How long did you wait?

ashS10309 · April 2012

Saw this over on the Sept 12 board just thought it was intresting. How long did you wait to sleep with your SO?

I was 16 when I met DH and I think we slept together after a month which sometimes make me feel bad, but he is the only person I have ever slept with so I guess I just had a feeling that I knew we would be together cheesy as it sounds!

CLeigh03 · April 2012

Ah, that is sweet!

Um...................that night. SO OUT OF MY CHARACTER. I was mortified. He called me the next morning (early!) asked me out on a 'proper' date and we were engaged within 10 months and have been married for 8 years. Crazy.

irer · April 2012

It was a really long time ago, so I don't really remember! I want to say after about a month of dating...we were long distance though (he was in Philly and I was in DC) and only saw each other on weekends...so maybe on the 4th weekend? Is it bad I don't remember??

MandeeFoFandee · April 2012

we met when we were 21 and 24, and we slept together about a month after we met. we had several dates within that month and had great chemistry. the funny thing is that HE is the one who wanted to wait that long. HA!

LeanneOfHonour · April 2012

5 years, we waited for our wedding night

SpruceGrouse · April 2012

We waited until we were married. I met him when I was 14, he was18. We got married when I was 21.

morgs8384 · April 2012

I was 18, he was 20. I want to say it was like 2 months.

exc1tedforbaby1 · April 2012

We spend the night together like 4 days later, but that was purely innocent. We were intimate after 2 or 3 weeks. We had intense chemistry, if we both weren't exhausted that one night, it probably would of happened then.

jesslinnn · April 2012

SS: DH and I grew up across the street from each other since 6th grade and were friends. We started "dating" right after we graduated high school.

We were pretty much exclusive but without the title because I was moving 3 hours away to college and didn't know how that would work out. He came to visit me a week after I moved and we had sex for the first time. This went on for a few months until we finally made it 'official'.

So we technically had sex before I considered him my boyfriend, but if we go from when we pretty much started dating, it was 2-3 months.

Archhig · April 2012

I only lasted 3 weeks! when you know you know! we are also the only ones each other has ever slept with!! love that man!

for those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did? I remember thinking how thankful I was that we didnt wait cause that day was already so many NEW things. It felt nice to just be together in a normal way!!

mswood1977 · April 2012

CLeigh03:

Ah, that is sweet!

Um...................that night. SO OUT OF MY CHARACTER. I was mortified. He called me the next morning (early!) asked me out on a 'proper' date and we were engaged within 10 months and have been married for 8 years. Crazy.

Don't feel bad, I have the same answer. We slept together on our first date, we met online had been talking online and over the phone for over a month before we met in person. We moved in togther after about a month and got married 1.5 years after we met. We will be celebrating our 2 year wedding anniversary in June.

alrighthamilton · April 2012

About 48 hours. But we ran within the same social circles for several years, and once we started dating it was like an instant relationship. We moved in together soon after and were married within two years. We will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary this August, 10 days after our first little baby is due to arrive.

sdlaura · April 2012

We had been working together for about six months and had gotten to know each other really well and been going to happy hours together and spending a lot of time in small groups. But we probably only waited till like our 3rd actual date. I was 22 and he was 27, so we've now been together 8 years and married for almost 3.

babypaloozyvan · April 2012

CLeigh03:
Ah, that is sweet!

Um...................that night. SO OUT OF MY CHARACTER. I was mortified. He called me the next morning (early!) asked me out on a 'proper' date and we were engaged within 10 months and have been married for 8 years. Crazy.

THIS! Granted he was one of my close friends for 3 years before that night! However, we moved into together after 3 months and after 4 he told me he wasn't going back to South Africa because he wanted to marry me one day! We have been together 9 years and married 4!

LeanneOfHonour · April 2012

Archhig:
I only lasted 3 weeks! when you know you know! we are also the only ones each other has ever slept with!! love that man!
for those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did? I remember thinking how thankful I was that we didnt wait cause that day was already so many NEW things. It felt nice to just be together in a normal way!!

So, so glad It was the perfect decision for us. Tough to make it 5 years, but we did!

awakenedoleander · April 2012

CLeigh03:
Ah, that is sweet!

