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kristykay123 · April 2012

ChancieMark:
keelyd:
kristykay123:
keelyd:
I thought the WTP thread was totally passive aggressive (esp. In the spirit of check-ins, and since I don't "fit" into any of these others) and not particularly funny. The "it isn't done this way" mentality of this board sometimes is totally lame.
It was a joke. Just like half of the stuff that is posted on here. I don't fit in anywhere but the waiting for something thread either and I didn't take it personally. If you can't laugh about this whole journey, what can you do?
I totally got that it was a joke. Some days though--esp. when not fitting anywhere is getting frustrating--the jokes come across as cold-hearted. It's kind of the innate problem w/ everything being in text -- none of us every really get a true sense of someone's intended tone. Obviously, this is the cause of most of the drama on the board most days. Yesterday, I definitely wasn't feeling it.
I think you are taking it too seriously. KellyRN has been through hell, she can make a joke.

Exactly. It was a joke and wasn't even towards you or the "waiting to do somethig" thread. I think you're taking this a little too much to heart. It was in no way "cold hearted" or trying to be "drama". It was meant to get a good laugh.

landosmommy · April 2012

ChancieMark:
LindsRockies:
kestock120:
I know this will probably get me flamed big time, but when I see a parent pushing their baby in a stroller or in a shopping cart across the parking lot and they light up a cigarette I automatically categorize them as a shittty parent.

Ditto. Also if you have your kids in Wal-Mart at 11:00 at night.
Ooooh, I do this too. Why are your kids still awake?!

I do the same thing!

brookelynpaisley · April 2012

ChancieMark:
LindsRockies:

kestock120:
I know this will probably get me flamed big time, but when I see a parent pushing their baby in a stroller or in a shopping cart across the parking lot and they light up a cigarette I automatically categorize them as a shittty parent.

Ditto. Also if you have your kids in Wal-Mart at 11:00 at night.

Ooooh, I do this too. Why are your kids still awake?!

Or anywhere, for that matter. DH and I like to go to eat late on Friday nights. Like 9. We usually go to sports-bar type places. Sometimes there are toddlers or preschoolers. And they're probably incredibly tired and acting like normal small children. Yet their parents will be leisurely sipping on beers while their kids are having meltdowns.

They don't seem exactly flame-worthy to me, but my confessions are that I seriously side-eye and judge parents who 1. push the limits of their kids by taking them to restaurants at 9pm and 2. don't remove their children from disturbing others when the meltdown occurs. If your kids can't be in public without causing a scene and disrupting my night out with my husband (especially when they shouldn't be out in the first place) remove them.

angelsnight · April 2012

I cannot buy greeting cards without tearing up as I read them. It's kind of embarrasing to be in the middle of the card aisle with glassy eyes.

angelsnight · April 2012

brookelynpaisley:
ChancieMark:
LindsRockies:

kestock120:
I know this will probably get me flamed big time, but when I see a parent pushing their baby in a stroller or in a shopping cart across the parking lot and they light up a cigarette I automatically categorize them as a shittty parent.

Ditto. Also if you have your kids in Wal-Mart at 11:00 at night.

Ooooh, I do this too. Why are your kids still awake?!

Or anywhere, for that matter. DH and I like to go to eat late on Friday nights. Like 9. We usually go to sports-bar type places. Sometimes there are toddlers or preschoolers. And they're probably incredibly tired and acting like normal small children. Yet their parents will be leisurely sipping on beers while their kids are having meltdowns.

They don't seem exactly flame-worthy to me, but my confessions are that I seriously side-eye and judge parents who 1. push the limits of their kids by taking them to restaurants at 9pm and 2. don't remove their children from disturbing others when the meltdown occurs. If your kids can't be in public without causing a scene and disrupting my night out with my husband (especially when they shouldn't be out in the first place) remove them.

This! Last summer MH and I went to a local racetrack. We got there at 7 and there was a young couple in front of us with a baby about 6-8 months old.

It's bad enough they brought him there in the first place, it's loud, dirt flies around and it was starting at what probably should have been his bed time. By 9 he looked miserable, they were trying to get him to sleep in their arms but he was fussy (I wonder why) and they kept passing him from family member to family member trying to get him to sleep. They were still there when we left at 11.

