I normally brag about DH but he really screwed today

morethancottoncandy · April 2012

dragossoul84:

I CANNOT order take out I am on a very strict diet because of my health concerns right now. Most take out is very fatty and even if it isnt if some one screws up and puts what I cant have in I get violently ill.

Quite frankly, I don't think there is any pleasing you Confused

gracefulash · April 2012

I think you should pull the stick out of your ass and beat him with it.

JFluvsJD80 · April 2012

mdharrison:
kellbelle618:
kjem182:

I'm still so confused by these responses! Are you guys really ok with your husbands making you a bowl of cereal for dinner and calling it a day, simply because 'he's a man'? If I were feeling terrible, that's when I would hope my dh would really step up and bring his A-game. More than a bowl of cereal, please!

Do you really not have higher expectations of your partner in life, that a burnt meal is the best they can do and just because they tried, it's ok? I just can't imagine having a husband that would do that when I was feeling so badly. Are men exempt from meal preparation expectations because of their gender?

My husband would never make me a bowl of cereal. And FWIW, my DH generally is a pretty good cook. However, I don't see the point of jumping all over his @$$ if he burns dinner or the meal doesn't go according to plan. He tried, it didn't work, we can order take out, move on. Nobody is perfect, I have screwed up dinner before too-it happens. I think the OP is being ridiculously overdramatic.
Same.

Me, too. I don't think anyone's trying to play the "man" card. It's an honest mistake. Sheesh.

Christina_Diane · April 2012

Right about now I am very grateful for my husband. He is the cook and he helps out around the house probably more than I do.

emoxymoose · April 2012

Since when is sausage a no-fat diet?...actually since when has anyone been able to eat "no fat"?

amoerizzle · April 2012

First off, I'm amazed that everyone has responded so nicely to you. I think you are not only being a major brat, but are being way too dramatic about the situation. Your husband messing up dinner is not life or death. Grow the eff up and order take out.

Also, learn how to use a period. As if your postings weren't idiotic enough, having to stoop myself to your second-grade writing level is making it that much harder to have any sympathy towards you.

Your poor, poor husband...

smacb · April 2012

I feel bad for your DH. COntrolling much? Lighten up on the poor guy.

allisonmarie22 · April 2012

Whatever happened to the "it's the thought that counts" theory? Just be glad he made the effort. I guess it's just too bad that not everyone can be as perfect as you. If I were your husband I'd tell you to get off your ass and do it your d@mn self.

mattnrachel · April 2012

Sounds like he's had enough of your nit-picky ash, and now he's out to commit passive-aggressive murder by spaghetti. I mean, after all, he has TWO bachelor's degrees, so he must be up to something.

KatelynEA90 · April 2012

I think you're being completely ridiculous. No one tried pulling the 'he's a man, give him a break!' card. Having 2 bachelors has nothing to do with being able to cook. Einstein was a genius and couldn't tie his shoes. My BIL has a masters degree but that doesn't mean he knows how to bake a cake. My SIL is about to have a PhD and she's a complete airhead. She also doesn't know how to cook. My dad doesn't have any degrees and he's an amazing cook. A friend of mine is an RN but she'll burn your house down making mac'n'cheese. Unless his degrees involve cooking, I don't see how that relates.

I'm also having a hard time believing that you're in such a life or death situation but still went to the store anyways. Have PB&J or some soup. I can't imagine you putting your child's life in danger because you don't want to eat soup again.

I'm not the best cook but I'm so happy that my DH doesn't treat me the way you are treating your DH. Accidents happen. Get over it. My DH cooks a lot, that doesn't mean he doesn't screw it up every now and again. He tried, he failed. Move on. I hope he treats you this way the next time you screw something up.

Ashleydia · April 2012

mattnrachel:
Sounds like he's had enough of your nit-picky ash, and now he's out to commit passive-aggressive murder by spaghetti. I mean, after all, he has TWO bachelor's degrees, so he must be up to something.

