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Two*True
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Vent: I'm being a brat
Two*True
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I need to vent and be a brat for a second. As you all know K is graduating in May and when she does our families will fly out here to celebrate. For at least six months now we've talked about how my parents are going to stay longer than any one else (two weeks) so they can hang out with DD and us. Of course all family was invited to stay as long as they want but no one can really stay more than 5 days anyway.
Well no one except one of K's friend's. We will call her S. S is the my parents age and in many ways was a second mom to K growing up. To K she is family. I've met her several times (she flew out to our wedding and we try to see here when we go to CA) but I don't really know her if that makes sense. Anyway.....S has decided to stay two weeks as well. So she will be here the exact same days as my parents. And she will be staying with us.
I'm bummed and I know I'm being a brat about it which is why I need to vent and get it out. Because S will be here there won't be any time when it's just my parents, me, DW, and DD. I wanted do things like get a sitter so DW and I could take my parents out to a nice restaurant. And we were planning at least a night or two in NYC.
K says that S doesn't have to tag along for everything but I'll feel rude not inviting her. And I know my parents well enough to know they will feel the same way (about it being rude).
My parents have only been out here twice in the six years we've lived here so I was really looking forward to this. I've expressed as much to K and she kinda understands but I also know that this was originally about K's graduation and her family too so I need to suck it up but I don't want to 
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Re: Vent: I'm being a brat
Totally understandable to want some quality, dedicated time with your parents. But there is a bright side to this. You will have a house full of loving supportive members of your "families" and can be truly relaxed and happy. Try to enjoy being able to get so much time with everyone. You never know, the dynamics between "S" and your parents (and you guys as well) may be awesome and you will end up with many fabulous memories of the visit...as will they.
I hope you have a wonderful 2 weeks! Congrats to K as well!
Thanks. And yes, the dynamic could be really fun. Good to see you around here again!
I dont think you're being a brat at all, I would be the same way, and have had similar dynamics with our two sides of the family being in the same place for a limited time.
Is there a way you can schedule some one on one with your family and one and on with "S" so that you don't feel rude leaving her out since you have plans with her, and she'll understand when you go out with your family that its your time- and she can bond with the LO. If alone time with your parents and K, then I would schedule that first. And ask K if she would like to make specific plans with S, like take her out, and your parents can watch the LO. Its a bear to have to schedule more, but I agree, I wouldn't leave it up to chance and things could be awkward if people feel like you are leaving the other out.
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