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ehlersmehlersm member
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I have been having a pretty good week and then I decided to open Facebook. There was a picture of my very pregnant sister-in-law and my mom from Easter. They were holding a tutu my mom bought for their new baby girl. It made me feel so betrayed. She is my mom and I hate the fact that she is celebrating and getting so excited about a new baby with my brother's wife. I feel like I have had give up my family lately to avoid this and I hate it. We've already had to give up so much. I know it is just as much their grandchild as my boys are but it still hurts. I honestly don't know how I am going to get through this baby coming. Thanks for letting me vent, I know this rant sounds kind of selfish but I just had o get it out.
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  • jbranden12jbranden12 member
    I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. It's not selfish. I have a cousin who lives in another state, who we see maybe once a year, who's wife is due when I was. That's hard enough when I see it on fb, I can't imagine if it was someone closer. There's something about family that makes it even harder than if it were just a friend. Knowing that for the rest of our lives, that child will be there, and ours won't. It's really hard. ((big hugs))


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  • Gizu92708Gizu92708 member
    I'm so sorry. That must be so hard to see your mom excited over another baby. You are not being selfish at all. You lost your babies. You miss them and it's so unfair everything that is happening to you. Lots of hugs!
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  • PrettyAccountantPrettyAccountant member

    I am so sorry - it must be horribly hard especially since it is your Mom. This might be your mothers way of handling a very hard situation but that doesn't make it easier for you. You are not selfish - I would feel the same way and I would be hurting as well.

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  • Auki13Auki13 member
    I'm sorry sweetie.  My SIL is due pretty much any day now and it's difficult for me to see.  You are allowed to feel like this after losing your precious little one and we all understand your feelings.  I'm sorry it hurts so much and I hope that it gets easier with time. (hugs)
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  • weddedwifeweddedwife member
    I understand completely how you feel. I feel like I have lost my family & many of my friends in a lot of ways. There is so much that is just hard how, so much that hurts- it has caused me to back away a lot. It's not fair, it sucks. My only advice is to stay away from Facebook for a while. I have not been on in several weeks now & it has helped.
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  • nuttycoconutnuttycoconut member
    That sounds absolutely awful and I would be very upset as well! I'm so sorry you have to go through such a difficult time. Sending strength and hugs! 
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  • littlepenguin2012littlepenguin2012 member

    I am so sorry that you are going through this.  I completely understand how you feel and I don't think you are selfish at all.  

    I also agree about staying off facebook for a while.  I went cold turkey after logging in once and not being able to handle all the baby pictures.  I think it was the best decision for me and I have to say, I really haven't missed it. 

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