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LoveActually55
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YOUR dad in delivery room
LoveActually55
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Do you plan on having your father in the delivery room? My dad was in with my sister, I think it will just be me and my mom and MIL and maybe SIL. Idk. Do you guys have any plans as to who's allowed in the delivery room?
Me: 34 Mild Thin PCOS DH: 36
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Re: YOUR dad in delivery room
No way. No way.in.hell. It would have only been me and DH.
ETA: I have GREAT relationship with my dad, but just no way.
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My BFF had her dad in the delivery room. She claims he couldn't have seen anything. I know I haven't really experience childbirth, but I can't comprehend how he didn't see anything/
I personally don't want my dad in there, and he doesn't want to be in there.
If we ever have biological children, no way Jose!
Ideally I'd like me, MH, and a doula.
Me: 34 Mild Thin PCOS DH: 36
5 Clomid & TI= BFFN
IUI-IVF coming Soon...
It will just be me and DH.We have too many mothers/grandmothers to fairly allow anyone else to be in there.
Also, my dad didn't bother to show up to my own birth so I highly doubt he would want to be there for a grandchild.
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My first time around it was me and my mom, with 15 hospital employees. Including a scrubby janitor with a large rolling trashcan. Don't ask my why he was there.
I plan on having any future babies at a local birth center. So it'll be me, MH and two or three attendants
Nope. I would have let my mom in if it were a vaginal birth (besides H, I mean) but he was breech and we had to plan a c-sec where it's only you and one other (H, of course)...BUT...LO decided to arrive early which was NOT allowed because of the circumstances. So...Emergency C-Sec = I'm the only one in the room (and I was knocked out). Poor H thought that when they went to tell him "It's a boy etc etc" that they were coming to get him to go into surgery with me, instead they told him he could go the nursery to see his son.
Ollie was born to a room full of doctors and H didn't get to cut the cord and I didn't get to hold him until 5 hours later when I woke up.
Sounds like DD's birth. Why did you have to get knocked out?
I'm w/you 100%. I know my mom is going to pull the 'but you're my daughter/I'm your mother' card and assume she gets to do whatever she wants. I know she'll try and make me feel bad about it but oh well.
I definitely do not want anyone in there besides H and the hospital staff when it's time to push. If I'm feeling ok beforehand then yes people can come in.
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They were going to give me an epidural but there was no time, the had to cut me open immediately because he was coming out. Like they had to push his little feet back in while simultaneously starting to cut me open. They had to put that mask on me and conk me out/put me under ASAP. He came fast. I'd only been in the hospital 30-45 min. I'm afraid with #2 I won't even make it to the hospital. (Fear)
Under NO circumstances. Ever. Absofuckinglutely not. Ew.
ETA: You do all realize that the delivery room involves a baby coming out of your VAGINA, right? As in your vagina. Vagina.
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This. Me,DH, and my sis.
For my first baby my parents were both in the room during labour but left when it was time to push. I was pretty quiet through most of it but when it got close to pushing and I was in a lot more pain my father was ready to leave.
For the second my son visited, my mother and my ex-mil dropped by. The hospital is pretty open to letting you have whomever you want to come in.
This time I want to be alone with my husband. I want the kids to come by throughout or at least the end when the baby is just newly born. (maybe come by when it's almost time and come in just after) I doubt they will want to...teen boys will probably want to be at home.
If a relative wanted to be in I don't think I would care as long as they are gone for the pushing.
EDIT IT is possible to have them not see anything. I was clothed during labour and during any checks people would either leave or go behind the curtain. (It was a large room that could be separated by a curtain)
If you are clothed during labour and the person leaves when they check internally and during the pushing, it is possible for someone not to see anything. My father was in the room during labour for my first and he left everytime a nurse or doctor came near me and he left during the pushing. He saw nothing. I had a nightgown on the whole time. I have seen people who labour in very little clothing but that was not me. I could not be comfortable like that. I have a friend who was naked. I wouldn't be able to do it.
One of the reasons we will plan a home birth is because I don't want a big hullabaloo. I want things calm and as peaceful as possible. I don't want a ton of people around that I feel like I have "host" while I'm giving birth.
Even if I have a hospital birth I wouldn't want them there until after the delivery. I love my family dearly, but having them there would only stress me out. My parents are rather opinionated people, and MH and I are making different decisions regarding birth and parenting than they did. Their choices were totally valid and worked well for them; they are just not a good fit for us (we're kinda hippie/crunchy). I don't want to have to hear their opinions and criticism when I'm trying to push a baby out of my vagina, nurse for the first time, or I'm already extremely emotional.
Most of all, I'm excited that the birth of our first child will be an intimate joy and memory that MH and I can share together.
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With DD it was my FI and FMIL because my own mom wasn't there so I wanted her instead. I could have cared less if my FFIL because he was hanging out watching the football game. But he chose to leave.
With my next child it will be just me and my FI. Because I will have my ILs watch DD.
My mom does this too. When we got married she gave me a guilt trip about wanting both her and my dad to walk me down the aisle. I was going to ask them both to do it anyway, she just never gave me the chance to ask before she decided to guilt me...sigh...
Now that I'm married and we live farther away, its gotten better.
No freaking way. And with the gown up to my armpits and a huge mirror there is no way he wouldn't have seen it all.
There was me, DH, OB, MW, MW assistant and a NICU team of at least 4 people and that was all fine. But my dad? No.
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