This is awesome and made me laugh Big Smile

joleine · April 2012

dragossoul84:
I dont think its nit picky to expect a man with two bachelors to handle box pasta when with a pregnancy that is turning out to border life and death for me he cant even make enough for either of us or go to the store with a list of two items I just told him and come back with the right two items. He screwed it up so bad I had to make everything a second time and by myself. I'm just so angry right now. I dont see how just trying to go to the store should win him a medal I am on bed rest and I still have to get up and go to the store because he cant do it. I feel like he can play video games and google walkthroughs and cheat codes he can make us pasta and go to the store once alone. I really want to cry right now I'm angry and frustrated and confused. Now I dont even want the stupid dinner I had to make.

Are his bachelors degrees in cooking? If not, then cut the guy a break.. He's just trying to help. Who knows, maybe he messed up the dinner on purpose because his wife is a naggy ***.

slowden86 · April 2012

blah blah blah, its all about me me me is all I am hearing. Wake up and realize your lucky enough to have a husband who tried, and get over yourself for once. If my husband treated me the way you are talking about yours I would have walked a long time ago.

joleine · April 2012

kjem182:
I'm still so confused by these responses! Are you guys really ok with your husbands making you a bowl of cereal for dinner and calling it a day, simply because 'he's a man'? If I were feeling terrible, that's when I would hope my dh would really step up and bring his A-game. More than a bowl of cereal, please!
Do you really not have higher expectations of your partner in life, that a burnt meal is the best they can do and just because they tried, it's ok? I just can't imagine having a husband that would do that when I was feeling so badly. Are men exempt from meal preparation expectations because of their gender?

My husband has a lot of fantastic qualities, cooking a gourmet meal, or really anything other than mac and cheese and hot dogs, is not one of them. I accept this about him and move on. There are things that I am not capable of doing and he can, and he accepts that. So yes, I am OK with him making me what he can to get by and if that's a bowl of cereal, than so be it. It has nothing to do with gender, it has to do with what we know and don't know how to do. Hooray for you for having a husband that is more domestic than the rest of ours... I dated a guy for a year who did all of the laundry, cooking and cleaning.. But in the rest of his life he was a complete douchebag, so I learned to pick my battles early on with this one

ateal2490 · April 2012

You're being a brat.

MaggieF516 · April 2012

Wow...I think a lot of people would be grateful to just see that their significant other put effort in to make dinner. So what if he isn't a great cook. I was awful the first few times I tried to make a dinner. I am also pretty sure I would be awful if I tried to do half of the things my boyfriend does to keep the house going like yardwork, cleaning the cars, fixing things, etc.

khagan9368 · April 2012

cwm11985:
dragossoul84:
kellbelle618:
kjem182:

I'm still so confused by these responses! Are you guys really ok with your husbands making you a bowl of cereal for dinner and calling it a day, simply because 'he's a man'? If I were feeling terrible, that's when I would hope my dh would really step up and bring his A-game. More than a bowl of cereal, please!
Do you really not have higher expectations of your partner in life, that a burnt meal is the best they can do and just because they tried, it's ok? I just can't imagine having a husband that would do that when I was feeling so badly. Are men exempt from meal preparation expectations because of their gender?
My husband would never make me a bowl of cereal. And FWIW, my DH generally is a pretty good cook. However, I don't see the point of jumping all over his @$$ if he burns dinner or the meal doesn't go according to plan. He tried, it didn't work, we can order take out, move on. Nobody is perfect, I have screwed up dinner before too-it happens. I think the OP is being ridiculously overdramatic.

I CANNOT order take out I am on a very strict diet because of my health concerns right now. Most take out is very fatty and even if it isnt if some one screws up and puts what I cant have in I get violently ill.

Hold up. How is you having pasta with sauce and bread all that different from you eating a simple pizza? I've NEVER heard of pasta being part of a "very strict diet." hmmm...

Why didn't you just ask for a can of soup- surely you were aware of your husband's culinary skills before tonight?
And lastly, give it up. NBD!!! In the grand scheme of things do you REALLY care that he messed up pasta tonight?! Geez.

