anyone else not like the newborn stage???

monkeypants23 · May 2012

ok so I love my LO- but this is freakin hard and i just want to skip ahead to where she's like 5 months old- sleeping in bigger chunks of the night and doing stuff-

Im exhausted- so sleep deprived and just feel ALONE- im sure its all the ranging hormones in my body- but Im with her all day while DH is at work- i try to make plans and see people- but sometimes just feel tied to the house with her-

I feel like all I do is feed her, change her and spend most of the day trying to put her back to sleep- then at 5:30 DH gets home- helps me with her for a couple hours then its night time and he has to go to sleep cause he gets up early for work- so Im alone all night with her....

UGH i just want to see the light at the end of the tunnel- HELP! anyone else feel this way???? if this is how it is- i definetely dont think i will be having anymore kids.......

Ximena M · May 2012

I'm laughing to myself because I could have written this. I spent the last 3 hours feeding, cleaning and sothing baby. I grabbed crackers just to put something in me. I have posted on the bump, using one hand. If I put her down she cries. Finally, I took a supper quick shower and BRUSHED my teeth! Love that I could brush my teeth. DH wanted me to have his 13 year old twins help me with Pilar. When I asked them one wanted to play on the computer and the other wanted to read while holding her. I just walked away. There is no way I'm letting 13 year old girls hold a baby while playing on the computer.

Monicagail1 · May 2012

The newborn stage isn't my favorite either. The first few months are HARD-all work and no reward. But then they get older, and cuter, and start interacting with you and you start to forget the first few months. I still remember the day that things started to turn around with DD1. It was a Saturday and we were just hanging around the house watching football, and I remember at the end of the day thinking we had a good day and I wasn't totally exhausted and frazzled. It was magical, lol.

In the mean time do you have anyone around that can give you a break every once in awhile? Or can your husband watch your DD on a Saturday afternoon so you can get out of the house? Just so you can keep your sanity??

Babbybaby · May 2012

This is going to sound like advice along the lines of "sleep all you can before baby is here because after baby is here you won't sleep any more" but it is coming from my experience.

With DS1 I had a hard time in the beginning for the same reason and I would always wish we were a few months ahead of where we were so it would get easier. Looking back though I kind of regret wishing for him to grow up and not enjoying the stage he was in. You will blink and it will be gone and you can never get this very short period of time back. Enjoy how snuggly and completely lovey they are right now because it will not always be like that.

monkeypants23 · May 2012

Ximena M:
I'm laughing to myself because I could have written this. I spent the last 3 hours feeding, cleaning and sothing baby. I grabbed crackers just to put something in me. I have posted on the bump, using one hand. If I put her down she cries. Finally, I took a supper quick shower and BRUSHED my teeth! Love that I could brush my teeth. DH wanted me to have his 13 year old twins help me with Pilar. When I asked them one wanted to play on the computer and the other wanted to read while holding her. I just walked away. There is no way I'm letting 13 year old girls hold a baby while playing on the computer.

im doing that right now!!! LOL glad im not alone- i havent showered or brushed my teeth yet today- i opted for another hour of sleep while she slept!

ImThisBabysMom · May 2012

monkeypants23:
ok so I love my LO- but this is freakin hard and i just want to skip ahead to where she's like 5 months old- sleeping in bigger chunks of the night and doing stuff-

Im exhausted- so sleep deprived and just feel ALONE- im sure its all the ranging hormones in my body- but Im with her all day while DH is at work- i try to make plans and see people- but sometimes just feel tied to the house with her-

I feel like all I do is feed her, change her and spend most of the day trying to put her back to sleep- then at 5:30 DH gets home- helps me with her for a couple hours then its night time and he has to go to sleep cause he gets up early for work- so Im alone all night with her....

UGH i just want to see the light at the end of the tunnel- HELP! anyone else feel this way???? if this is how it is- i definetely dont think i will be having anymore kids.......

