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Polite way to say "no gifts"?

WhiteysWifeyWhiteysWifey member
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I'm doing up the invitations for the triplets Christening and really do not want people to give gifts...is there a particular way to word that?

I'm thinking just "Please no gifts"

the whole "your presence is your present" feels like they should send something if they're not coming.
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Re: Polite way to say "no gifts"?

  • dundasgirldundasgirl

    I have said "no gifts" and people still brought gifts.  I am thinking next time of asking for donations for the food bank or the SPCA...but I have no idea how to word that either.

    I am not into that presence/present sentiment either.

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  • JenCWJenCW member

    I never wanted gifts to be the focus my triplets' events.  To me, it was a lot for people to feel like they needed to bring three gifts.  I know that people (especially in my family) do like to bring something to a party, so the way we do it is..."in lieu of gifts please bring a children's book for donation to a local charity".  Each year we change the donation item and charity.  

    Close relatives and friends still give the boys gifts, but they usually do it privately so that it's not evident at the actual event. 

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  • perry7285perry7285 member
    i've seen lots of people say "no gifts please" so i think it's polite enough. however, i have avoided doing "no gifts please" for events because my experience is that half of the people bring gifts anyway and then those that didn't are embarrassed. the idea of asking for donation to a charity might work better than just "no gifts". however, you might want to consider just letting people bring gifts to pamper you and your LOs--like i said, half of your guests will probably bring gifts anyway and it can cause awkwardness for those that don't.
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  • MBandBudMBandBud member
    I had those that came to DD's baptism write out notes for her to open on her first communion.  Could you maybe say "In lieu of gifts we'll be asking guests during the Christening to write notes for x,y,z to open at their first communion". 
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  • ohiostategalohiostategal member
    I put no gifts on DS birthday party invite (it didn't even occur to me that people brought gifts to baptisms though they did).  I said "No gifts please, all Jax wants is you!"  Not sure that language works for a Christening but I think it works for a birthday party.  FWIW I know that some people will still bring gifts unfortunately.  We won't open any that are brought at the party though.
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