I feel like a failure

cyndi72 · April 2012

Had my ultrasound today and the baby died last week at 8w6d. There was no heartbeat. I'm devastated as this was an IVF. I know I did everything right and it was just genetic, but I feel like I failed. Sorry to be leaving this board. Good luck to all!

IdahoLakeLady · April 2012

Oh honey, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. There is nothing that YOU failed at. You did everything you could, and sometimes it just isn't meant to be. Be gentle to yourself! You'll be in my thoughts!

Beezy14 · April 2012

I am so sorry to hear this! T&P for you.

sutherlandjn · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there and I know how incredibly painful and disheartening it is. Take care.

keiral · April 2012

I'm so very sorry to read this and for your loss. Know that it wasn't your fault!! When I had my loss, I found the Miscarriage / Pregnancy Loss board to be very comforting. You may want to check it out. Again, I am so sorry & take care of yourself.

ansi29 · April 2012

So sorry for your loss.

mopsie · April 2012

So sorry for your loss. T&P.

Meagan0528 · April 2012

I am so, so sorry.

billiencorey · April 2012

im so sorry for your loss

-T&P

god bless

bumpuser2669861 · April 2012

So so sorry for your loss. T&Ps for you and your family. I have been through that and it's a very hard time. You did nothing wrong!!!

LuckyMissus · April 2012

So sorry to hear this. Please take it easy on your self. I hope you can find some peace.

Aloe0l · April 2012

So sorry to hear. GL to you and T&P as well.

JulieN0704 · April 2012

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I've been through many losses myself, and I'm so sorry you are going through this. Please don't blame yourself though. There is nothing you could have done. Take care of yourself.

Mnerani · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss

Babydust08 · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. T&P's with you and your family!

abfromva2 · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss.

wagmore · April 2012

Huge hugs. Miscarriage sucks, but don't beat yourself up. Treat yourself well and know that you did what you could. Healing from this can be a long road.

I know what helped me through my last miscarriage was to have the fetus tissue tested for the reason of miscarriage. The results took a couple of weeks but it provided a lot of closure for me.

lciganek1 · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and know there is nothing that you did that caused this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

CTA7 · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. Of course you did nothing wrong. Please take good care of yourself. Sending T&P's your way.

ChristinaDawn · April 2012

You are not a failure first and foremost. Secondly, you'll be in mt T&Ps as you go through this.

LivingItUpInUP · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please do not feel like this was your fault. I know it's very hard to go through, and there are so many emotions that go with this type of loss. I echo what other poster have said to check out the miscarriage/loss board when you feel ready. It helped me to know there were others relating to what I was going through. ((Hugs))

elisabethb29 · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is not your fault. Please do not blame yourself and call yourself a failure, because that is not the case. T&P to you.

kelly321 · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you feel that way. I'm sure in your mind you know there's nothing you could have done differently, but getting that message to your heart is difficult.

JessaPrimate · April 2012

So very sorry for your loss

benoitfan · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. My last pg ended in m/c at 11w. It turned out that my baby had stopped growing at around 7w. It is devastating, but there is nothing you could have done to prevent it. You might want to check out the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board. I found it to be most helpful to have a place to turn full of ladies that get exactly what I was going through. If/when you are ready to try again, the TTCAL board is full of wonderful ladies who have been in your shoes and can totally relate to you. ((HUGS)), please take care of yourself.

BarooGirl · April 2012

keiral:
I'm so very sorry to read this and for your loss. Know that it wasn't your fault!! When I had my loss, I found the Miscarriage / Pregnancy Loss board to be very comforting. You may want to check it out. Again, I am so sorry & take care of yourself.

All of this.

I am so sorry for you loss.

One that that helped me a little when I was feeling the exact same way was when my OB looked me straight in the eye and said "This is not your fault at all, there is no way you could make your self have a mc if you tried".

((hugs))

bluebonnetmeg · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. We found out in our last pregnancy that our baby had a horrible defect called anencephaly. After a lot of testing, it was determined that it was a complete fluke. Nothing I did caused it, and nothing you did or didn't do caused your loss either. ((hugs))

FrickandFrack · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss.

jjmrotek · April 2012

I am so very sorry for your loss!

kellydNC · April 2012

I am so very sorry to hear this. I remember feeling the same way about my body, as if it was a complete failure. I felt this way after the m/c and when undergoing fertility dx/tx, so I understand that its a double whammy. Know that what you are feeling is normal. And its hard. I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and be patient with yourself.

jazzyexpo · April 2012

I'm so so sorry

QuintonsMummah · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss

My heart goes out to you and your family.

greenwl · April 2012

I am sooo sorry for your loss. I felt exactly the same way with my m/c in January. None of this is our faults, but it is difficult not to feel that way when we try to do everything perfectly. Prayers for you and your family.

Spartanmama722 · April 2012

So very sorry for your loss. T&Ps.

cyndi72 · April 2012

Thanks everyone for the support. This is by far the most hardest and most emotional painful thing that has every happened to me. I think I will go in next week for the D&C, they do them on Tues and Thurs. Couldn't bear the thought of going in tomorrow to do it, it's too soon. Again, thank you for love!

HayGirl5 · April 2012

I am so very sorry for your loss.

CarolinaGirl82 · April 2012

I'm so, so sorry

I also did IVF and am so terrified of this happening. I can't imagine how you must be feeling, but I hope you get lots of love and support from your husband, friends and family.