Ditto. Could have written this exact post myself.

monkeypants23 · May 2012

Monicagail1:

The newborn stage isn't my favorite either. The first few months are HARD-all work and no reward. But then they get older, and cuter, and start interacting with you and you start to forget the first few months. I still remember the day that things started to turn around with DD1. It was a Saturday and we were just hanging around the house watching football, and I remember at the end of the day thinking we had a good day and I wasn't totally exhausted and frazzled. It was magical, lol.

In the mean time do you have anyone around that can give you a break every once in awhile? Or can your husband watch your DD on a Saturday afternoon so you can get out of the house? Just so you can keep your sanity??

ahhhhhhhh i cant wait for that day when things turn around!!! thanks for reminding that it will come. And yes i am very fortunate to have help from my mom, MIL, and SIL- so tomorrow i will get a break and tuesday she's geting dropped off at grandma's so i can run errands....

DevonPow · May 2012

I haaaaaaaaated the newborn stage with DS1. He was a very "intense" baby (as my pediatrician put it), I do not do well on lack of sleep, I felt very alone, very much that I didn;t know what I was doing, and every morning I woke up kind of dreading the day, simply because I knew it would be a repeat of the day before and its endless feeding, comforting, changing, etc.

This time around I am enjoying it a LOT more. In part, truthfully, because he is thus far an easier baby. In part because I have a routine for DS1 that DS2 is forced to integrate into which makes the days very structured (which is good for me), but mostly because I have a true understanding this time of how quickly it WILL change. For you right now it is all very theoretical, I know, that they will sleep through the night, have a routine, you will be able to shower and dress regularly, and that you will get a regular life back. It is hard to imagine right now, but it WILL happen. So, even though you may hate the newborn stage, the rest of what comes is awesome

rxbeth · May 2012

Me, me, me!!!!

I could have written this exact post. Then I feel guilty for even thinking this way and wishing away her days and that makes me cry. Being cooped up in the house hasn't helped matters. I can honestly say, seeing how this is now, I don't want a second.

mommy~to~mj · May 2012

DevonPow:
I haaaaaaaaated the newborn stage with DS1. He was a very "intense" baby (as my pediatrician put it), I do not do well on lack of sleep, I felt very alone, very much that I didn;t know what I was doing, and every morning I woke up kind of dreading the day, simply because I knew it would be a repeat of the day before and its endless feeding, comforting, changing, etc.

This time around I am enjoying it a LOT more. In part, truthfully, because he is thus far an easier baby. In part because I have a routine for DS1 that DS2 is forced to integrate into which makes the days very structured (which is good for me), but mostly because I have a true understanding this time of how quickly it WILL change. For you right now it is all very theoretical, I know, that they will sleep through the night, have a routine, you will be able to shower and dress regularly, and that you will get a regular life back. It is hard to imagine right now, but it WILL happen. So, even though you may hate the newborn stage, the rest of what comes is awesome

Me, too. And I am also literally savouring every moment because I had my tubes tied and I know I'll never get this experience again.

luckibrat · May 2012

DevonPow:
I haaaaaaaaated the newborn stage with DS1. He was a very "intense" baby (as my pediatrician put it), I do not do well on lack of sleep, I felt very alone, very much that I didn;t know what I was doing, and every morning I woke up kind of dreading the day, simply because I knew it would be a repeat of the day before and its endless feeding, comforting, changing, etc.

This time around I am enjoying it a LOT more. In part, truthfully, because he is thus far an easier baby. In part because I have a routine for DS1 that DS2 is forced to integrate into which makes the days very structured (which is good for me), but mostly because I have a true understanding this time of how quickly it WILL change. For you right now it is all very theoretical, I know, that they will sleep through the night, have a routine, you will be able to shower and dress regularly, and that you will get a regular life back. It is hard to imagine right now, but it WILL happen. So, even though you may hate the newborn stage, the rest of what comes is awesome

This exactly. I hated this stage for DD but enjoying it now for DS b/c I have perspective and know how qiuckly things get better. I remember with DD the pedi told me that her reflux/colic etc would start to get better at 8 weeks (she was 2 or 3 weeks old) and I started bawling. I had NO idea how I would last another 5 weeks. Now it just seems like a breeze Still hard but just remembering how quickly it goes by. I also am doing things to relieve stress on myself (i.e., taking help when it is offered, gave up breastfeeding earlier this time after it was a big fail. etc).