The couple looked very young, like still late teens maybe, but I don't think it takes a genious to know a little baby shouldn't be out late and around all that noise, and they were with plenty of family members that should have known better as well. I felt so bad for him.

kelle017 · April 2012

rrdiva1:
My Confession is I interpret (sign language) at my church at the service time that has a lot of people. 100's. I do not know if I can handle being in front of everyone while they have special mother's day services, praying I don't break down. I actually thought about "skipping service" for that day. I prob. won't,because I know what I do is needed, but I know it will be beyond hard because they usually call all the mothers to the altar to pray for them and it feels like crap when only a few are left.

I get the feeling, my church used to do that. The last few years they started doing a service about women as a whole and every woman gets a carnation when they leave the church.

URMySunshine77 · April 2012

saintpaulJess:
Baby dust doesn't make me think of sneezing, it makes me think of cremation.
I know that's a horrid, awful, very bad thing to say. :-( Flame away.

You're hilarious. I've got a sick sense of humor.

URMySunshine77 · April 2012

Landosmommy,

I know that you're BFP, but I don't want you to leave the board.

Go Giants!

URMySunshine77 · April 2012

bdcram:
URMySunshine77:
Landosmommy,
I know that you're BFP, but I don't want you to leave the board!
Is this your FFFC because I don't think anyone would flame you for it. I don't want Lando to leave TTGP either.

Sorry. I'm still getting used to the acronyms and don't know what FFFC means in relation to flaming.

I deserved to get flamed the other day for my jealous diatribe about women pushing strollers. It came from a hormonal place and I've learned not to put bad mojo on the board when I only wish fellow TTCers well.

rrdiva1 · April 2012

kelle017:
rrdiva1:

My Confession is I interpret (sign language) at my church at the service time that has a lot of people. 100's. I do not know if I can handle being in front of everyone while they have special mother's day services, praying I don't break down. I actually thought about "skipping service" for that day. I prob. won't,because I know what I do is needed, but I know it will be beyond hard because they usually call all the mothers to the altar to pray for them and it feels like crap when only a few are left.

I get the feeling, my church used to do that. The last few years they started doing a service about women as a whole and every woman gets a carnation when they leave the church.

That is a really nice idea, and this way people are not left out!!!!

landosmommy · April 2012

URMySunshine77:
Landosmommy,
I know that you're BFP, but I don't want you to leave the board.
Go Giants!

Awww thanks.

Its tough leaving all my good friends behind too. I'll be around though.

landosmommy · April 2012

URMySunshine77:
bdcram:
URMySunshine77:
Landosmommy,
I know that you're BFP, but I don't want you to leave the board!
Is this your FFFC because I don't think anyone would flame you for it. I don't want Lando to leave TTGP either.

Sorry. I'm still getting used to the acronyms and don't know what FFFC means in relation to flaming.
I deserved to get flamed the other day for my jealous diatribe about women pushing strollers. It came from a hormonal place and I've learned not to put bad mojo on the board when I only wish fellow TTCers well.

FFFC= Flame Free Friday Confession.

Shayliz · April 2012

keelyd:
kristykay123:
keelyd:
I thought the WTP thread was totally passive aggressive (esp. In the spirit of check-ins, and since I don't "fit" into any of these others) and not particularly funny. The "it isn't done this way" mentality of this board sometimes is totally lame.
It was a joke. Just like half of the stuff that is posted on here. I don't fit in anywhere but the waiting for something thread either and I didn't take it personally. If you can't laugh about this whole journey, what can you do?
I totally got that it was a joke. Some days though--esp. when not fitting anywhere is getting frustrating--the jokes come across as cold-hearted. It's kind of the innate problem w/ everything being in text -- none of us every really get a true sense of someone's intended tone. Obviously, this is the cause of most of the drama on the board most days. Yesterday, I definitely wasn't feeling it.

