telling employer on FB?

nikkisam14 · April 2012

A coworker of mine is 22 wks pregnant, and although everyone at work suspected she was pregnant, she confirmed it on FB. Our managers saw her post, and that was kind of her way of telling our employer.

They are starting to suspect I am pregnant, because I've been battling m/s, but I have yet to own up to it.

Question: Should I be like my co-worker and post something to FB in a month or so, or should I tell them to their face? (I am planning on posting it to my FB because none of my friends know I'm pregnant either, so that way I can tell my manager indirectly too)

krk949 · April 2012

I would tell them face-to-face the day you post it on fb. You can post it when you get home from work. I am more of a direct person though, so it may be different.

But I would like to find out from you, instead of hearing it on a social networking site. Ultimately it is your choice and you do what you feel comfortable with.

ChristinaDawn · April 2012

You should most definitely tell your boss face to face. I would never think it is ok to tell your employer anythin significant via facebook. I honestly can't believe your coworker did that, that's incredibly unprofessional in my opinion.

Jena503 · April 2012

Please do not let this coworker be your role model.

Unless you are under 18 AND don't know any better, I find what she did to be wildly inappropriate and unprofessional.

LovinLife0710 · April 2012

ChristinaDawn:
You should most definitely tell your boss face to face. I would never think it is ok to tell your employer anything significant via facebook. I honestly can't believe your coworker did that, that's incredibly unprofessional in my opinion.

I agree with this

Kadie331 · April 2012

I told my boss face to face and when we found out it was twins I called him before posting on FB. I didn't think it was an appropriate way for him to find out.

karkissy09 · April 2012

I think it kind of depends on the job also. I would tell face to face, but if I worked part time at say a grocery store, I wouldn't necessarily feel bad not going that route. But if its your lifelong career, its definitely a different story and your boss will respect you more if you do it in person.

kelly321 · April 2012

karkissy09:
I think it kind of depends on the job also. I would tell face to face, but if I worked part time at say a grocery store, I wouldn't necessarily feel bad not going that route. But if its your lifelong career, its definitely a different story and your boss will respect you more if you do it in person.

This. I think what your coworker did should not serve as an example for how you should handle your pregnancy announcement. If I were your boss, I would be pretty ticked that the coworker didn't talk to me since we would need to be discussing maternity leave, etc. It shouldn't be your boss's job to initiate those conversations. You're pregnant, it's your baby, you should be the one starting the conversation to figure out what will happen once the baby arrives.

karencz · April 2012

Definitely face-to-face. FB is fine for people you don't see all the time, but I think you owe your supervisor the courtesey of telling him/her in person.

weebos8 · April 2012

Tell your boss face to face. I think it is a respect thing, and also pretty unprofessional to tell them on FB.

lavet22 · April 2012

ChristinaDawn:
You should most definitely tell your boss face to face. I would never think it is ok to tell your employer anythin significant via facebook. I honestly can't believe your coworker did that, that's incredibly unprofessional in my opinion.

THIS!!!! So unprofessional. If I was your boss, I would have been PISSED that she didn't tell me in person, I can't even imagine the company where that would be acceptable.. You are going to have to talk to him/her face to face anyways to discuss maternity leave, you may as well make that conversation less awkward by telling him/her about the pregnancy face to face.

megs2011 · April 2012

ChristinaDawn:
You should most definitely tell your boss face to face. I would never think it is ok to tell your employer anythin significant via facebook. I honestly can't believe your coworker did that, that's incredibly unprofessional in my opinion.

Absolutely this!

GHBEA · April 2012

While I agree it was unprofessional. I also don't think I would have my boss on my FB friends list. I don't want them knowing every thing going on in my life out side of work.

I also think so what if she posted it to FB and they read it there first. She how ever needs to still go directly to them and let them know face to face.

nikkisam14 · April 2012

LovinLife0710:
ChristinaDawn:
You should most definitely tell your boss face to face. I would never think it is ok to tell your employer anything significant via facebook. I honestly can't believe your coworker did that, that's incredibly unprofessional in my opinion.

I agree with this

I AGREE1!!!!!!!!!!

Wardoing! · April 2012

I have to agree with the other ladies, I would tell them face to face. I had to work out of town last week with my boss and I had to tell him, I'm not very far along but I was so worried about being out at dinners and not drinking, not moving furniture around (I'm an interior designer) and I am SO glad I told him. He was thrilled, and I felt better and didn't have to explain why I was so tired, felt queasy, why I will be late Friday b/c of our first u/s...etc.

No one else in my office knows, they will find out when the rest of the world finds out, but I am really glad I told my boss and I felt like he deserved to be told face to face, we have worked together for 9 years. I would examine the relationship you have with your company but I would suggest only telling your manager.

I totally just rambled on for way too long...sorry!

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