So after TTC for almost 2 years and dealing with PCOS and MFI, we are doing our first IUI this month. I had my day 1 ultrasound last week and the next one will be next week.
My question is, my hubby works about 30 minutes from our doc's office. I on the other hand work 1 block from it.
He is (obviously) coming to the actual IUI appointment, but it sounds like he is deciding not to come to the next ultrasound (didn't come to last week's either). Should I be upset about this? Part of me wants him there because we are supposed to be a team in this and he should know whats going on. Part of me gets wanting to save his PTO and it is a long drive for a 2 minute ultrasound.
Any opinions to help prevent an unnecessary freak out by me?
Re: First IUI, need opinions
I think this is a per-couple unique scenario....but, in our case, DH only came with me to the first consultation appointment.
Having an u/s every 2-3 days during the first 2-3 weeks of each cycle (that's been the case for each of the injects cycle), it would be unfair to ask DH to try to get out of work for all of those. Especially when the u/s lasts all of 5 minutes, anyway. For me, I don't need him there with me -- heck, he hasn't been there for any one of my IUIs.
But, again, I tend to be highly (if not overly) independent, and DH is an attorney and not able to get out of the office a whole ton, so this works out very well for us.
IUI #1; m/c;c/p 3/15/2012
IUI #2: Clomid, ovidrel trigger, prometrium;4/5/12; BFFN; IUI #3, clomid and injects; Beta June 8th????
Dealing with MFI, good count, good motility, 3% morph-HSG all clear, all other test results came back normal, IUI is our next step
May 2012- Clomid 50mg + IUI = BFN
June- Cycle Break
July- Forced cycle break due to cysts
August- Femara, Trigger, IUI#2= ?
Me - Right Tube blocked & Hashi's. DH - Fine
Trying for baby #2 since July 2011
6 natural & 6 medicated cycles, all BFN. 1 missed mc in 10/11.
Surprise natural BFP on 6/18/12, CP on 6/27/12
Began stims (Bravelle & Menopur) for IVF #1 on 7/20/12
ER on 8/2 , 7R, 5F ET on 8/7, 2 embies transferred
Beta #1 - 231 (9dp5dt), Beta #2 - 695 (12pd5dt)
After 2 years of IF workups/treatments and 2 IUIs, we have closed the door on fertility treatments.
We are very excited to be pursuing international adoption from China!
6000 miles and a day
My DH is military, so there are very few appointments that he actually gets to go to. He was luckily able to be in the room for my HSG, SIS and both IUI procedures, but he's never been to an ultrasound or b/w appt.
I don't feel like he's missed anything by not being there... but that's just my opinion.
Dx Hypothyroid 2009 - Dx PCOS 3/2011- TTC since March 2010
DH: Perfect
April 2011 - HSG - Normal/Clear but tilted uterus
May 2011 - Start Metformin
June 2011 - SIS - Arcuate but normal uterus
July 2011 - 100mg Clomid Cycle cancelled - No response
August-September 2011 - Break for oral & eye surgery
Oct 2011 - Femara 7.5mg + Metformin 1500mg + Novarel trigger + IUI #1 = BFN
Nov-Mar 2012- Break due to DH ship schedule
April 2012 - Femara 7.5mg + Metformin 1500mg + Novarel trigger + IUI #2 = BFFN
May 2012 - Femara 7.5mg + Metformin 1500mg + Trigger + IUI #3 = BFFN
June 2012 - Femara cycle cancelled - No response
Jul-Aug 2012 - Break, getting our financials in order
September 2012 - IVF w/ ICSI and AZH
9/11/12 - ER (34 retrieved, 24 mature, 18 fertilized)
9/16/12 - ET - 5dt of 2 perfect blasts and 7 frosties!!!
Beta #1 - 10/1/12 - BFP!!! 2000+
Beta #2 - 10/3/12 - 4881
Beta #3 - 10/5/12 - 8570
First u/s - 10/9/12 - 6w0d - 2 sacs!!!
Second u/s - 10/16/12 - 7w0d - 2 babies with 2 strong hbs!!
First OB appt - 11/5/12 - "Baby A" looks great, good hb and movement, measuring 10w0d
"Baby B" stopped growing at 8 weeks :0(
12/5/12 - Baby looks great at 14w2d - 165bpm heartrate!
January 4th, 2013 - Lost our Baby Girl, Faith at 18w3d
Emergency D&C to clear infection
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