THANK YOU! What a crock, oh yeah pasta and Italian bread is a real healthy dinner, pshhh

dragossoul84 · April 2012

For everyone that says get take out I have mentioned multiple times I can't have take out. I never complained about the quality of food its that he put no effort into making it including not making enough. I normally manage everything for us and expected him to step up for one night and help out. I mention his degrees because when he wants something it doesnt matter how hard he has to work but he cant manage 2 portions of pasta and getting the two items on the list? I am so far from a brat its funny. I'm the one that takes care of our estate instead of hiring staff to do the work for us. My husband has since apologized admitting he was being lazy.

slowden86 · April 2012

MelRC117:
dragossoul84:
kellbelle618:
kjem182:

I'm still so confused by these responses! Are you guys really ok with your husbands making you a bowl of cereal for dinner and calling it a day, simply because 'he's a man'? If I were feeling terrible, that's when I would hope my dh would really step up and bring his A-game. More than a bowl of cereal, please!

Do you really not have higher expectations of your partner in life, that a burnt meal is the best they can do and just because they tried, it's ok? I just can't imagine having a husband that would do that when I was feeling so badly. Are men exempt from meal preparation expectations because of their gender?

My husband would never make me a bowl of cereal. And FWIW, my DH generally is a pretty good cook. However, I don't see the point of jumping all over his @$$ if he burns dinner or the meal doesn't go according to plan. He tried, it didn't work, we can order take out, move on. Nobody is perfect, I have screwed up dinner before too-it happens. I think the OP is being ridiculously overdramatic.

I CANNOT order take out I am on a very strict diet because of my health concerns right now. Most take out is very fatty and even if it isnt if some one screws up and puts what I cant have in I get violently ill.
and sausage isn't fatty??

Well duh its not it comes from magical box in a special place!

kategw · April 2012

I think he's a genius. He keeps screwing things up so he can leave the house and get away from you in an effort to "fix it." Get over yourself, he tried.

lizby · April 2012

You're probably kicking yourself for ever creating this thread I'd imagine.

Sherbet Lemon · April 2012

dragossoul84:
I'm sick and exhausted woke up with a cold so I was trying to hide out today. Asked him to make dinner. 33 years old this man screwed up every aspect of dinner, asked me what to do at certain points and did the opposite. He goes to the store picks up all the wrong stuff cooks the wrong amount of pasta. Gets the wrong kind of sausage and even though the italian bread is buy one get one free he only picks up one just throwing money away. How is it at 33 with two bachelors degrees from a very good school he can't make pasta out of a box warm some jarred sauce and pick 2 items out of the freaking store correctly.

Going back to the OP to point out how ridiculous all of this is.

1) Sausage has both fat and sodium.

2) He (or you) can always boil some more water and cook some more pasta. It takes all of 15 minutes, start to finish.

3) Do the 2 of you really need more than 1 loaf of italian bread? Even if your grocery doesn't do 1 for 1/2 price on a buy 1 get one free special, this is hardly a mortal sin.

It's fine to be frustrated and overreact to a situation. Getting angry at posters here because they call you out on overreacting is just proof that you're being an immature brat about the situation. He messed up. You were frustrated. Now get over it. It seems like if he went to the store and made the food (regardless of amount and quality) he did put in effort here. I mean, honestly, do you think he purposely cooked less than enough food or bought the wrong kind of sausage? Highly unlikley.

joleine · April 2012

dragossoul84:
For everyone that says get take out I have mentioned multiple times I can't have take out. I never complained about the quality of food its that he put no effort into making it including not making enough. I normally manage everything for us and expected him to step up for one night and help out. I mention his degrees because when he wants something it doesnt matter how hard he has to work but he cant manage 2 portions of pasta and getting the two items on the list? I am so far from a brat its funny. I'm the one that takes care of our estate instead of hiring staff to do the work for us. My husband has since apologized admitting he was being lazy.

If he's incapable of managing a meal while you're on life or death bedrest, then hire someone to cook, since your estate is so large and all.

Sherbet Lemon · April 2012

dragossoul84:
For everyone that says get take out I have mentioned multiple times I can't have take out. I never complained about the quality of food its that he put no effort into making it including not making enough. I normally manage everything for us and expected him to step up for one night and help out. I mention his degrees because when he wants something it doesnt matter how hard he has to work but he cant manage 2 portions of pasta and getting the two items on the list? I am so far from a brat its funny. I'm the one that takes care of our estate instead of hiring staff to do the work for us. My husband has since apologized admitting he was being lazy.

