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kelly321
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BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
f/u on yesterday's "why wait" post - what did the dr.s say?
kelly321
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Just curious about those of you who were going to talk to your dr today. I met with my new OB (a-ma-zing), and she told me 3 months. I drew a breath to ask why, and she smiled and said, "Are you going to ask why?" I said yes and she said the following:
It's not evidence-based. There is no scientific evidence saying that you need to wait to TTC again, but most doctors recommend it. She said that it allows your body to build up the nutrition levels it needs for another pregnancy, and it allows you to grieve your baby and not try to "replace it" with a new pregnancy. She said to not worry at all if I get pregnant right away again, though.
And the best news for me personally - I will probably not need a D&C!! :-)
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
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Re: f/u on yesterday's "why wait" post - what did the dr.s say?
I'm glad you got good news at your appointment!
As for your doctor's advice and reasoning behind why to wait or not wait, I just want to say one thing. There are a lot of women who come and go on this board who take everything said here as truth...as their own personal truth at that.
I guess my point is...just because your doctor says it is okay to get pregnant right away, that doesn't mean that it is okay for everyone in every situation. The common piece of advice that everyone here needs to listen to is: Listen to YOUR doctor.
If your doctor says wait 1 month, wait 3 months, wait 6 months, whatever, then do what they say. Ask questions. Ask a lot of questions. Be your own advocate. And if you don't agree then get a second opinion.
But don't ever take the medical advice of so and so's doctor.
OP, I'm not trying to step on your toes. And I hope I'm not coming across that way. I know you weren't telling everyone that they didn't need to listen to their doctors but I just fear that some of the ladies here will read that and decide that they don't need to have that conversation with their own doctor...hope that makes sense.
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BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
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Thanks to both of you for clarifying. In yesterday's post I mentioned that I had heard a lot of reasons for waiting but couldn't find any scientific studies backing it all up. A couple of us had appointments today and agreed to really ask our doctors why wait and then report back.
I completely agree that each woman needs to listen to her doctor. If she disagrees with her doctor, then she should ask a lot of questions and get a second opinion and not turn to the internet to override her doctor's advice.
For me it was just reassuring to hear that there was no scientific evidence that conceiving soon after a m/c has a higher chance of leading to another m/c. As a PP said, medical doctors who rarely see us are hardly qualified to give individualized advice on how we should handle our emotions. I feel emotionally ready to try again asap, and I know that I eat a well-balanced diet, so nutrition shouldn't be an issue. I will wait a cycle and see how I feel then, but based on my dr's reasoning for why 3 months are usually recommended, I would say that it doesn't apply to me, which she validated by telling me it would be ok if I got pregnant again sooner than 3 months (but honestly, just because I want to TTC sooner doesn't mean I'll get pregnant before 3 months!).
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
BFP 2/17/12 EDD 10/24/12 MM/C 3/22/12 D&C 3/27, 4/4, 4/9
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I agree with the advise of listening to one's own Dr. Everyone's situation is different. We are all in different states of health, have different nutrition, different histories, etc.
I was told to wait 2 months- 1 for physical healing & the next to continue my emotional recovery. Let's be real, as much as no one wants to hear it (including me), when you TTC again you have to be ready to face another loss. It's scary, but true.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
Thanks, Kelly for the info. I haven't been able to talk to my OB yet--went in for follow up labwork (ugh, HCG levels still high--might need a D&C
) but she was in a delivery). Waiting for a phone call today.
That is great news that you got from yours, but I also completely agree with LauraKat that everyone's MC is different, everyone's body is different and therefore everyone's situation is different and each doctor's recommendations have taken that into account.
Wishing you luck on your journey!!! Thanks for the f/u post
** BFP #1 - M/C at 6 weeks 4/13/2012 **
** BFP #2 - expecting a little leprechaun!! EDD 3/21/13 | HB 7/30/2012 (6w3d) **
NT Scan 9/4 - looked great! | Grow, baby, grow!!! | A/S 10/29
***All AL always welcome***
I AGREE 100%!!! No one knows you better than your Dr and some Dr's give their recommendations on how long to wait on a case by case basis based on your history and miscarriage ( natural vs. d&C... complicated/uncomplicated, etc) .... It is very important to have that discussion with your dr and ask the rationale behind the length of time for the wait he/she is recommending....