I'm sorry you thought it was poking fun at you, I don't think it was. But - I also thought it was a stupid check-in and not funny.

laurapacheco · April 2012

kleigh926:
On Wednesday I decided that after only 2 weeks, I'm giving up trying to run to get in shape. I thought starting out slow and only running about a half mile would help me like it more and stick with it. Nope, I HATE it. So I switched to an easier fast walk with my dog instead. I keep telling myself it's better than nothing...

This is so true kleigh! If you don't truly enjoy it, you're never going to keep it up long-term. I've tried several times to get into running also, but at the end of the day I just don't enjoy it as much as the long walks I take with DH most evenings and the group fitness classes I take with my coworkers during our lunch hour. Hang in there & GL!

Totally unrelated, but did you catch that Caps game the other night?! Woohoo! :-)

SpartanGirl24 · April 2012

bdcram:
Last weekend I was bored so I went into a Buy Buy Baby store. I walked around and browsed like I was supposed to be there. I saw a crib that caught my eye so I went over to it to inspect it and a sales person came over and asked if I needed help. I told him I was just looking and he made a face and said, "Fooooor you or someone else?" My reply? "For me, I just found out." (Yeah. I know, stupid.)
He stared at my stomach for a second and said, "Well, if you have a November due date you could purchase the crib now and we can keep it in our basement until you're ready to pick it up." I thanked him for his help and walked out of the store and cried in my car for a good 10 minutes.

Ohhh cram! Hugs!

notkateanymore · April 2012

bdcram:
Last weekend I was bored so I went into a Buy Buy Baby store. I walked around and browsed like I was supposed to be there. I saw a crib that caught my eye so I went over to it to inspect it and a sales person came over and asked if I needed help. I told him I was just looking and he made a face and said, "Fooooor you or someone else?" My reply? "For me, I just found out." (Yeah. I know, stupid.)
He stared at my stomach for a second and said, "Well, if you have a November due date you could purchase the crib now and we can keep it in our basement until you're ready to pick it up." I thanked him for his help and walked out of the store and cried in my car for a good 10 minutes.

BTDT...I'm sorry you cried. I know exactly how you felt.

kleigh926 · April 2012

slightlyslapdash:
kleigh926:
On Wednesday I decided that after only 2 weeks, I'm giving up trying to run to get in shape. I thought starting out slow and only running about a half mile would help me like it more and stick with it. Nope, I HATE it. So I switched to an easier fast walk with my dog instead. I keep telling myself it's better than nothing...
kleigh, I have a cousin that's a doctor. He is always telling his patients to do a brisk walk instead of a run, especially if you're more likely to do it. It's easier on your joints and when it comes down to it, he said that the walking ends up being almost just as beneficial. You're going the same distance, just more slowly.
HTH!

Thanks, that definitely makes me feel better! I thought I had heard that walking can be better for you than running in some ways too. Not as hard on your joints and all that. And I am certainly more likely to walk than run. I guess I just always had this aspiration of being a runner and I'm not sure why. But it's just not for me.

kleigh926 · April 2012

slightlyslapdash:
kleigh926:
On Wednesday I decided that after only 2 weeks, I'm giving up trying to run to get in shape. I thought starting out slow and only running about a half mile would help me like it more and stick with it. Nope, I HATE it. So I switched to an easier fast walk with my dog instead. I keep telling myself it's better than nothing...
kleigh, I have a cousin that's a doctor. He is always telling his patients to do a brisk walk instead of a run, especially if you're more likely to do it. It's easier on your joints and when it comes down to it, he said that the walking ends up being almost just as beneficial. You're going the same distance, just more slowly.
HTH!

Thanks, that definitely makes me feel better! I thought I had heard that walking can be better for you than running in some ways too. Not as hard on your joints and all that. And I am certainly more likely to walk than run. I guess I just always had this aspiration of being a runner and I'm not sure why. But it's just not for me.

kleigh926 · April 2012

Ugh, sorry for the bump burp, I hate bumping from my phone.

Laura, I didn't catch the game but heard they won in OT!

Yellow415 · April 2012

LindsRockies:
dnh2486:
LindsRockies:

kestock120:
I know this will probably get me flamed big time, but when I see a parent pushing their baby in a stroller or in a shopping cart across the parking lot and they light up a cigarette I automatically categorize them as a shittty parent.