HAHAHAHA.... I'm sorry. Did you just say that not hiring staff to take care of your estate is proof of not being a brat?

That is all.

PrincessFiona9 · April 2012

Pretty sure she isn't the one who was having sausage...I think it was some other poster talking about her DH making sausage frattatas something or the other.

I wasn't on bedrest, but I had bad GB issues when I was pregnant, had no one to take care of me at all so was cooking, cleaning, caring for my dog and preparing for LO by myself. I considered myself extremely lucky and was very grateful for any break I could get. If he only cooked one serving of pasta, why didn't you just eat it and let him go get fast food for himself?

gracefulash · April 2012

dragossoul84:
For everyone that says get take out I have mentioned multiple times I can't have take out. I never complained about the quality of food its that he put no effort into making it including not making enough. I normally manage everything for us and expected him to step up for one night and help out. I mention his degrees because when he wants something it doesnt matter how hard he has to work but he cant manage 2 portions of pasta and getting the two items on the list? I am so far from a brat its funny. I'm the one that takes care of our estate instead of hiring staff to do the work for us. My husband has since apologized admitting he was being lazy.

this is starting to sound like MUD.

allisonmarie22 · April 2012

Your estate? This is getting more and more funny and ridiculous.

kellbelle618 · April 2012

AshleyMichelle06:
Pretty sure she isn't the one who was having sausage...I think it was some other poster talking about her DH making sausage frattatas something or the other.

I wasn't on bedrest, but I had bad GB issues when I was pregnant, had no one to take care of me at all so was cooking, cleaning, caring for my dog and preparing for LO by myself. I considered myself extremely lucky and was very grateful for any break I could get. If he only cooked one serving of pasta, why didn't you just eat it and let him go get fast food for himself?

Her OP stated that sausage was part of the meal. And for the record OP, there are plenty of take out options that are not high fat, high sodium, etc and are much healthier then this meal that you are whining about. Put on your BGP and grow up.

laoch101 · April 2012

kjem182:
I'm still so confused by these responses! Are you guys really ok with your husbands making you a bowl of cereal for dinner and calling it a day, simply because 'he's a man'? If I were feeling terrible, that's when I would hope my dh would really step up and bring his A-game. More than a bowl of cereal, please!
Do you really not have higher expectations of your partner in life, that a burnt meal is the best they can do and just because they tried, it's ok? I just can't imagine having a husband that would do that when I was feeling so badly. Are men exempt from meal preparation expectations because of their gender?

totally agree with this!

Thank god my man does not have this problem. I understand your frustration especially if you walked him thru it. I think your frustration come from him being lazy and playing games all the time. He should have stepped up a bit more to take care of you. It also depends on his attitude, was he trying to help or did he just do cause you had to nag him to do it.

I would call a friend over to help you prepare some meals ahead of time. And by you I mean him.

gracefulash · April 2012

how are you on bedrest for adoption?

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/58324692.aspx

khagan9368 · April 2012

gracefulash:
how are you on bedrest for adoption?
https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/58324692.aspx

So basically the OP is some sad lunatic posting about a fake DH (who sucks at everything) a fake estate and a fake baby. Awesome

dragossoul84 · April 2012

Yes sausage was part of the meal it was for him I asked him to get it from the store and he screwed it up. We arent going to eat two loaves I just hate throwing money away. I grew up very poor and he comes from money. I would freeze the other loaf.

kellbelle618 · April 2012

dragossoul84:
Yes sausage was part of the meal it was for him I asked him to get it from the store and he screwed it up. We arent going to eat two loaves I just hate throwing money away. I grew up very poor and he comes from money. I would freeze the other loaf.

If the sausage was for him, why do you care if he screwed it up? Just seems like NBD and he screwed up his own meal.

ColoRxGirl · April 2012

dragossoul84:
For everyone that says get take out I have mentioned multiple times I can't have take out. I never complained about the quality of food its that he put no effort into making it including not making enough. I normally manage everything for us and expected him to step up for one night and help out. I mention his degrees because when he wants something it doesnt matter how hard he has to work but he cant manage 2 portions of pasta and getting the two items on the list? I am so far from a brat its funny. I'm the one that takes care of our estate instead of hiring staff to do the work for us. My husband has since apologized admitting he was being lazy.