Um...................that night. SO OUT OF MY CHARACTER. I was mortified. He called me the next morning (early!) asked me out on a 'proper' date and we were engaged within 10 months and have been married for 8 years. Crazy.

Haha, this was me too! Well technically it was a week after I met him, but we definitely fooled around the night we met. I was trying to be rebellious and not a good girl for once. Who knew I would end marrying him 4 years later? haha

Archhig · April 2012

LeanneOfHonour:
Archhig:
I only lasted 3 weeks! when you know you know! we are also the only ones each other has ever slept with!! love that man!
for those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did? I remember thinking how thankful I was that we didnt wait cause that day was already so many NEW things. It felt nice to just be together in a normal way!!

So, so glad It was the perfect decision for us. Tough to make it 5 years, but we did!

That is so cute! I am impressed 5 years is a long time that is amazing! the best part is you two for sure had some amazing sexual tension built up for the big night! I love it!

LeanneOfHonour · April 2012

Archhig:
LeanneOfHonour:
Archhig:
I only lasted 3 weeks! when you know you know! we are also the only ones each other has ever slept with!! love that man!
for those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did? I remember thinking how thankful I was that we didnt wait cause that day was already so many NEW things. It felt nice to just be together in a normal way!!

So, so glad It was the perfect decision for us. Tough to make it 5 years, but we did!
That is so cute! I am impressed 5 years is a long time that is amazing! the best part is you two for sure had some amazing sexual tension built up for the big night! I love it!

PLUS we get to make up for lost time

sadeathe · April 2012

Archhig:
I only lasted 3 weeks! when you know you know! we are also the only ones each other has ever slept with!! love that man!
for those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did? I remember thinking how thankful I was that we didnt wait cause that day was already so many NEW things. It felt nice to just be together in a normal way!!

We waited until we got married; I was 25 and he was 28. It felt natural to be together; he was a little nervous, but I wasn't. It was good to know we learned about sex together and that it is our own little personal paradise.

smiller3106 · April 2012

I made him wait a month because I thought he was a ladies man. We were both 20, turns out he wasn't a ladies man, only this lady's man.

punkrockabye · April 2012

Well, if you say "sleep together," we slept in the same bed whenever we had the opportunity, and we got our first place together 2 years before we got married. If you say "have sex," we had sex on our wedding night, which was our 6th anniversary. Just a combination of not really caring about it either way, and the fact that we did plenty of other things that did not involve penis in vagina sex. We just felt like waiting for no particular reason.

I'm verging on asexual, though. No real desire for actual sex even though I am not opposed to it. That one has been fun to explain to doctors who insist on knowing what I will use for birth control after I give birth, because "I have no desire for sex, so... no sex is a pretty good contraceptive" is not something they believe. Then again, I know a lesbian who couldn't get a doctor to believe that "sex with women" was her personal form birth control; so it's not like I think doctors will acknowledge a genuine lack of interest in sex as an actual thing!

garciasgal · April 2012

DH and I were friends through a friend for a month or so. Then I got a job where he worked so we became friends (had lunch together, hung out outside of work, etc). We were "friends" like that for awhile until I finally admitted we were more. I think we only waited a month from when we figured that out. I was 22, he was 25.

After then we moved in together like 6 months later, bought a house 5 months later and got engaged like 7 months later! We've been married now for 7.5 months, so needless to say we move fast!

vic8504 · April 2012

We waited 5 years until we were married. We started dating at 18. We did mess around during that time, that started about 2 months after we were "officially together". He would of probably started having sex at that same time, but was respectful of me wanting to wait.

Archhig · April 2012

LeanneOfHonour:
Archhig:
LeanneOfHonour:
Archhig:
I only lasted 3 weeks! when you know you know! we are also the only ones each other has ever slept with!! love that man!
for those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did? I remember thinking how thankful I was that we didnt wait cause that day was already so many NEW things. It felt nice to just be together in a normal way!!

So, so glad It was the perfect decision for us. Tough to make it 5 years, but we did!
That is so cute! I am impressed 5 years is a long time that is amazing! the best part is you two for sure had some amazing sexual tension built up for the big night! I love it!