Hang in there!

hass2001 · May 2012

I also could have written this myself last Saturday. I literally felt like I was dying inside. Sounds harsh but I was a mess. I just wanted to be away from her for like 24 hours so I could compose myself. The day before on Friday the doctor had put me on Zoloft and by Sunday I felt great! I am really enjoying this newborn stage and love being a mom now. I can't believe what a 180 I have done in just a few days. (I also replied to your other post about calling your doc - please don't hesitate to call!! I do not know how I could have gone any longer.)

JFH2010 · May 2012

It's encouraging to read the 2+ mom posts. I've woken up a few mornings feeling utter dread over another monotonous day/night (what's the difference??) of sleep-deprived baby-caring. It's so much harder than I thought it would be, especially without help other than DH. I will say that just this week things are going much better. I've started going to THREE mom's groups (I'm an overachiever, lol) that are just for new moms, and I've found a sleep schedule (for myself) that is keeping me sane. Also, DS seems to have moved beyond the stage of eat/cry/poop/rinse/repeat. He's often in a good mood now and seems much more aware of the world around him. Now that I've written this in a public forum, I'm sure everything will go to hell! But FWIW at 7 weeks I'm starting to see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.

metucker · May 2012

I feel the exact same way. I never thought I would be one and done, but it has now def crossed our minds.

katieluke1983 · May 2012

People keep telling me things will start to change after 6 weeks. THe only thing about that, that I hate is I go back to work at 8 weeks and feel like Im going to leave him and someone else gets to enjoy him after I've done all the hard work...lol

I know it will get better, we have good days and bad days, today has been a mediocre day, we had a good night just woke up to feed every 3 hours. But today when he has been awake he was screaming and just seems to hate life lol

We are also in the boat of we may be done after one. Of course we were alwaysplanning to wait a while since Easton has his cleft lip & palate and the next couple of years could be full of Doctors and surgeries, we definitely do not want to be pregnant and ave a new born while Easton needs so much attention, but I think at this point we're also totlaly OK with only having the one.

maccalovah · May 2012

I'm so there with you...I don't really have anyone to help me, and DH's help is limited, because he's at work all day and then goes to bed in order to get sleep. It's hard not to want to punch him when he gets his 8 hours of blissful uninterrupted sleep.

But I'm really encouraged to see the responses here- knowing there is an end to this stage is beyond helpful...

gwennec · May 2012

Yes, it gets better. It's funny I felt exactly the same way with my first. Days and nights seemed endless and I just wanted to fast forward to when she was a year old. I was exhausted all the time and all the days blended together. My husband and I were fighting since neither of us were getting any sleep. But now that I have another newborn, it is totally different. I am actually enjoying these moments since I now realize they do not last.

Take care of yourself, make sure you have someone to help you. Do you have any family that can come over and watch her for a few hours? It is important you get some sleep. Can DH watch her more on the weekends so you can take a nap or sleep in one morning?

I thought I hated the newborn stage too, but I really love it now with my second. I appreciate the slower pace after having a now high energy toddler around.

Things will get better. Hang in there!

katieh1017 · May 2012

I'm there with you. The no sleep part really gets to me. I'm actually ok during the day, I feel normal but the nights kill me. She's up every 2 hours, sometimes every hour and sometimes if I'm lucky 3 hrs. DH is back to work and I'm in the bedroom alone with her while he sleeps on the couch. He does maybe 1-2 feedings a day, everything falls on me. I'm exhausted and yearning for sleep!

jesbeth · May 2012

I could have written this as well. And forget trying to work out and lose weight. Ugh.

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