD in daycare when she was about a year. It was miserable. I could tell that she was unhappy and misunderstood at what was supposed to be a very good school. I knew it would be tough but the crying every day upon drop off AND pick up led me to believe that my DD was also in the wrong place. So I kept looking, and after a month, I pulled DD out of the first place and brought her to another facility...
Day 1 was the same. Day 2 - no tears at all. Day 3, the only tears were mine, because DD happily went into the arms of her teacher. I found a place that was good for DD and let me tell you, that girl was HAPPY there. She loved her teachers and enjoyed her friends. She learned so much and I credit her phenominal social skills to having been in the right place for her.
It's so hard to leave your child, but I think if we are observant and pick up on the cues our children given us, we can ensure that they are in a safe and comfortable environment that suits their personality. Just like finding a job - we want a place that suits us - same with the kids. That way, when we leave, we can feel good knowing that our children continue to thrive even without our presence, instead of balling up in a corner, as I so often did.
GL to you!!!
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I am a military brat, both parents were full time military. So that means allot of daycare. I have had experiences with both staff and other folks' kids. With staff, my mom said I was about 6m, a yr, something like that. Well anyway, it was a at home provider, my mom dropped me off while sleep. Something kept nagging her to check on me, she came to the lady's house to find me face down in my vomit. Yea, quickly reported her to the base and police. The other time was with other folks' kids, and they were raising their child as intolerant of ppl of color, to say it nicely. They were throwing rocks and calling me names of that suited the slavery times. My mom noticed I wasnt my usually busy, chipper self and addressed the staff about the kids.The parents ended up withdrawing their kids because they were upset about a women no less colored telling them about their children.
Other than that, I havent had issues. No bullying, mean staff, none of the such. I definitely agree with the PP, follow your instincts. If your kid doesnt act like their usual selves or something keeps nagging at your gut. Check on it. You never know what could happen...or what you're preventing.