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DH bedsharing while I work overnight?
Does anybody out there bed share, but work overnight sometimes? I work 11pm-730am 1-3 nights per week and I am getting ready to go back to work 
. I have read lots of places that bedsharing should only take place when the mother is in the bed due to the fact that we have more of an instinctual awareness of the baby. My son sleeps in his crib from 7pm until whenever I go to bed and then I bring him to bed with me. He sleeps through the night and is so cuddly, I know he enjoys that time. I am so sad to think about him sleeping all alone in his crib all night when I go back to work. My husband says he feels comfortable with him in bed with him alone, but I am just nervous. Anybody do this?
. I have read lots of places that bedsharing should only take place when the mother is in the bed due to the fact that we have more of an instinctual awareness of the baby. My son sleeps in his crib from 7pm until whenever I go to bed and then I bring him to bed with me. He sleeps through the night and is so cuddly, I know he enjoys that time. I am so sad to think about him sleeping all alone in his crib all night when I go back to work. My husband says he feels comfortable with him in bed with him alone, but I am just nervous. Anybody do this?This discussion has been closed.
Re: DH bedsharing while I work overnight?
Only you and your husband know his sleep habits, and how aware he is while sleeping. I would not be comfortable with it, but my husband sleeps like a log and thrashes around.
Could you sidecar his crib? That way he has his own space, but is still close?
I was not comfortable with that until DS was older. DH is an incredibly involved and sensitive dad, but I have seen him pull up the sheets or fling off a blanket in his sleep without a second thought with DS nearby. I found a "nearby" arrangment more to our liking...DS in his sidecar, DH sleeping in his normal side of the bed (across the bed)--close enough to put a hand on DS, but not his body or covers nearby. Now, DS can "defend" himself, so they cuddle more at night that DS does with me!
More Green For Less Green
This exactly. I really wasn't comfortable with my husband sleeping next to the baby until he could sit up and crawl around on his own.
Yeah, my husband sleeps pretty soundly which is why I was questioning myself in the first place. Unfortunately there is no room to sidecar the crib because our room is pretty small and the dresser is about 2 feet from the bed.
I think it totally depends on the man. I'm perfectly fine with DH cosleeping with my son. He is a light sleeper (at this point, half the time if DS is in the crib I don't even hear him, but my hubby does) and very attached to our son. I think he is just as safe as I am, and now that I'm not nursing at night anymore (hallelujah!), DS ends up cuddling with DH more often than me at night. It is so great to randomly wake up and see them cuddling together.
I went away for a week in January and they slept together then as well. No huhu. But it REALLY depends on your husband.
Oh, and this was the case when DS was really small, too. If he wanted to cuddle and mamma needed to get a bit of decent sleep, DH slept cuddled up with him. There was never a moment's danger for us.
I get up for work and leave by 5am so my hubby sleeps alone with my daughter for about 3-4 hours and its fine. He has been part time co sleeping with her from day one. He is aware of her presence in bed with him. Its ok as long as your hubby knows the safe co sleeping habits!