Ditto. Also if you have your kids in Wal-Mart at 11:00 at night.

Along these lines... I hardcore judge people who smoke. It's not 1955 and we don't know what happens when you smoke. I swear, I understand the science of addiction. But what compelled them to start in the first place?

I watched my mom die from a rare form of cancer. Then I see people smoke which we KNOW gives you cancer and 100+ other problems and it blows my mind. And please, spare me the line of "other stuff gives you cancer and we still do it" crap. I think cigarettes should be illegal. They've outlawed parts of plastic that *may* be linked to cancer for water bottles, but cigarettes are still around? I don't understand.

/vent.

I hope you're joking. Do you realize how much manpower (not to mention tax dollars) would go into enforcing that? Yes, let's clog our prisons with not only people convicted of petty marijuana crimes but for cigarettes as well. Of course we'll need to parole even more violent criminals to make room for that influx.

My vote? Make marijuana legal and tax the sh!t out of it. Just like tobacco and alcohol.

Cigarettes will never be illegal because Big Tobacco has unlimited funds and resources to throw at legislators that vote in their favor. It will never happen.

Exactly this. FTR, I'm not a smoker either and while I think cigarette smoking is a disgusting habit, outlawing it is just dumb.

notkateanymore · April 2012

I think Michelle Duggar treats her ute like a clown car and I have zero respect for the way she's decided to raise her children and grow her family.

MiniSteph · April 2012

My confession- I've been watching 16 and Pregnant on MTV's website when DH isn't home. When I hear the door unlock I immediately shut down the website like I'm hiding porn from my parents...

angelsnight · April 2012

kleigh926:
slightlyslapdash:

kleigh926:
On Wednesday I decided that after only 2 weeks, I'm giving up trying to run to get in shape. I thought starting out slow and only running about a half mile would help me like it more and stick with it. Nope, I HATE it. So I switched to an easier fast walk with my dog instead. I keep telling myself it's better than nothing...

kleigh, I have a cousin that's a doctor. He is always telling his patients to do a brisk walk instead of a run, especially if you're more likely to do it. It's easier on your joints and when it comes down to it, he said that the walking ends up being almost just as beneficial. You're going the same distance, just more slowly.

HTH!

Thanks, that definitely makes me feel better! I thought I had heard that walking can be better for you than running in some ways too. Not as hard on your joints and all that. And I am certainly more likely to walk than run. I guess I just always had this aspiration of being a runner and I'm not sure why. But it's just not for me.

No I get it, I've tried many times to make myself like running but I just don't. Every now and then I can get into a groove on the treadmill where I feel pretty good, especially if I have some good music pumping me up. But that's rare....I usually cannot breathe, get pains in my legs, in my sides....then I am often sore and in pain for the rest of the day. But yet I still so badly wish I could run and love it....runners make it look like a lot of fun.

I've decided to just walk (do you pump your arms when you walk? I don't know why but it really does help you go faster...you feel a little silly at first but oh well) most of the time and to only jog when the spirit moves me. If I try to force myself when I don't want to, that will never work. I find it funny though, I'll be running what feels like really fast and the treadmill is at 4.5, then I'll look over at someone doing a very casual jog and their treadmill is at 6.5, haha.

lulamagoo · April 2012

{{{HUGS}}}Yellow, Diva, Cram, MrsKitton{{{HUGS}}}

Linds, I agree. Make marijuana legal and tax the hell out of it. I think it is going to be on the CO ballot, should be interesting.

My FFC: DH and I have barely had sex this month, not sure how that is supposed to make a baby. He is super stressed with work and utterly exhausted. I cried this morning and made him feel even worse=major wife fail on my end.

Bink720 · April 2012

angelsnight:

This! Last summer MH and I went to a local racetrack. We got there at 7 and there was a young couple in front of us with a baby about 6-8 months old.

It's bad enough they brought him there in the first place, it's loud, dirt flies around and it was starting at what probably should have been his bed time. By 9 he looked miserable, they were trying to get him to sleep in their arms but he was fussy (I wonder why) and they kept passing him from family member to family member trying to get him to sleep. They were still there when we left at 11.

