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Annoying...

2BMrsMcW2BMrsMcW member
in January 2012 Moms

I have a co-worker who is hoping to begin TTC within the next few months. She constantly wants to talk to me about my pregnancy and what my baby is doing, how he's developing. I would be ok with this if she wasn't telling me what to do, or what her mom (who works in a hospital, but I have no idea what she does) thinks.

First, I was induced at 41 weeks. She told me that her mom said it wasn't healthy and where she works if you hadn't gone into labor by 40 weeks, they did NOT let you go more than a day or 2 past. It must amaze her that my child was born perfectly healthy and is that happiest baby I have ever seen.

I BF and therefore have to pump 3 times a day a work. I don't talk about it (mainly because all our other co-workers are male and I get the impression it makes them uncomfortable), but when she sees me grab my pump to head downstairs, she can't let me get away without a discussion and telling me how trapped I must feel. She told me how her mom has to encourage BFing where she works, but she doesn't agree with it - that there is no benefit over FF. And she keeps asking me when I am going to stop... uh, when DS wants to stop, or I dry up.

Yesterday, I was talking about how DS usually wakes up around 4:00 am, but it didn't bother me since he goes to sleep between 8 and 9. She asked me when I would start sleep-training him. Why? He falls asleep between 8 and 9 no matter where he is - car seat, RNP, my arms, DH's arms, crib. She told me that he needs to go to sleep at the same time every night in his crib.

I'm so sorry... I completely forgot that she (who has no kids) knows so much more about raising my son than I do. I hesitate to tell her that I (gasp) feed on demand instead of a set schedule! I have been nice enough to indulge her thus far, but I think it's time to constantly "be on the phone" whenever she's around.

 

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Re: Annoying...

  • SoonToBeMsPSoonToBeMsP member
    imageLibraryChica:

    Like you said, be busy. "Excuse me, I need to get to this. Let's talk later." or "You're certainly entitled to your opinion but X works of us, now I need to get back to work."

    Definitely this!

    But sorry you're dealing with her. Sounds annoying :( 

    DD 1.18.2012
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  • julesjarvais65julesjarvais65 member

    I went into labor naturally at 41w5d. She'd be amazed to know that both me and DD are perfectly healthy! People amaze me. I may not be doing things the 'right' way, but right now, it works for us.

    I think you either need to be completely busy, or let her know how you feel. I have basically stuck with the whole, I'm gonna parent my way, you can parents your way, thing.

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