Oh, thank you. Thank you for this. I'm LMAO over here. This whole thread is so full of FAIL, I don't even know where to begin.

First, there's nothing "healthy" or gall-bladder friendly about a carb-loaded meal of pasta and bread with a side of sausage. Maybe try some whole grain, high fiber foods, along with fruits, veggies, and lean proteins.

Second, you admitted your own problem above - you manage "everything" around your "estate" (oh, man, I am going to chuckle this baby out on that one, I swear). Big shocker your DH can't boil spaghetti. Why didn't you just eat the partial serving he prepared so you didn't starve, and send him back to the kitchen to try again? Instead, you get pissy, violate your doctor's orders to prove a point and go cook yourself. Well, yay for you.

Your husband's education level is immaterial here. Many intelligent, privileged people don't know their way around a kitchen - sounds like your husband is one of them. I have zero sympathy for you. If you have an "estate" and you've been so incapacitated by this pregnancy and it's complications, the intelligent thing to do would have been to hire some help around the house.

Guess what?? This is just a taste of what's to come. What the heck is your plan after delivery? You all are gonna starve if you don't make some plans now.

jennyann28 · April 2012

khagan9368:
gracefulash:
how are you on bedrest for adoption?
https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/58324692.aspx
So basically the OP is some sad lunatic posting about a fake DH (who sucks at everything) a fake estate and a fake baby. Awesome

Yep, and in another post, she mentions she's on Medicaid. Tell me, OP, how do you get the government to approve your Medicaid whilst managing your estate?

Sherbet Lemon · April 2012

dragossoul84:
Yes sausage was part of the meal it was for him I asked him to get it from the store and he screwed it up. We arent going to eat two loaves I just hate throwing money away. I grew up very poor and he comes from money. I would freeze the other loaf.

So you're upset he bought the wrong sausage for himself when you weren't going to eat it anyhow? Why do you even care what kind of sausage he eats? Keep posting - please. This just gets more amusing with every new twist you add.

dragossoul84 · April 2012

There is nothing fake about my child. My DH and I were in the process of adopting we didnt think our pregnancy would last full term we had five miscarriages prior and were sure we wouldnt be able to have our own child through myself giving birth. We will still be adopting after LO is a year old since had already paid our adoption fees. We do live on an estate we have a small barn, 4 horse stable, pond, gunite pool, pool house with half bath, and then a main house which is 3300 sqft including a nursery addition we built and several acres of land. I hate the idea of hiring staff that is what his family does. I take great pride in taking care of my home until I got to sick to on my own and expecting him to step up and successfully make a meal every once in awhile is not out of order. DH even agreed he was being a jerk about the way he was behaving about dinner.

dragossoul84 · April 2012

Sherbet Lemon:
dragossoul84:
Yes sausage was part of the meal it was for him I asked him to get it from the store and he screwed it up. We arent going to eat two loaves I just hate throwing money away. I grew up very poor and he comes from money. I would freeze the other loaf.

So you're upset he bought the wrong sausage for himself when you weren't going to eat it anyhow? Why do you even care what kind of sausage he eats? Keep posting - please. This just gets more amusing with every new twist you add.

He bought the type of sausage he wouldnt like he hates hot food so instead of sweet italian he bought hot it was a waste of money. I hate wasting money that is why it bothered me it is a waste of money and food for no reason other than he didnt like having to cook for once so he was going to make it as hard as possible

gracefulash · April 2012

dragossoul84:
There is nothing fake about my child. My DH and I were in the process of adopting we didnt think our pregnancy would last full term we had five miscarriages prior and were sure we wouldnt be able to have our own child through myself giving birth. We will still be adopting after LO is a year old since had already paid our adoption fees. We do live on an estate we have a small barn, 4 horse stable, pond, gunite pool, pool house with half bath, and then a main house which is 3300 sqft including a nursery addition we built and several acres of land. I hate the idea of hiring staff that is what his family does. I take great pride in taking care of my home until I got to sick to on my own and expecting him to step up and successfully make a meal every once in awhile is not out of order. DH even agreed he was being a jerk about the way he was behaving about dinner.

quick thinker.

DruidPrincess · April 2012

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