The couple looked very young, like still late teens maybe, but I don't think it takes a genious to know a little baby shouldn't be out late and around all that noise, and they were with plenty of family members that should have known better as well. I felt so bad for him.

I think there is a big difference between taking a baby out at night and a toddler or child. At 6 months old DS wouldn't sleep if I wasn't holding him and he only slept in 2 hour chunks. If we put our life on hold to be home for his nap time/bed time we wouldn't have left the house for the first year of his life. We went on with our lives and he was snuggly cuddled up in his baby carrier or carseat. I totally agree that if the child/baby is fussy or disturbing other people they should be removed from a situation out of courtesy, but that doesn't mean someone with an infant has to be home by 7, because they will turn into a pumpkin.

Also, my in-laws are thoroughbred horse breeders/owners. So we spend significant amounts of time at the race track to show support with DS in tow. The racing industry has done a lot to try and make the track a more family oriented place to be. It's not like they took their baby to a strip club. I think saying that a baby shouldn't be at the race track in the first place and the family should have known better is bit over dramatic. IMO.

Bink720 · April 2012

My FFFC is that I check my FF several times a day. I have no idea why. It's like I think that some magic update is going to take place and my CH are magically going to show up with no extra data needed. I know it's silly, but I just keep doing it.

BellaLux · April 2012

mrskitton:

I have been putting on such a facade the past few weeks....smiling and acting all happy for all my friends and family when in reality I have been majorly bumming hard core inside.

Scared....nervous......angry about the next step we have to take in TTC. *Sigh*

I'm sorry mrskitton...all of the emotions are completely understandable! You are in my thoughts and prayers. I sincerely hope this next step will lead to a BFP for you! (((hugs)))

Bink720 · April 2012

keelyd:
Bink720:
My FFFC is that I check my FF several times a day. I have no idea why. It's like I think that some magic update is going to take place and my CH are magically going to show up with no extra data needed. I know it's silly, but I just keep doing it.
Hahahah! I did this for a while, too!

It's those d@mn long cycles Keely! They make you totally neurotic! My subconscious is literally willing my temps to change. lol

BellaLux · April 2012

rrdiva1:

When I went to Target yesterday to get a card for a friend's birthday, I saw the signs for Mother's day and immediately felt like crap. I panicked in my head and had a mini breakdown because I realized it is going to fall on a sunday.

My Confession is I interpret (sign language) at my church at the service time that has a lot of people. 100's. I do not know if I can handle being in front of everyone while they have special mother's day services, praying I don't break down. I actually thought about "skipping service" for that day. I prob. won't,because I know what I do is needed, but I know it will be beyond hard because they usually call all the mothers to the altar to pray for them and it feels like crap when only a few are left.

I feel like I should flame myself, because I am being silly and need to suck it up.

My second confession is as soon as my period is over, I will be back ttc again.

(((hugs)))...it's ok to feel that way, don't flame yourself!

brookelynpaisley · April 2012

keelyd:

kristykay123:
ChancieMark:

I think you are taking it too seriously. KellyRN has been through hell, she can make a joke.

Exactly. It was a joke and wasn't even towards you or the "waiting to do somethig" thread. I think you're taking this a little too much to heart. It was in no way "cold hearted" or trying to be "drama". It was meant to get a good laugh.

I wasn't taking it as an attempt at drama -- I was clarifying that I understand that because things are all in text (and therefore w/o the benefit of all of the cues that come w/ personal interaction and tone of voice) drama starts because of misinterpretations. I also know I was misinterpreting -- but I still found it slightly annoying this morning which is why I put my comment in this thread. I feel no need to start or take part in drama, but I felt like putting my opinion out there this morning.

Shayliz:

I'm sorry you thought it was poking fun at you, I don't think it was. But - I also thought it was a stupid check-in and not funny.

I definitely didn't think it was poking fun at me, but I do appreciate the consideration. I mostly just wasn't in a place to find it humorous yesterday -- and like I said previously, things being in text allow the reader to (mis)interpret intended meaning and tone pretty easily.
jessuhmarie:

FFS, it was about shiit.