PLUS we get to make up for lost time

ABSOLUTELY!! I always thought I would wait and I caved extremely fast! its so funny how whats good for some is different for others! I love that you guys waited that long!

Archhig · April 2012

sadeathe:
Archhig:
I only lasted 3 weeks! when you know you know! we are also the only ones each other has ever slept with!! love that man!
for those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did? I remember thinking how thankful I was that we didnt wait cause that day was already so many NEW things. It felt nice to just be together in a normal way!!
We waited until we got married; I was 25 and he was 28. It felt natural to be together; he was a little nervous, but I wasn't. It was good to know we learned about sex together and that it is our own little personal paradise.

At least that nervousness goes away quick! that is awesome you guys waited that long!

daniellelovesjacob · April 2012

I started dating my husband when we were both 16. I think we dated around 5 months before having sex. It was both of our first time. Sometimes I wish we would have waited longer because looking back 16 seems so young but I don't regret it.

LindsayDesigner · April 2012

Archhig:
For those that waited till the wedding night, are you glad you did?

Yeah! We started dating in January, got engaged in March and then married in August. It seems fast but we knew each other a year before that and we were both 27 when we got married. I think we made up for the "lost time" during our first year or so of marriage.

stever · April 2012

We were friends for a year first, but after we had our first kiss we slept together in a matter of days.

mrs mosby · April 2012

I think we waited 2 weeks. We met in college when I was 20 and he was 21.

HoneyBunn24 · April 2012

DH and I had an on again off again high school relationship until March of 2004. We decided to be more serious and so we dated and now we are married. I made (it was all my choice really...DH knew I wanted to wait until I was sure) DH wait until sometime in September 2005 before we slept together. I had told DH that I only wanted to be with one person and I wanted to wait until I knew for sure.

Andreabks · April 2012

DH and I made out and such the first night we met, and fooled around some with in a few months, but didn't have sex untill the night we got married a year and a half later. he was a virgin when we got married, and i'd had sex all of 2x with the same guy.

DemoDoll · April 2012

We waited about 2-3 months. We had a mutual friend and would hang out at his pad all weekend and sleep in the same bed after dating for only 2 weeks. I was 20 and he was 25 at the time.

delaneykai · April 2012

We had been dating for 11 months. He was 22 and I was 1 month away from being 22. He was my first partner, so even though I was ready sooner, he wanted to wait because he knew how important it was to me.

) It was an amazing experience and I'm glad that he'll be my only partner ever.

)

jlrschmidt · April 2012

It was only about a week. I think a pp used the term slore? lol. It was our second date and totally out of my character, but I guess it worked out since we've been together for 8 years, and married for almost 2!

JayandEmm · April 2012

I was 21, he was 23. We had been dating for 6 or 7 months.

We went to his apt early in the evening right before his roommate got home from work, but roommate got home earlier than planned and totally busted in on us having sex. He opened up the door and said "whats up?" And then proceeded to stand at the doorway while H is throwing shoes at him yelling "Shut the freaking door, man!"

It was so romantic. Lol.

nataliegrace06 · April 2012

We waited about 10 months. I had just turned 16 & he was 18. I hadn't been ready before that time.

ken&jennifer · April 2012

ekk - we were pretty quick the first time, within a few weeks, but then did our best to wait until we were married. There may have been one or two slip ups

Mrs. Rohde · April 2012

DH and I had been dating about 9 months before we had sex. I was 16 and he was 15 (almost 16). Wesplit up while still in HS then got back together in college. Though we dated other people it never lasted too long and we've only ever had sex with each other.

lady_tytah · April 2012

After 6 months, I was ready before then. Were together for 5 yrs. Engaged for 13 months.

rels09 · April 2012

Scout2005:
We were 19 and 20, and had been friends for a year or so (we lived in the same dorm) before dating.
We waited a couple of months. And I admit, that wasn't my idea, I was ready two weeks in to the whole thing. I'm such a slore.

Pretty much all of this exactly! Except we only waited about a month, maybe 6 weeks. That will be 10 years ago this fall.

nduquette23 · April 2012

Both 25, and *gasp* slept together before we were official, about a month into dating. We officially dated 2 months, got engaged, moved in together and were married that year....so out of character for me, but I KNEW.

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