So much for being a Flame-free confession.

My confession is that you're being a ginormous baby about this. And nothing is flame-free. Ever.

kellyrn9956 · April 2012

brookelynpaisley:
keelyd:

kristykay123:
ChancieMark:

I think you are taking it too seriously. KellyRN has been through hell, she can make a joke.

Exactly. It was a joke and wasn't even towards you or the "waiting to do somethig" thread. I think you're taking this a little too much to heart. It was in no way "cold hearted" or trying to be "drama". It was meant to get a good laugh.

I wasn't taking it as an attempt at drama -- I was clarifying that I understand that because things are all in text (and therefore w/o the benefit of all of the cues that come w/ personal interaction and tone of voice) drama starts because of misinterpretations. I also know I was misinterpreting -- but I still found it slightly annoying this morning which is why I put my comment in this thread. I feel no need to start or take part in drama, but I felt like putting my opinion out there this morning.

Shayliz:

I'm sorry you thought it was poking fun at you, I don't think it was. But - I also thought it was a stupid check-in and not funny.

I definitely didn't think it was poking fun at me, but I do appreciate the consideration. I mostly just wasn't in a place to find it humorous yesterday -- and like I said previously, things being in text allow the reader to (mis)interpret intended meaning and tone pretty easily.
jessuhmarie:

FFS, it was about shiit.

So much for being a Flame-free confession.

My confession is that you're being a ginormous baby about this. And nothing is flame-free. Ever.

The thread was about poop.

And yes, it was a little poke at the title of the "Waiting to do Something" check-in. The title annoys me because aren't we all waiting to do "something" all the time? Something that I wait to do all too often is poop.

I miss the days when the WTP post wouldn't have even made someone bat an eye, and would have been WAY low on the "snarky" totem pole. If this is the worst that people deal with on the boards, then I'd consider yourselves pretty damn lucky.

Oh, and to update, I still have not taken a shiit today.

luciddreamer106 · April 2012

kellyrn9956:
brookelynpaisley:
keelyd:

kristykay123:
ChancieMark:

I think you are taking it too seriously. KellyRN has been through hell, she can make a joke.

Exactly. It was a joke and wasn't even towards you or the "waiting to do somethig" thread. I think you're taking this a little too much to heart. It was in no way "cold hearted" or trying to be "drama". It was meant to get a good laugh.

I wasn't taking it as an attempt at drama -- I was clarifying that I understand that because things are all in text (and therefore w/o the benefit of all of the cues that come w/ personal interaction and tone of voice) drama starts because of misinterpretations. I also know I was misinterpreting -- but I still found it slightly annoying this morning which is why I put my comment in this thread. I feel no need to start or take part in drama, but I felt like putting my opinion out there this morning.

Shayliz:

I'm sorry you thought it was poking fun at you, I don't think it was. But - I also thought it was a stupid check-in and not funny.

I definitely didn't think it was poking fun at me, but I do appreciate the consideration. I mostly just wasn't in a place to find it humorous yesterday -- and like I said previously, things being in text allow the reader to (mis)interpret intended meaning and tone pretty easily.
jessuhmarie:

FFS, it was about shiit.

So much for being a Flame-free confession.

My confession is that you're being a ginormous baby about this. And nothing is flame-free. Ever.

The thread was about poop.

And yes, it was a little poke at the title of the "Waiting to do Something" check-in. The title annoys me because aren't we all waiting to do "something" all the time? Something that I wait to do all too often is poop.

I miss the days when the WTP post wouldn't have even made someone bat an eye, and would have been WAY low on the "snarky" totem pole. If this is the worst that people deal with on the boards, then I'd consider yourselves pretty damn lucky.

Oh, and to update, I still have not taken a shiit today.

I didn't think it was snarky, just funny.... haha

URMySunshine77 · April 2012

keelyd:
Bink720:
My FFFC is that I check my FF several times a day. I have no idea why. It's like I think that some magic update is going to take place and my CH are magically going to show up with no extra data needed. I know it's silly, but I just keep doing it.
Hahahah! I did this for a while, too!

I do it, too. I'll try to think of any update so I feel more in control.

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